Which is better, get married early or late?

China
December 26, 2010 7:56am CST
My parents ask me when I can get married. I am surprised when herring that. I think it is too early to consider that. Many friends around me , they are just get together with their girl friends now and have no plan to get married so early. However, in our countryside. the young just at my age. Many of them have married. Even some have been married for some years and have babies. I cannot imagine that. I had some friends before. Later I go to collage while they go to start to work for living. When I was a student. they have get married. In China, most people in cities get married late. By contrast, the people in the countryside get married very early. Is it better?
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@ftrazona (222)
• Philippines
26 Dec 10
Oh well, I am not thinking to get marry.. HAHAHA.. my auntie used to ask me the same question too. "When are you going to get marry?" She asked me the question everyday and wanted me to go outside the house. I am just staying at home and happily spend time online. I don't have any plans to go outside the house. It's too tiring. I am enjoying working at home, then when I make money, I shared it to my siblings to my far away cousins who needs help. I am happy to help them. Maybe I will be thinking to get marry when I secured my siblings and cousins education and they can get job too. But how can I get marry when I don't have any boyfriend? LOL! Ever since I step my teenage life, never had my special one. HAHAHA I am afraid if I could spend time with them LOL
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@ftrazona (222)
• Philippines
26 Dec 10
not spend** ^^, sorry missing word..
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• China
29 Dec 10
I think you don 't want to get to married early. right? If you don't want to get married forever, that is not good. Maybe you are just like me, I really don't want to consider the matter of getting married. I always think I am too young to getting married. You said you want to spend more time staying at home and happily spend time online . and you really enjoy working at home and earn money online. As for me, on the one hand, I want to getting better and better in my job. and on the other hand, I am also enjoy doing some part-time job online. That is why I come here. In one word, everyone has his own choice which should be respected. The happiness is the most important. right?
• Philippines
27 Dec 10
When I was 19 I became a mother and when I reach 21 I had a new bf that I dreamed of getting older with, now I'm 23 I'm living with him. We have plans to get married but there are times that I'm thinking not to do that but I don't have any good choice. I haven't enjoyed my teenage life because my parents were really strict and I have a child at an early age. It wasn't easy for me and my boyfriend to be in one roof because we're not financially settled, we don't have our own house, he doesn't have a good job, and lots of things that a couple would prepare before getting married. So for me it is better to get married late to enjoy life in a right way and to get more matured and prepared for big responsibilities of being a parent/spouse.
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• China
29 Dec 10
Friend, don't worry. I believe you life will get better and better. In fact , early marriage can make people feel the love of family early. Many people around me got married late. And they regret because they cannot want more children.
@youless (112481)
• Guangzhou, China
27 Dec 10
I am a Chinese. It is true that city people get married later than countryside people. As you know, living in the city has many pressure. And usually when the people who have a good education, they will make good plans, including the marriage plan. If you get married so early, you can't make sure that you find the right one since you are so young. You need to experience something and you will learn from it. A mature marriage can last for a long time. And usually people want to get married when they have a good finance. You know, the wedding and the baby can cost so much money. This is why city people don't want to get married so early. I love China
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• China
29 Dec 10
I am really happy that I can communicate with a Chines here. I am nether a city person nor a countryside person. I live in a county. I want to get married at the age of about 30. I think at that time, I am enough mature to understand the meaning of true love. I love great China ,too.
@piya84 (2581)
• India
27 Dec 10
wow i am so delighted reading this thread.I thought its happening in India only.I am in my mid twenty and my parents and even relatives [grandma!!] ask me this question at list once in a week.This is so irritating. Seriously! my all friends are married and they want me to marry and have baby and they think mid twenty is good time to settle down. I dont think so i am ready for marriage.Thats freaks me out. Getting married is no more cheap here.It cost lot financially.Flats,food,clothes prices here are sky rocketing now a days.Getting married and having baby means marching towards poverty.Why these dont understand this?
