How do i know if they like me for me?
By NayaAbouzaid
@NayaAbouzaid (115)
Egypt
December 17, 2010 12:09pm CST
Ive always been the fat girl with a cute face who has a great personality and is really funny. But ive never been "date-able" because of my weight . First i wanna talk about the pros and cons of my heavy weight . pros: my personality grew , im so much more funnier than most girls my age because i needed to have humor in my life to convey my weight issues. im not shallow AT ALL because i know whats its like to be judged by appearance and im very thoughtful of others feelings.
Cons: well being called a fat pig pretty much sums it up.
But now im half way through my weight loss , i still got ALOT to lose but also have lost alot . lost 40 , still need to lose another 40 pounds. but heres the thing , im getting approched by guys like never before and it always feels great at first and then i feel horrible. i start asking my self questions like " does he like me for me? is it because im funny or because i look average now?" . How do i tell if someone likes me for me or if its just appearances because above all i want people to like the funny girl whose thoughtful and not shallow . not to think of me of the former fat girl who is better looking now. i hate getting all confused.
3 responses
@deedee328 (1122)
• United States
18 Dec 10
The only way I know of to find out if someone really likes you for the person you are inside, and not what you look like on the outside, is to ask them. You will find out alot about him and his perceptions of people by spending time with him one on one and around his peers.
I think it is great that you have lost the weight. I think it is more wonderful that you seem to have done it for YOU and not someone else.
Most everyone is struck first by another person's appearance. That is just human nature. In the end, I think you will find out that it really doesnt matter what your outward appearance is. Your inner beauty will shine through. Even if a guy is first attracted by your appearance, he will get to know you and your personality is what he will stick around for.
It sounds to me that maybe you are putting too much worry into the why a guy talked to you to start with. Concentrate on staying true to who you are and dont worry so much about what other people might be thinking.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
17 Dec 10
Sometimes it will be hard to delineate if anyone truly likes someone simply for being themselves versus what they can gain from it.
Then only thing I can advise is to always remain you and never, ever try to be who you are not. The right person will appreciate you for who you are. Sure you may be hurt from time to time but you have to be open enough to determine when someone is perhaps not liking you for who you are and try really hard to move on.
Good luck to you and someday the right person will be right for you. Don't rush into anything, remember to keep an open mind at all times. 
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
17 Dec 10
This is a question beautiful women had to figure out since the beginning of time. Since you really only want true love, let's examine what qualities are involved. True love almost always carries high chemistry. This chemistry is two way not just one. If you have high chemistry with someone, the odds are they have some back. Next, true love has staying power. It hangs in there regardless of the adversity. Don't be in any hurry. True love isn't going anywhere. Watch and see what happens when things get tough. Never forget,true love has no time table. Sometimes it won't show up until later in life. No relationship is worth forcing. That just results in a mess.
