how to stay happy?

India
December 22, 2010 12:25pm CST
I have a girl friend .I fought with her because she is having one friend .Daily they will talk each other. While talk or massage they will refer like honey, sweet heart ect..... ,but I don't like that and already I discussed about this with my girl but there is no use, because of that now a day's I am not happy in my life and I have many doubts on her. Please help me to come out from this and give some tips to stay happy.
16 responses
• Canada
22 Dec 10
I am assuming this friend is a man, or else you would not be having doubts about her. If you have been having doubts for a long time, and it is making you unhappy, then this may not be the best relationship for you. If she will call this person honey and sweetheart right in front of you, even though you told her it hurts your feelings, then she is not showing respect for your feelings. You need to sit down and have a long honest talk with her to find out what is going on with this friend, and how the two of you can work together so that you are both happy in this relationship. If she is not willing to consider your feelings, you will then have to decide if you want to live with that or find a new girlfriend.
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• India
22 Dec 10
DEAR FRIEND, I already discussed about this matter now in front of me she is behaving well but after going her office she will do her own. Even she doesn't want to leave me.
22 Dec 10
If this friend is a man , did you know if he is a ex-boyfriend ? You should ask her more information about her friend , or you can ask her friend to have a chat with you... maybe will help you to understand their friendship...take care
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• India
22 Dec 10
HAY, He is not a ex-boy friend that I know. First she was getting many miss calls from that numbers. Day by day they become friends. And that fellow doesn't want to talk with me even she doesn't. What I can do?
@NarutoFTW (134)
23 Dec 10
Always look on the bright side of life (8) Just chilax and take things as they are. Nothing harmless!
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• India
23 Dec 10
Ya, I will try to do that.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
23 Dec 10
i'm sorry to be asking you this question first... are you jealous of your girlfriend because she is chatting in an intimate manner with her friend??? btw, i assume that her friend is a man because you mention that your girlfriend use an intimate name like honey, sweetheart, etc while talking or messaging... am i right??? if that is the case, i think you have to express your real feelings to your girlfriend and tell her directly about dissatisfaction... honesty is always the best policy in any relationship... take care and have a nice day...
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• India
23 Dec 10
Dear linnli, In pure love there is no jealous on each others. I don't like those words to refer others. One more thing she don't know that person over that she never met that fellow till now ,then how she can refer that words?
@reco13 (605)
• Philippines
23 Dec 10
Have you tried asking her why they refer to each other with sweet endearments like these? Probably there's a reason. If the girl doesn't seem like hiding something from you or open about this issue, then, maybe, she's really not guilty. I know many girls and boys using sweet endearments like these but don't have any malice. They are just using those words for fun. If your gf said that nothing is going on between them, I suggest that you trust your girl. She'll truly appreciate you when you do this. :)
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• India
23 Dec 10
dear reco, In front of him she is avoiding me,now they are friends in future?
@kirthy (383)
• India
23 Dec 10
keep you r mind free. take all the things ,easy. think goood, be good. keep smile always.
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• India
23 Dec 10
kirthi, Thanks a lot. Short and sweet advice.
@chowee (517)
• Philippines
23 Dec 10
Ahmmf, entering a relationship is not my way to make me happy. Since it can destruct my studies. I am in focus of my studies right now so the things that only makes me happy is a piece of computer and a internet connection..hahaha lol..
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• India
23 Dec 10
Dear chowee, Carry on, you life is better than mine.Keep it up.
@whateva (786)
• India
22 Dec 10
hey be optimistic! before coming to any conclusion orlosing your faith in her, get to know that person better. the person she talks to might be someone she really likes talking to, or her best friend. you can never lose a friend to a boyfriend and you never should. if you don't trust that person ,then try and get to know him, be a part of their conversations. you might e able to decide better like if he trust worthy dont doubt you r girlfriend.if you doubt your girlfriend, what is your love based on then? trust is supposed to be the foundation of a relationship.
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• India
22 Dec 10
I am broadminded person. If she talk also I don't mind ,very well she can talk in front of me but she is not.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
23 Dec 10
For me first you need to worship the only true God Jehovah and he will guide you to make your life not sad if about the girlfriend yes it is the lady is so sensitive if I wear you don't make a lover if you are not going to married because you suffer many pain.
