jealous???

I learned of a good quote: "I don't get jealous, I get even" You should find other friends yourself and be as busy as your boyfriend so that you will eventually forget about him. I used to get jealous when I didn't have anything to do, so you should find another passion other than your BF, to occupy yourself with.

Hello asliah, Jealousy is a manifestation of distrustful and lack of confidence. It is a negative feeling that needed to be conquered deep inside. Have full confidence to yourself that no one can take over your place from your boyfriends heart. Give enough trust to your boyfriend that he cant do any mistake that can cause you heart aches. Be visible sometimes with your boyfriends' friends every time they get along together. Built a rapport with them in favor of you in gaining loyalty from them. In time in a gradual manner you can able to handle jealousy.

If you were not so jealous your boy would probably stay with you more. Perhaps he goes with his friends to get away from you...that's what I would do. If I had a partner who was always wanting to cling to me and never let go, I would run a mile. To my mind that shows immaturity, insecurity and low self esteem. You are in self destruct mode and until you can be your own person in a happy way about life you will not be able to have a satisfactory relationship. A boyfriend isn't there to prop you up and complete your life and make it better. You need to grow up a little and look at yourself through his eyes.

Good Day! Well, we cannot avoid to be jealous sometimes but its just a matter of trust. When there's nothing to be jealous of, then don't be. Think positive! If he really loves you then you're the only one for him.

It is really hard to avoid being jealous. It takes a lot of trust and confidence. If you are confident that your guy loves you, then this will be a very good reason for you not to feel jealous and of course to trust him.

Jealousy is the sign that you really love the person. Just saying. :)

I believe being jealous is a natural feeling. You want your bf's attention all for your self. As long as you have no proof that he is seeing another gf then you shouldnt worry about him. You need to try to develop some kind of trust. If not jealously can kill relationships. Safe that jealous feeling for if you have proof that he has another gf. If you do have good reason to believe that he has another gf then he is not worth having. Once the are cheater they always are.

Jealousy, It is a common thing in every one's life. It is not an evil thing as far as it goes beyond the limit. In some cases jealousy is good to have ,because when we feel jealous about others it make us to improve better in our life in some aspects.If at all we take that in a good way. But if you keep on jealous about others then it make no sense. It will destroy our peace like you said .To avoid this kind of feeling communicate with your loved one. Tell them the truth he might understand your feeling and act according to it.

I think to avoid jealous is to have strong faith with your partner. Because if your not having believe with your partner. There is always jealous comes into your mind even if your not see him/her... Love is not a bargain agreement which we can suddenly say don't when we are suffocating with jealousy. Love must be conform with respect and faith to make the relationship going strong and strong...

hi asliah, i find it not good to be jealous. did you ask yourself, why you are jealous? your boyfriend's friends have been there before you, right? unless your boyfriend is neglecting you, you should be understanding. you cant let your boyfriend be with you every second because that will be very unproductive. learn to give space. i guess he will appreciate you more that way. it is also good if you find friends for yourself. that way, you will be able to circulate more and find more things to do than just being jealous. be happy. take care and have a very nice day. ann

I feel jealous with my bf's friends too. It's hard to trust him because he has broken the trust i gave him many times already. I am trying to get rid of the jealousy because i can feel that it's starting to ruin our strong relationship already and i would hate to lose him in my life. If you love your bf then try get rid of the jealousy too. We can do it for love my friend. Good luck to both of us and to all those who wants to get rid of this thing!

Feeling a bit more confident within yourself certainly helps to avoid jealous feelings. You need to venture out a bit more perhaps with friends so that you too can feel a change of scenery sometimes. Sometime when we as women do not go out and visit with girlfriends we have more time on hand so think to hard on what perhaps could be our mates faults. Good luck to you and hope all is well.

No one person can be the reason for all of your joy. Instead of feeling jealous, you should be doing "you".....hanging with your friends, living your life, doing activities that you love (hobbies, extra work, education). What else fills your soul besides your boyfriend? That is the true question? What else makes you a worthwhile person besides your boyfriend? This is a question of worth. If you were busy enjoying (or figuring out what you enjoy), you would not have the time or energy to be jealous of your boyfriend spending time with other people. Get out there and discover all that life has to offer you.

According to my point of view, true love is beyond jealousy. It must be unconditional if you truly love someone. If, anybody thinks that he or she cannot share love with anybody then it is the biggest mistake of mankind. I am not saying that your boy friend is going to love anybody but I am saying it is not wrong at all. When you will be able to overcome the feeling of possessing him, your misery will be gone already.

We can't always say what will bring out our feelings of jealousy. It can be a word, touch or even just a look. Jealousy can change who we are as a person. Finding ways to dissipate feelings of jealousy will make all of our lives and relationships happier.

hello asliah! i have read somewhere that jealousy will get you to nowhere. However, i must say that is really hard to overcome such feelings but you must really try for it will not only harm your relationship but your self-image as well. Jealousy is a feeling that should be stopped, whether its provoke or not. Even if you have basis to feel jealous (maybe you have heard some stories about your boyfriend's philandering), you cannot really achieve anything if you let it take over your whole mind and actions. A two-timing boyfriend will always be a two-timer no matter how much you get jealous. You cannot prevent them from doing that which you most dislike, except perhaps if you bound them to a chair in chains or lock them up. Jealousy, is said to emanate from love, as what most people think. However, jealousy really spring up from one's insecurities and inadequacies and fears. the fear of being betrayed again, of being dumped, of being left behind, of thinking that your partner maybe finding someone else better than you, prettier than you and more capable of being a partner than you. When you start to feel jealous, pinch yourself if it needs be. i have read that someone uses a rubber band on their wrist and the moment that they feel the green-eyed monster starting to rise up, they stretch the rubber and release it suddenly, making a loud painful slap on their skin, jolting them out of that jealous feeling.maybe that is overboard with you but you could try other ways which is more effective for you. when you're jolted out of that jealous feeling, stop and think it over why are you feeling jealousy, what's its causes and what could you do about the situation. Just bear in mind that no matter what your partner will decide to do, your jealousy will not stop it nor deter him from it. It actually will not help you in your cause and would probably would just worsen the situation. so the next time you feel it rising, stomped it down and think rationally.

Hi there. For me, I believe that all human has this feeling. I not sure how but if taking about love, this is normal. You will feel not secure a little as he might be out doing something you don't know right? I felt the same. There could only be two reasons. First one is you care a lot for the relationship and worry that something might happen. Secondly, you feel insecure in the relationship. Maybe the relationship is too strong or maybe you got into a fight before he went out. So, do a little soul searching and think why such happen. then after that, you will be able to decide which move to take to curb the jealousy. Happy mylotting and don't worry ya!

That's not good. Has it ever occurred to u that u might be over possessive? Wanting him by your side all the time, wants him to pick up immediately whenever u call him? On top of that, he has to tell u his whereabouts and if he didn't, u caught him, u get suspicious and even angry? If u experienced any of the above, I can only say it's your mentality that needs to change because u must learn to trust him for he's your bf. Nobody can help u on that except yourself. U have to convince yourself.

Jealousy is an expression of love and that's natural but too much of it up to the point you nag and fight with him is being selfish. I don't know how to overcome that feeling but certainly praying would help a lot.

Hi. I think being jealous is just fine as long as you know your limits. You better tell him what you feel about him going out a lot of times with his friends. And besides, you dont have to worry because hes just out with his friends, not other girls. And if you really love him, you have to trust him. And trusting him is a really big thing for guys I know that because I always get jealous. Guys love it when their girlfriends tell them how they feel. Always remember, little jealousy means healthy relationship.