Is your marriage just an Agreement????
By bird123
@bird123 (10643)
United States
December 12, 2010 3:48pm CST
Search your soul. If your marriage is just an agreement, then you can not have your true love. I have a friend who says he and his wife have an agreement. I asked why did he get married. He said because it felt like it was time.
I could never get married just by having an agreement. I must wait for true love. Without true love, something very big is missing. PASSION!!! To me, a marriage or relationship without passion is a waste of everyone's time. I sure won't stick around long. THey probably won't stay together long either. True love might be slow to show up for some but it is well worth the wait. You won't be thinking agreement and contracts. The chemistry, passion, and love will be all you will ever see. TRUE LOVE IS A SPIRITUAL THING!!! tell me what you think.
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13 responses
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
20 Jun 11
I might agree with you, and I am sure that one's true love can't be replaced by a mere agreement. This marriage agreement simply meaningless between two of you, because either one of you simply sign his / her name on it. But the true meaning of it remain unknown. So, find your true love.
@delilahz (26)
• China
8 Jun 11
I just want to say that it is not wise to confuse love with marriage. Marriage is far more than just love. I do believe that love is passion and in no need of lasting. But marriage, out of love and more than love, to certain extent, shares similarities with agreement. Two people made an agreement that no matter what happened in the future they would stay together to support each other. Marriage is a task for all human beings.
@urbandekay (18278)
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10 Apr 11
Before I was married I did not really understand that marriage is not just a long term committed relationship, now I know better
all the best urban
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
13 Dec 10
Marriage is more than an agreement between two people. Marriage is more than just a piece of paper. It is the union and bond of two people for their future. Marriage should be entered into with more than just marriage is an agreement. @kingparker (9673)
• United States
3 Apr 11
I will absolutely agree with you at this point. With a true love, both people simply forcefully stay together under the same roof. They won't be happy for what they are doing, although they see each other every single day. I might consider force myself to like this girl, but I knew that I can not fool myself like that.
@cmang83 (285)
• Malaysia
13 Dec 10
I think marriage is not an agreement but is an recognition and confirmation. I will not getting marry with a girl just because of i want to have an agreement or contract with her.
For me, i married with a girl because of i love her and the love is forever.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
12 Dec 10
My relationship is based on love. My marriage is just a legality. Marriage doesn't define my relationship, it's just a label.
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
13 Dec 10
Marriage is just an agreement. Marriage has nothing to do with love, not really. Marriage is not necessary to have love and love is not necessary to have a marriage. I do agree with you that true love is a spiritual thing, but marriage is only a legal contract.
I wouldn't get married like your friend did, if he did only do it because he "felt it was time" Perhaps he meant something different and you didn't fully understand him. Words mean different things to different people. I don't know what kind of arrangement he has, or what kinds of feelings he has towards his wife, and so I can't judge if his "arrangement" will work.
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
13 Dec 10
Yes, sometimes people do hide what they are really feeling. Maybe my friend doesn't care to admit his feelings. I guess no matter how you dress it up, marriage is no more than a legal contract. It almost comes off cold compared to true love. Thanks for all your comments!!!
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
13 Dec 10
I must believe that true love finds a way somehow but only when the time is right. Once found, true love will stay through any adversity. That is one of the tests of true love. True love will not be all heaven. Your true love is here to help you learn and grow. Sometimes that takes adversity and drama. There is nothing better than true love. Even if the wait is long, never settle for less. Thanks for all your comments!!
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
12 Dec 10
I think it's smart to be aware that agreement is a big part of marriage. I married with only passion, and was hit with reality later, that it put the fire out of my passion. I think you need both equally... marriage is more technical and political than just a relationship or love. It's benefits, money, taxes, human rights, and childrens' rights... you should be aware of this, everyone should. Marriage doesn't define true love.
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
13 Dec 10
I think you are right that marriage doesn't define true love. I guess in a society, we must include the lawyers. I knew a couple that divorced and married at least three times. They are still togther because it is true love. Neither can really leave for long. They have fed a lot of lawyers in their struggles to control each other. True love is simple. You are right. Marriage is a bit more complicated. Thanks for all your comments!!
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
12 Dec 10
I have to agree....whole heartedly! Passion is a must have in a wife/husband relationship. Oh...and there has to be a lot of chemistry. But, one can only wait so long. I don't want to be in my rocking chair...waiting for my true love.
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
12 Dec 10
I know a couple that did just that. True love was wonderful in that rocking chair. I don't think most have to wait that long. Of course, when people give up hope and marry just anyone, isn't that when the mess shows up???? THanks for all your comments!!
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
13 Dec 10
My marriage is an agreement to be faithful, to love, to be honest and to be considerate. As for passion, that came 25 years ago and has taken a path downwards when responsibilities came in. Friendship is here to stay and is growing.
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
13 Dec 10
Should responsibilities really get in the way of chemistry and passion???? I should always hope my relationship runs much deeper than friendship. Maybe it's time to stir the pot. We can't be letting things get dull, now can we???? Thanks for all your comments!!
