I won't let my friend borrow my money again

It all comes down to how close are U to this "FRIEND" of yours? B/c all my friends and I understand each other when comes to $$$money$$$$ and we won't let our friendship be destroyed over it!

I have learned long ago not to barrow. You lose friends that way. I used to have a friend that barrowed $20. Instead of paying me back and remaining friends. He moved away and chose not to remain friends. Later i found out that he barrowed $50. from another friend and did the same to her.

Sounds familiar. That also happened to me a few days ago but the one who borrowed some money wasn't or isn't a friend of mine. I just got to know her a little because she would often pass by the office selling snacks. I'd buy from her sometimes and one day, she just barged into the office asking to borrow some money. It isn't really a big amount, but I trusted her when she told me that she would pay the following day. However, many days have passed and she hasn't showed up. Oh well.

Hi dear, Experience is the best teacher. Hope you will learn something from this incident. I have no right to tell you because I never learned any experience after losing money for several times. Help is help, even if it is in money terms. I got satisfied, when I write off the same. It is my experience that - give money to those who have, they will return it. But if you help with money, to those who don’t have, you MAY get it back, but there is no guarantee that you will get in time or get it back also. So, you can help others if you have excess of money. Also, if it is a small amount, you can write off, which will not make any difference. Now Saturday is gone, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday now. Have you got it back. You can just remind him of the same and see what he has to say. The simple way of dealing the issue. But I think you are still lucky. I am following with a friend of mine for the last 6 months and not yet giving, saying tomorrow..., tomorrow. I think his tomorrow never comes and for the last 3-4 days, he is not attending my calls also. It comes around $850. This is the result of financial helps!!! Thank-s

hi, i think not all people is not like that, i have many friends too, and they sometimes borrow money to me, and most of them paid their borrowed money, but for long time they pay me, and now i have only one friend who still dont pay me.

Well hi Kingparker. The same thing happened to me once with a guy I considered to be my friend 2 years ago. I loaned him 70 euros to buy something very important to him and after a month he had not returned the money... Here's what I did and worked: After I mentioned to him twice about the debt he always said that it was his first priority to pay me back, both times, but he never did. So here comes a time that he asks me again some money to buy something. To that point I should let you know that it's very important to realize how close is this person to you, and if you consider him a close friend,or just another person to hung around, so you can respond individually in each case. The person who did this to me I considered a close friend so when he asked me the money, I had no choice but to tell him the full truth. I told him that I lent him 70 euros a month ago but he didn't repay me that time. I also told him that I depended on that money for my personal needs and I had a hard time after I gave it to him. I then said that I only gave it to him because I considered him a good friend, which was true after all.... So I had in mind to give him the money he asked for the second time, but if he did not return it this time, we'll have a serious trust problem in the future with all the consequences this would lead... After I said those things I gave him the money. I suggest you followed my method because i think you'll be surprised of how it works.. A week after he gave me the 20 euros I gave him the second time, followed by the full 70 euros he owed be from before!! He also apologized for his behaviour... I think you should clear first what i mentioned earlier, if you consider him a good friend or not. If you do, it's up to you to be clear to him and it's also up to you to correct some faults he may have...like this one! That way things will be even better between you two afterwards. But if you considering him to be just another friend to pass the time, I think you should not do anything at all. In that case, i'm sorry to say that the money is lost and the best thing you should do is learn from this, so it won't happen again...

Hello KingParker It looks like your Friends are just using you and I would not lend any of them any more Money at all as it looks like they have no intention of paying it back to you

Think about it. Why do your friends need to borrow money from you??? It is because they do not manage their money or their debts or their spending very well. They borrow from a friend because mostly, deep down, they have no intention of repaying you. If you lend money to a friend, don't expect to get it back...give it to them as a gift. When I was young, I learned a motto and I have adopted it as my own...it goes like this...neither a borrower nor a lender be. These are wise words indeed and I try my hardest to live by them. If my friends need something, I don't lend, I give. If I need something, I get it for myself, I don't expect others to give it to me. I will go without something else if I need to but I will stay on my own feet and not lean on others.

I think I have posted a similar answer before [once you lend money to a friend] your for sure to loose both, the money and your friend. I do not lend money very often but if I have to I will give it as a present[ given and forgotten] because I know if someone needs money I know this person can't pay it back!I know I have had the occasion when some one said I will pay you back I swear... and I said do not swear/ promise what you can't deliver so it's pointless to do that. At the end of the day I do not lend money...if I can afford I just give it away. I did a shop for some one in need the other day it cost me 100 dollars! but you know what? I don't regret it! why? because I care and not I do not expect to be paid back It was my choice to do so.

They say nothing wrecks a friendship more than money. I hope you get your cash back. (and keep the friendship)

When a friend asks me for money the next time, and surely they wouldn't be asking if they didn't need it. I would give it to them as a gift without expecting anything in return, because that is what a good friend would do. I think of it as spreading the holiday cheer all through the year.

I have lots of people that owe me money and i will say that they all know that they owe me money and i am glad that they are now only small amounts of money that they owe, as i have just after 3 months got alot of the money off a few of the people that owed me.I also have people that are the late payers and this year i am not doing any favors to people that want or need things as this time i have really learnt and these people are so called friends.

Money being leant to people can often cause many problems and it can cause you to lose a friend. In life we want to help people, especially those close to us and even more ifwe trust them. You saw that your friend needed help and when they asked you you decided to help them. If i was you i would ask them again, especially as you know they have been paid, if they haveno money left then ask if they can pay the full amount when they next get paid or if they can atleast pay something off and pay you in installments, atleast that way you get your money back, surely this has taught you not to lend again. Next time once you are paid back if you are asked again then don't lie, it is your money not theirs and so your choice what you do with it, just say that you don't have much spare cash and that you can't lend that amount and that after it taking so long to be paid back you would rather not lend money out again, not just to him but to anyone.

i also gave money to my friend very long back but when ever i ask her she would give some excuse for few days she was hiding from me i'll get too much angry but what shall i do?

That was happened to me also and until now she didn't paid me. But i never said that i will not lend her again the money or anything she needs. If there's another chance the she will need again my help I will. I know that it is hard to ask people about needs. I know that she is not yet paying me but i understand if she ask again. But with the wise move of trying to know first if she really in need. Because she has the habit of playing tricks of asking anything she wants. But i will not refuse when somebody needs any help that i can do.

dear don't blame you, the problem lies in these ungrateful friends, they are acting wrong i don't think it's about choice cause it's not like we know when someone is disonest before be friends with him/her i believe time will show who your real friends are and time has shown about these friends, wich you should not consider a friend anymore there are couples that get married and say that after 15 years they really find out what kind of person the partner as, let along friends

Hi there! I will not say it is because of wrong people but it is more to themselves. At times, we will never know if they will actually pay us back but we are too generous to lent them due to friendship. It happens to me so many times and that sux. I too, nowadays do not lent to others as I just believe money going out will not come back again.

U are right, but bro som people rightly need it, u know they are in real need, and this where Friends are realy needed, u know my three friends have been blackilsted, but not all are the same, just dont giv them again..

I really do not know if he is your friend because he he is really your friend, he will tell you that he cant pay you on time because he doesnt have money.Realfriends will tell you that. I think also that he doesnt want to pay you.

Friends can sometimes trick you. Because they know that you are close with them, they might cheat on you because they know that you will trust them. It is easy to trust a friend when you are close to him not knowing what his real purpose is.