Broken ties

Hi Albert, I would add them on my friends on facebook. They are not at fault here. They listened to their mother. They probably only know her side of the story and even if they had doubts, what were they to do? They were no doubt kids themselves, needed their parents. How old was you cousin when this happened? I would definitly want to hear the cousins side of things. It's sad that the whole family has been torn apart because of one man's abuse.

This isn't like those incestual fantasies that this man though, we still live by morals. if this is rally done in real life then it's closed doors and their nuts. too bad they shoulkd have sided with your family instead.

that is so sad. what happened to your cousin is simply devastating. even more so that a relative is the culprit. i just can't understand why some men sink so low as to do something disgusting to their own family/relatives (and to women in general). i do hope that even after 15 years, your cousin will be granted the justice she deserves. and that your uncle and aunt be consumed with guilt. if they had been an innocent party, they would not be in hiding at all. if i'm in your shoes, and your cousins from your aunt tried adding you in fb... i would not approve at all. well, that's just me. (luckily i don't do fb) i feel strongly about the whole incident. i could just imagine what your victimized cousin (from your uncle) would feel knowing that. i understand that it isn't your aunt's kids' fault for whatever wrongdoings their father did. but people can't be blamed if the crime their father did is reflected indirectly to them too, being his flesh and blood. but what i would want to do is ask your uncle's daughter what her views are about all this... 15 years after. if she had moved on... well and good. if she hasn't, then you'd also might want to take careful steps in reuniting with your aunt's kids. it's good they want to settle things, but they should extend the olive branch to the people concerned... if they really want to put things in order. again, that's just me. it still is up to you. and your cousin. may she find peace in her heart again.

i'm so sorry about what happened to your cousin. that was such a horrible thing that your uncle did to her. perverts should rot in jail, relatives or not. they should not be allowed to roam the streets and be kept near women. they are sick in the mind. even as you and your cousins are also affected by this terrible incident, your relationship should not be ruined as well. but just to respect your uncle and your mom's feelings, you might just as well ask them what they think about your cousins request for reconciliation though you did not specifically say what kind of "settlement" they were proposing. methinks your cousins are just protecting their parents by not disclosing their whereabouts knowing their father is wanted by the law.

Oh man that's horrible. What happened to the lawsuit? If your aunt's husband is hiding, does that mean he's on the run from the law? (sorry, none of my business but just curious) I hope you're cousin's okay now. Rape is such a traumatic crime.