@hexebella (1136)
• Philippines
22 Dec 10
have a balance life and do not focus your attention to one area of your life. Your girl is not the only person that can you make you happy, she is only part of your happiness. You need to establish a social circle, you can engage in some sports or a hobby, there are a lot of things to focus our attention, to be productive, to be able to help other people, your girl is not your entire life so appreciate the things around you and the people who love and care for you such as your family and friends. I would also suggest to read some motivational and inspirational books, you can also download free ebooks on this subject matter. It would help you a lot to have a positive mind set and enjoy life to the fullest.
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• India
22 Dec 10
According to her I should not talk with any other girls, but I am not talking also. As a boy I am trustworthy why she can't? I am also human being like her. Ok let's see I will try to divert my mind by doing something. THANKS FOR YOUR ADVICE
• United States
22 Dec 10
Sorry to hear about your unhappiness.. you say you already spoke to her, I am just wondering if you are directly saying that her behavior is really making you unhappy. Maybe do not say you, you.. Say I am very unhappy and I do not want to. I care about you deeply and am wondering what WE can do to fix this feeling of mine. Good luck my friend as it is quite difficult when we have relationship issues with someone we care about.
• India
23 Dec 10
Ofcourse it is quite difficult situation to handle. I will try to manage my level best.
• Bulgaria
22 Dec 10
The best things that you can do is to start workout and you will forgot about everything.Workout stimulate most of the hormons in the body endofrins...serotonin (hormone of happynes) and alot other hormones:)Or JUst hang out with big company
• India
22 Dec 10
I was thinking about that. Thanks for your good idea. Cool....
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
22 Dec 10
Is the friend girl or a boy? If it is a girl, you got nothing to worry about. If it is a boy, you don't have to be so worried, just ask her what is the reason for them to talk each other that way. If the reason is because they like it, you can't change that friend, we all got habits and you can't go into the life of someone, changing him really much.
• India
22 Dec 10
Yes, you are wright friend. We cannot change anyone in this world. she has to think herself about her past and future.
• Philippines
22 Dec 10
Good morning Jack, I think this friend of your girl is a boy thats why you are uncomfortable with the endearments and reactions of your girlfriend towards him. If your girl is avoiding this topic and ended up with a fight i think you better give her a space to think who she really want to be with. I know it hurts to be in this situation but you need to be strong, call your friends hang out with them maybe your girl is just enjoying her friends company for a while and later on will realize that you are the person she wants to be with. :) Enjoy life!
• India
22 Dec 10
Actually she belongs to another cast (inter cast).Already I informed her friend about our relationship. After that he stopped everything. After some days again they started talking. One more thing she doesn't want to leave me and even I.
• Abbeville, Mississippi
22 Dec 10
talk is all that it is. is talk. i have really good friends and we talk or text. and we call each other sweety, honey or what ever. a relationship has its ups and downs. and stop and see if that is the real reason that you are not happy. and think that maybe one day you will have a friend. and you and that friend is really close. and if you would want to forget about that friend. it is not a bad thing to have friends. some times they pick you up when you are down.
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• India
22 Dec 10
DEAR MARYJANE41, I had and have many friends. You know one thing before our love starts I use to call my friends same what she is calling now. After love she told that I should stop everything and not call anybody, I stopped everything because she is my love ,my heart & my life. I have done sacrifices, why she can't?
@xmlukax (231)
• Slovenia
26 Dec 10
one thing to test if she is realy loyal to you is if they were meant to do something together one day ask her for you two to do something same day and then she will have to decide between you and him and that's how you'll know what is happening with you two
• India
26 Dec 10
Yesterday I saw I LOVE U massage in her mobile. I was shocked. Tell me what should I do?
@06MLam (620)
23 Dec 10
Is her close friend a male or female? If the friend is a female, I don't think you need to worry too much because this is the way girls/ladies communicate. I've got a friend, P. I don't want to post their real names here as a respect to them. P has a very close friend, H, who is also my friend. They claimed that their relationship is engagged to one another while P has got her own boyfriend. This is just a way girls like to interact with their really closed friends, so don't worry about this too much if your girlfriend's friend is a female. Remember what Einstein said, you have to be forgetful in order to stay happy, which means to forget every unhappy memories easily.
• India
23 Dec 10
He is male friend not female so I am worrying about my relationship.