Friend online...
By fourjems08
@fourjems08 (550)
Philippines
December 12, 2010 8:52am CST
I am just wondering, I hope you guys can help me here. I have a friend online for a year now. When we talk he would say he miss me. And I do too. He said I am special and there's chemistry in us. He admits he's not in love with me but he feels something for me unlike his other female friends. Sometimes he would say he wants to kiss me and have his passion with me. He wanted to meet me in person and we've arranged something. I plan to work in their country after I visit my sister in UK next year. But he disapproves because he believe it would take long before I can go to their country. I don't understand him really. Why is he in a hurry? If you have a friend, wouldn't you wait for him/her for the right time to visit you? And would you want to kiss your friend and have your passion with him/her too?
7 responses
@nicregi (1934)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 10
For me, be careful on such. It is not I don't trust so but it is hard to believe in online stuff. If he reaslly likes you, why don't just be patience? It could be some fishy going on but it could also meant false alarm. If I were you, how about giving him a test? At least better be safe than sorry right?
@fourjems08 (550)
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
I've been asking that same question too. Why was he in a hurry when I have made my plans already? Thanks for the response. Since you mentioned of giving him a test, do you have any idea what kind of test I might do to him to know his real intentions?
@fourjems08 (550)
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
We've been seeing each other through cam since October so I already know the picture he sent to me is him for real. About the financial aid, he is the one interested in sending me money to start a business where we could be partners. The third suggestion would most probably be what I'll do since it would be possible for me to go to his country next year. Thank you niregi. Have a great day too.
@nicregi (1934)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 10
Well, I not sure what type of test should or can be done. Hmm..I not sure but maybe u can start with doing a video call with him and suddenly say ur cam is nt working. This wasy you can check if his real person and phoo he gave is real (if you guys have not done this).
Also if he start asking for financial aid, it is tine for you to bail out. Hands down.
You can try saying you will nt want to change your plan and sorry he have to accept them bla bla bla. I not sure but is worth a try :)
Oh ya, I am here at mylot to help. So you are most welcome and have a great day ok!
@glamgirldoll (313)
• Philippines
13 Dec 10
Hi fourjems08, dont think about relationships first when you're in a far away distance especially when you meet him online. People online sometimes just wants to have friends in the net but dont take it seriously, you dont know what he is up to and what hes background in their country. Theres a lot of things that might happen. My advise to you, slow down your relationship with him.
If he doesn't love you, why is it that he treats you like that? I mean is he just playing with you or is it just his pastime?
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
12 Dec 10
How long ave the two of you waited already? Have you ever met this guy? I think more than two years is to long to wait. People need love to help them carry them through their day. If it's been more than two years, let the guy off the hook so he might find someone else to be happy with.
@fourjems08 (550)
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
We've known each other for a year now. No we're not into LDR. We just wanted to meet in person. But I don't understand his feelings. He said I'm a friend but say things that normal friends don't say to each other.
@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
13 Dec 10
He's in a hurry because distance can affect people's relationship. He's in a hurry because maybe by the time you transfer to his country, he might not be able to do the things he wanted to do to you. He wants to do something physical with you and there is an urgency to that.
If he's not in love with you, but he considers you special, I think it's just lust. But this is just my opinion based on what you're telling me. But I don't want to judge him at all. But if i were you, I will try to make him wait longer and see what kind of relationship are we heading to.
@joystick (1675)
•
12 Dec 10
I would ensur that you are comfortable with all what he is saying that he would like todo with you, before you meet this person, as they may not be all that they appear that they are.I would be concerned to think that what started off as a friend is getting down to wanting todo alot more when they do get to see you.
@fourjems08 (550)
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
Yes that's what I'm thinking right now. We may be friends now but who knows what will happen when we meet? We may do something more that might put me in a complicated situation.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
One thing i'm gonna suggest you is never believe anyone online. It's very easy to lie especially online. Don't do anything anyone says.
