Is appearance deceptive in many cases..?
By chayapathys
@chayapathys (2111)
India
December 25, 2010 10:20pm CST
we meet people and it may not be possible to say whether other person is good or bad unless we move closely and study the person.Some who appear to be very nice are really crooks with some exceptions and similarly whose looks are iritable may in real life are very good people.So I feel appearance is deceptive in many cases.I heard a saying as" Those who look simple are complicated and those who look complicated are simple" I am infact not a good judge of the people.I am easily led by appearanc and believe what they say.My wife always complains about my judgment of people as she is shrewd in judging people.How do you judge people...?
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6 responses
@narayan2006 (2954)
• India
26 Dec 10
One should not come to a conclusion about a person just by judging from his or her facial appearance.Facial expression can often give a misleading impression about one's real personality and character.Even few interactions may not be sufficient to draw any decisive conclusion.There are instances of criminals who come in the guise of innocent and honest persons to cheat the common people. One needs to make detailed investigation and analysis about the background of a person before trusting and accepting him or her for any dealing. Thanks.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
26 Dec 10
What you say is correct hundred percent.I was a victim once and later I became cautious in my dealings.But the damage was done already.Better late than never.Never judge aperson by outward appearance like sweet talk and good looks and some of them would prove be crooks.Similarly those whose appearance is repulsive could be good natured and very helpful.Perhaps it is all luck
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
27 Dec 10
i think so... people who look god on the outside might not be good on the inside and vice versa... if you know what i mean... i had encountered too many of these kind of people in my life... there are people who wear masks all the time to cover for their evil intentions with good appearance and there are people who are being outcast or judge by other people because of their looks but actually they have a very good heart... that's why i never judge people anymore as judgement is not my right, but it is God's right as He is the Creator... take care and have a nice day...
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
1 Jan 11
No doubt God is the correct judge. But we have to deal with people in our lives and it is our concern to choose right people.When we are lead by outward appearance we are likely to get into trouble,As you said many wear mask of different nature and come out in true colours only in the long run.But damage is done.However we should be cautious and should not jump at hasty conclusions...HAPPY NEW YEAR
@ganeshprabhuk (1722)
• India
26 Dec 10
Judging people with appearance is a difficult task. We come across so many people in day to day life. Without any reason, I wouldnt have even spoken to them but still hate them or like them. I really wonder the reason behind these things. Why do we jump into a conclusion as soon as we see someone. Judging people is a difficult thing, since they will be wearing two type of masks. One to the outside world and the other one to their family members.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
26 Dec 10
What you say is correct.Therefore we should not jump at conclusions.Those who appear to be simple and speak nice words prove to be crooks later.Those whose appearance is repulsive are very good at heart.We cannot generalise anything.Some times it is pure luck to get good and trustworthy friends as experience shows.There are many people with dual personality as you rightly said...HAPPY NEW YEAR
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
26 Dec 10
You seem to be young and inexperienced in life.As you grow you will realise that outward appearance of a person male or feamle is deceptive sometimes but not always.But we should exercise caution in choosing friends which is always good.Sometimes those who speak well and appear to be simple are crooks in their nature.Hence caution....HAPPY NEW YEAR..
@deriellevc73 (982)
• Philippines
27 Dec 10
hello chayapathys!
appearances are deceiving and should not be the basis of how we judge people. However, some people have the uncanny talent of knowing a person's true character by just looking at their face, actions and eyes. But not all people have that talent that's why many of us fall to the trap of judging people through appearances.
It is true that many good looking people who have matching suave manners are in fact crooks inside whose only mission in life is to take advantage of people who fall trap to their easy charms. Many of us also make the mistake of judging a person who looks like a villain in a movie just because of their looks, only to find out later that the very same person is the epitome of gentleness and kindness. As it has been repeatedly say, "do not judge a book by its cover." We should abide by this quote for it has proven to be valuable and wise by a lot of people many times in their dealings with other people.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
1 Jan 11
What you said is correct.Some people have the sixth sense of judging people correctly.From experience I noticed that my wife makes correct judgment many times.As I said I have been always a poor judge of people.Some appear to be viilains but in fact they are the best and similarly who are very nice outwardly turn out to be crooks in the long run.Therefore we should be cautious while dealing with people...HAPPY NEW YEAR
@sophia18 (106)
• China
26 Dec 10
I think I am the same with you.I often judge people by their looks,if the person looks beautiful,handsome,smart,kind or the like,I will be pleased to talk to him/her,even if he/she does something wrong,I will forgive him/her easily.However,it does not mean that I treat those whose appearances are not so good badly,I'm kind to them as well.But beautiful people leave better impression on me,that's what I cannot control.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
26 Dec 10
You seem to be good natured lady.Appearnces are deceptive sometimes but not always.Just like me you judge people by their outward appearance.By experience I learnt very costly lessons.Those who were close and who knew my secrets deceived me.I suffered a lot mentally but recouped slowly.That is I started this discussion.Don't judge people by outward appearance....HAPPY NEW YEAR