• China
29 Dec 10
Friend, our friends or relatives want us to get married because they want us can have a happy family. And I think we will get married one day. But for me, I really don't want to get married and I want to enjoy myself now. I know as long as you get married, you have to take more responsibility. Yeah, if you get married, yo will spent a lot of money on many things.
@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
27 Dec 10
The idea is the younger you get married, the more fun it get but at the same time too careless and most time it end up with you getting divorce. I believe your personal financial status should be able to cover you and your love one (just incase that person lose their job) and a baby even if you do not have one as yet( that is each for both parties). If both lovers have all of that then you can go ahead but laso make sure the love and faithfulness is there. I want to get married when I am young but due to my carreer field i am going to get married instead when i am old. I dont think i want to be married when I am in school studying. That is too stressing. Let i conclude, it is more exciting if you married earlier but it is better otherwise if you marry later.
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• China
29 Dec 10
For me , I really don't want to get married early. I want to get married at the age of about 30. I think at that time I will be mature enough to take more responsibility after marriage.
@ninskie (13)
27 Dec 10
i think it depend to some circumstances.I had a neighbor who married early.She is 16 year old at that time and having one baby.Her husband doesn't have any job at all.They were just depending on the guys parents and still share in the same house.I felt pitty on them because they cant give a good future to their child.that's why i think early marriage is not good because planning to marry needs a tough and good decisions because you have an obligation to raise your family well. On the other late marriage also has a dis advantage because if the girl were married lat thres a possibility that she cant give birth.The good thing to be married is to be financially,emotionally and morally stable.
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• China
29 Dec 10
Yes, different people have different circumstances. Before we get married, we must make sure that we can take more responsibilities. WE can not get married just because of the passion. We should know each other well before we get married. I plan to get married at the age of about 30. I think at that time, I am mature enough.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
27 Dec 10
well, it really depends on individuals... there is no age limit of how old a person has to get married... rather, how ready you are physically, emotionally and mentally to get married... that is more important than age... i get married when i was 27 and i think it is alright... take care and have a nice day...
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• China
29 Dec 10
Yes, it is not the matter of time. We must make sure that we find our true love .
@sql_cell (1427)
• Indonesia
27 Dec 10
Married sooner or later, depending on personal preparedness. If you've found the right partner, ready to be responsible, and ready to face the problems that will come, then you can get married.
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• China
29 Dec 10
Yes, if we find our Mr right, we can get married anytime.
@teamrose (1492)
• United States
26 Dec 10
The best time to get married is when you find that perfect someone that you believe with all your heart and soul you can truly spend the rest of your life with. This is not an easy task with billions of people on the planet. Take you time and have a meaningful marriage to write books about.
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• China
29 Dec 10
Yes, I can't agree with you more. When we find the perfect person that you believe with all your heart and soul, we can truly spend the rest of our life with. Yeah, we must make sure we find our Mr Right. It is not matter of time. It depends on when your true love will some to you. Maybe it will come next minute, maybe it will come next year. All of things are up to your heart. right?
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
27 Dec 10
The best is to get married when you want to marry. Who can decide when is it early or late? There's no such a thing when it comes to marriage. It shouldn't be considered an obligation, and in that way not so many marriages would end up in divorce. Marriage is a ceremony that happens because two people want to, or so it should be, and that's why it doesn't matter when
• China
29 Dec 10
Yes, it is not the matter of time. and If you think you have found your true love and you think you want to share everything with her and spend the time forever. You can get married. But you must think carefully before married. Whether you can take more responsibilities if very important.
