he or she?

For me, it really doesn't matter who should make the first to settle up a fight. Because pride gets in the way when we think about making the first move. It would be much better if both man and woman would talk this over. For sure, the difference between a man and a woman is not one-sided. And both are not exempted to say sorry to each other. However, since you asked about who should make the first move, I think it depends on the situation. If it's my fault, then I should say sorry.. If it's his fault, then he should say sorry.. If he's not sorry then I have to make him understand why he should be sorry.. That's the time we compromise and clear things up from all the misunderstandings.

it depends on them who ever started fight or who ever done they must make the move

what's gender got to do with it? you ask he or she should cede to the other like it's based on gender. it's not about he or she. it's a partnership. our roles in a partnership aren't dictated by whether we stand or sit to wee.

PErsonally i think the guy should calm down and explain the situation and sometime have to give way to the female which are sometime more emotional , however, sometime the guy is also egolistic.I guess as mentioned above , both have to responsibile to found solution to the argument , if there is no solution , then the calmer party should walkaway and not escalate the heat more.

I do not think this is a question of whether a man or a woman should apologize. Differences should be discussed by both people. In right relationships, we can sit down with our partner and discuss everything. Both parties agree because of the love and respect that is shared between them. Honest and open communication is a key area of any relationship. It really does not matter who takes the first step, the interaction is not complete with one person making amends bot both people coming to agreement or coming to a state of peace. If your partner is unconcerned with talking or has no care for your feelings, then you are dealing with a problem larger than this argument or disagreement. The best thing to start in that scenario is to start sending that person love and light. Begin to love yourself by creating a peaceful environment (internal and external). Be the kind of person who you would like to be with (open, honest, respectful, willing to talk, etc,......)This person may begin to change or may fall from your life (esp. if this is not what this person resonates with.....if this person does not care, does not want to talk, he will fall, he will leave an environment of love and care.) Life is too short. Love and be loved!

Well it is just right that the party at fault should make the first move but pride can easily spoil these scene. I think both should give each other the needed space first to think what went wrong so that the efforts of the party who wants to make up will not be in vain. People in general have the habit of blaming each other and this can destroy the relationship. It you think that you are at fault, then don't think about your pride and make things right. It's not a question of being the man or the woman.

chelzeea07, Actually many things in love can be salvage if we compromise our ego, but exactly how much compromising on the Ego must be adopted to achieve that desired peace in relationship? Too much retrograding encourages blatant advantage-taking, while being too obstinate will hurt goodwill in relationship. Perhaps, the issue isn't so much about love, much more than compatibility as a general rule of thumb. Being in love is free, but being in a relationship comes with a price - the price of being subjected to gruesome test of eliminating our overly individualistic perception of life and learn to manage an additional headcount, transcending every aspect of our life. Many often lament about how my partner is unable to do this... unable to do that or does not initiate this and that - but let us look at it objectively, if it wasn't taught, then how would one learn? Following this line of argument, if it wasn't understood, then why would one allow oneself to be 'taught'? And it goes round in that cycle. People are always taught about love, it doesn't just appear from nowhere. Though love comes quintessentially natural, but natural doesn't mean that our development are enlightened or learning that promote minimal intensity or conflicts. In fact, it's usually our frictions that we burn ourselves with, bestowing us the most valuable lessons in love. Incompatibility, coupled with wrong frame of time... sometimes... makes the most suitable thing unsuitable. Let's not forget that we do not need a perfect partner to make a relationship work but a partner that can see the imperfection of the other to make it work. Take care and compliments of the season.

I think the answer should be both. Otherwise another controversy will start. I think we should understand that we all are not the perfect one and my partner can be better. I think in this way we can spend time happily......

It is my belief, when couples are in a disagreement, they both should apologize, especially when voices have been raised, and feelings have been hurt. Both parties would be guilty of mistreating their significant other. It wouldn't be like apologizing for being late for a date.

Hi! I think it's both because we do all individual differences and we do all have our weaknesses. I think lovers should accept each other the way they are.