Oh I'm sorry; I thought you wanted to have a DISCUSSION

I have noticed many times that certain people are only here to have their egos stroked and petted. Disagree with them or cross them and they behave like wildcats. This happens most often in 'Religion' and 'Politics'. One quickly learns who they are, however, and either avoid their discussions or delight in baiting them . I have to say that I cannot understand why someone will raise a topic for discussion and then blast (and neg) anyone who disagrees with them. Sometimes they will try to reason their point of view (and why one that differs from theirs is wrong) but usually their reasoning is weak or very close-minded and opinionated and all one can do after a certain point is to say "Well, you believe what you believe and I believe what I believe and I can see that we shall never agree." and just avoid those people. One occasionally meets such people in 'real' life, too, (not that MyLot isn't 'real' - it's just that hiding behind a computer screen seems less 'real' or more of a protection for some people) and one quickly learns to avoid them.

Yes i've been criticized for disagreeing in a discussion but, like you, i don't let this sway me from giving my opinion.People are not robots, most of us have strong opinions on certain subjects and shouldn't be afraid to express them in fear that someone may criticize them for this.In my opinion people who ask questions just for the sake of having everyone agree with them are so unsure of their own opinions, they feel the need to have as many people they can get to agree with them and as you mentioned, "will lash out" at anyone who has an opposing view.i believe they're not worth discussing anything with, since there is no give and take in their discussions and should just be avoided.They should realize If they don't like the answer, don't ask the question.

Hmm...this has never happened to me before. To me, Mylot is full of interesting discussions and friendly people. Although I see some flame wars in the past, but it's getting lesser now, or probably, I've never encountered one discussion like that. Hmm....

Oh I certainly have on many occasions!! I've even been rated negatively for not agreeing with their ideas and opinions!! But to have a good discussion we really need lots of different opinions and ideas we don't all have to say'Oh yes, you are so right'

Personally I do not take note to any one who does not agree. I am one that if I ever received a difference of opinion and or rude objective, I will certainly thanked them for responding and wish them well. Personally I have way to much gong in my off-line life whereas online no one will take me out of character, it just won't happen. If this person gets upset and or rude they must deal with it on their own as I will not lash back, as I have this thing call life and will not allow anyone online to change the person that I truly am. So what I do before I begin a discussion is re-read it and think clearly as to whether I am prepared for both the negates and positive points of view. Something some people clearly do not do, as then later end up having the entire discussion deleted due to regrets. So anyone thinking they can push my buttons online it is not going to happen. LOL... I truly have a positive way of looking at things and sometimes I will re-read an opposing response and see if I can reconsider my own opinion or not.

Yes I have. And I have never been offended BUT I have offended other people. Some need to grow up seriously! Mylot is a place to discuss and not a place to agree with everybody, not being said that some people go nuts and start attacking others for no reason, but it doesn't really bother me, I kinda laugh at it and make a joke out of it why? Because there's no winning with these people I just report them and move on.

If anyone attack me because of my opinion, I'll let it go by.. forgive and forget.. after that, the only feel I get is not anger, but feel sorry for the attacker for having closed mind and live in that shell... if they were very sure that sun is the center of the universe, so be it.. it's their loss not mine ^_^

What would you like me to say?

I think I am both,Sketch.:) There were times that I had somehow agitated a poster with my response. Though it was intentional because I was just voicing out my two cents worth but he/she felt offended... Also, there were cases when I stumbled upon a response that truly made me feel awkward but I don't take it against the respondent. I maybe offended but I respected his/her points of views. In posting either a new topic to be discussed or a response to a topic, we always have to bear in mind that we don't think the same so other's may have a different opinion from yours.And here in Mylot, we are not force to please everybody .:)

I think we should be prepared for anything in a discussion. If we just want someone to agree with us, it's pointless to ask a question. We have to expect when we ask a question that we will get responses that we don't agree with. different points of view are what discussions are all about.

Welcome to the Internet. No seriously, it is frustrating. People tend to really get upset when they don't hear what they want to hear. I really thought that they were asking for my opinion when this happens. No, they just want their own opinion just shot back to them, without any opposing view. I like opinions that are different than my own. It really does make me think and gets my mind going in different directions. I might not agree, but if I agreed with anything that you did not agree with me about, then I would think that something would a bit wrong. Don't you agree?

Usually if others have responded to the discussion in kind, meaning they agree with the author, no matter how tempted I will not answer it. I don't want negative marks simply because I disagree with someone. There is nothing wrong with having one's own opinion, and certainly when someone responds to one of my discussions and disagrees, I do not attack them. I give them a plus as a matter of fact, for braving the elements and interjecting their opposite opinion. There are people who cannot handle opposite opinions, but don't let that discourage you. We are entitled to our opinions whether they are correct or not. Though I'm always right, I respect that others have a right to be wrong. Happy Mylotting!

Hmmm I have encountered a lot of such discussion and it happened to me few times as well. That is the problem with some people who started a discussion and asked for other people's opinions but not ready to face someone who would go opposite to what he or she said and would even get angry and feel challenged. I usually just leave it and ignore the person's discussion in the future LOL. Have a nice day

Hello friend, for me i never had that kind of answers to my responses from the owners of the discussions. I always receive something supportive and nice or thanks about the answer or the advice. Or the other way - the owners don't answer me at all which may be is good, because they stopped their wishes to attack me, because of our differences. I can say for myself, that i was really effected when i received few answers in my own discussions and i didn't start to attack the people, i just said what i think. It was once ot two times, when the people, who posted responses in my discussions had different opinion, but they wanted to emphasize how different and at the same time bad is my own thinking. You can have different opinion, for sure, even that's pretty good for us, it's making the world interesting, because of our differences, but someone to judge me because i'm thinking the way i am thinking - that sounds awful. In my discussions if i receive an answer where the respoder wants to show me how wrong is my opinion, i would answer at the same level too. Would never stay someone, who i don't know and who doesn't know me to bother me that way in my own discussion. As example i can give you one of my discussions, it was about the meaning of the marriage, i explained so good what is our relationship with my boyfriend and how we understand each other and how we love each other, how we live with each other and how we think that will be forever and for me the marriage doesn't change anything. At the same time i had response, where a person arrogant explained me the differences between a marriage and one relationship and the responsibilities when one person is married and how different it was to be in relatioship and if you have husband. Who said that we have no responsibilities in our relationship? I don't like that way of talking, when someone wants to show you how good is he and how bad and stupid are you ... That's when i answer the same way.

I basically just walk away, I hate arguing..one reason why I no longer will respond to religious,political and some other discussions. Now those can get vicious..Just because I don't respond doesn't mean I don't read some of them...sometimes you learn alot by just reading the first page of a discussion. On how the person responds to others who have answered. That is sometimes how I know whether I even want to respond or not..lol.

I agree. Once something like this goes up, it's open for discussion. If someone just wants to express their opinion, and not hear what others think, they should find a way to publish it where they won't receive comments. LOL The purpose of MyLot and similar forums, is so that we may discuss things, whether we agree with the poster, or not!

I did not come across such narrow minded starter of discussions. My referrer had a taste of it though. All he did was voicing his own opinion upon the discussions yet the author was angry, said he's making trouble. From there, that petty author strike him off her friend list. When I know that, I'm surprised. Since this is an open forum, why can't we speak freely right? If one starts a discussion for the sake of being pleased, being pampered, they might be in the wrong place.

that's totally true. but you know most people like to be lied nicely, rather than be told the truth. this somehow reminds me of Dr. House ^^' damn he really talks everything that's on his mind but you're right. if they wanted a discussion, they should be prepared for oppinions that might not be the same as theirs