• Philippines
27 Dec 10
Hello Tyler, I guess there are both advantages and disadvantages if you get married late or early. What matters most is the maturity of the couple to assume the responsibility. Marriage entaisl parenting that should be taken into consideration when the couple decide to found a family. For couples who marry at an early age, it would be good because they will have ample time to prepare for their children's future. When they reach the age of 60, perhaps all their children had already completed their education and so they could live comfortably and enjoy retirement. But on the process, it would be tough. To face a heavy responsibility as parents is a very crucial. Lucky are those who can surpass this and those who were able to achieve stability through determination and hard work. On the other hand, it is obviously noted that when married couple are already financially stable before getting married, people would really say it is the right age and it is good because they can secure the future of their children. Most people I know regret marrying so late. At the age of 50, their eldest child would range from 8-14 years of age. Meaning by the time they retire, maybe their children are still in their university years and they have to work still for their children's education. Seeing these points if I were to decide, I would prefer to get married early. As long as one is ready, there is always a way to surpass the challenges in marriage.
• China
29 Dec 10
Personally speaking, I don't want to get married early. And I want to get married at the age of about 30. I think at that time I am mature enough can take more responsibilities for my family members.
27 Dec 10
well i dont think its good to get married early and by that i mean its not ok to get married below age of 24 or so,but also you should consider duration of your relationship because people need to know each other really good before marriage,i dont think you should rush ,meet your girlfriend better and then after few years together make decision,many people rush in marrigae after being in relationshio for only 1 year or even few months ,i dont say that theirs marriage will fal apart soon afte getting married bit i think its good to give yourself little space before making such important decision,because marriage is serious thing .many young people are not beware of importance and seriousnes of marriage so they rush in marriage and after some time they see that they had made mistake ( i dont say its always like that).after that often the next thing is divorcing where no one can be happy and if they have children they are ones that suffer most.i see many people even on age of 16 or 17 getting married ,sometimes those marriages work but sometimes dont,because people of that age are not still mature enough to realize real maening of marrigae,those are still puberty ages and maybe you think you love someone but next day may be different som its better to wait for some time,afterall if you really love someone it doesnt matter will you get married today,tommorow,or after few years because true love never ends... ;D
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• China
29 Dec 10
I agree with you. We must think carefully before we get married. We must make sure that the partner is your true love whom you want spend the your life time with. You want to share your happiness, sadness and everything . There are really some people around me . They got married after they got to know each other for a short time. After marriage, they find many shortcomings on the other person and cannot tolerate, finally, they divorced. Usually young people cannot be mature enough to realize the real meaning of marriage. To find your Mr.Right in millions is really a easy thing.
@tvarasu10 (101)
• India
27 Dec 10
get marry early ie before 30 yrs is better because at that time you are energetic in life to earn and enjoy.Moreover in later part of life you will be able to settle the marriage of children and yourself
• China
29 Dec 10
I plant to get married at the age of about 30. I think at that time, I will be mature enough to take more responsibility for my wife and children.
@singup (666)
• Malaysia
27 Dec 10
This is easy If you live in the city do not get married now If you are in the countryside to hear your parents and married If you are considering university study do not have the money to give you a scholarship or not marry In the event that your finances go and get married now If you like emotional stability, and that you have a wife and children and unable to bear the financial responsibility and social married now But if you love freedom and departure and identify many of the girls love and traffic experiences many do not marry In the latter Look inside yourself Would you like to torrential marriage or do you still want to start and to identify the girls and taking experience love before marriage?
• China
29 Dec 10
I know what you mean. In one word, different people have different occasions. We cannot absolutely say getting married early or late is good or bad. As for me, I like freedom now.I think I am young and I need enjoy myself now. If I get married now, I think I have more responsibility, and cannot do whatever I wanna do.
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
20 Jun 11
Good observation you got there Tyler. I think most people living in the city married later because they are caught up with their work and their careers as for those in the countryside, the primary concern after studying is having a family and raising kids. To answer your question, the decision to get married is influenced by the priorities set by the person. Those who want to have a more stable life for their future family would tend to marry at a later age when they are already settled with their careers and has enough money to sustain a better future for their family. While those who really want to raise kids tend to marry at a much younger age. It is easier to have children when you are younger than when you are older. Still, what is important in any marriages is that it is founded by love and the couples will try their best to work hard to make the marriage work.