use and user
By asliah
@asliah (11137)
Philippines
December 26, 2010 9:43am CST
have you ever experienced in your love life,
that you are being used by a user?
you thought that he/she really loves you,
but he/she only use you for his/her own intention or benefits?
its so hard to be used by a user,
coz no matter effort and love you gave,
in the end you are still the looser.
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15 responses
@jugsjugs (12967)
•
26 Dec 10
I am married now, but in the past that has happened.A person used me to say that i was their girlfriend, so that they could be just like all their other friends, as in say that they had a girl friend.I think that there are lots of people that are with other people for lots of reasons, as some people have motives, as to why they are with some people.
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@smashville14 (278)
• Philippines
26 Dec 10
I was USED before for a personal intention.. then because I was hurt and angry, I became a USER...out of revenge I guess. I know it was wrong and I regret doing it to the girl. I'm just a bit glad it was a One-time experience alone.. I just think of those memory now as part of becoming a mature individual emotionally and mentally.
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@Bianca_mergillano (1067)
• Philippines
3 Jan 11
Good day!
I've been used and I've been by a user too and I felt really sad that time like I wanted to kill that person. At first I thought he really loves me but only to find out that his intention is to get money and something, material things from me? Wow! By the way he's my first boyfriend that's why I'm not that matured enough that time. hehe!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
27 Dec 10
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@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
30 Dec 10
That is a very sad truth that some people really use others to gain something. Lucky for me i have never experienced being used before by a user. One should really not let love lead the way all the time. We also have to use our mind to think and observe if we are being used or not.
@DoctorDidi (7018)
• India
27 Dec 10
I have no such experience. But one thing I must say, if you surrender, you must be ready to be used.
@circles122345 (5)
• Philippines
27 Dec 10
now a days, that's a normal for the men/women who can't directly talk in person to whom they well express his/her feelings. some well, shy himself that's because of not cute, handsome, and maybe the gurl/boy is beautiful than him/her.
@birdie816 (1276)
• United States
27 Dec 10
i hate to admit this but instead of being used, i have been the user. the good thing about it though is that i knew no one was in love or anything, but i think the guy really liked me. i on the other hand didn't really want him in particular. i just wanted a boyfriend for all the wrong reasons like for him to buy me stuff. that "plan" didn't work out too well though because he was so broke he had to borrow money from his parents to pay for dates lol. but i was young and stupid back then and it was when i had first started dating. and the funny thing about that is that when i stopped being so concerned with being in a relationship for all the wrong reasons like money, i actually got more material things than i could imagine, not to mention we are actually in love, which makes it a million times better :)
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Dec 10
I have been used in the past but I feel I was a winner once I rid of the person. It is unfortunate though that the person has not learned as I understand that although he has had bad karma he still remains the same.
I have never revenged against anyone as it would make me no better then this person. I just take my losses and go onward in my life as why would I dwell on the past. I just learned to make much better conscious decisions in life and be weary of anyone with ill intentions.
@toniganzon (72277)
• Philippines
27 Dec 10
Yeah, there was this person who used me for personal gratification and he said he loved me to make me feel better and give in to his wishes. When i realized that he was only in for the fun, it made me bitter and then I did the same thing to him. Now i know for sure that he regret what he did to me and that he wished he'd never hurt me.
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
26 Dec 10
I think it is a process of getting used and using others in love. Someone is seduced and someone seduces. It is a process which runs both ways. I believe in enjoying the process and I don't care if I am the one seduced or one who is the seducer.
I know I have changed the work "user" to the "seducer" because I think it fits good here. People gets seduced with beauty, money and fame so it is natural and I think one should not bother about it. What I have to do here is to decide my role and then enjoy the game.
@cssiduyz (1053)
• Indonesia
27 Dec 10
If we love someone, we will always pray for him
although he was not our side. God gave us two legs to walk, two hands to hold, two ears to hear and two eyes to see. But why does God only bestows on us a piece of liver?
Since God has given another piece of liver to someone for us to look. That's Love ...
Do not occasionally say goodbye if you still want to try.
Do not give up if we still occasionally feel able.
Do not occasionally say we do not love him anymore, if we still can not forget it.
Love comes to those who still have hope, although they have been disappointed.
To those who still believe, even though they had been betrayed. To those who still want to love, even though they have been hurt before and To those who have the courage and conviction to build back confidence.
@julialynne (85)
• United States
27 Dec 10
I have had boyfriends and friends that have used me for what they wanted and when I gave what they wanted then they left and I never heard from them again, sometimes friends are really not your friends and it makes you wonder if you should ever trust anyone again, but you can't judge one friend to another one that may be a true friend.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
26 Dec 10
It depends friend, what you mean by used.
I think i've been in that situation, not only with lovers but with friends too, who used my knowledge and what a person am i, to do their own stuff.
In my present relationship, i pay nearly all expenses, even the bank credits of my boyfriend for half an year and it was looking a lot like he used me, but now we are still together and we still love each other even if we don't have so much money. The line between feelings and using the others is too thin and sometimes it's hard for us to make difference, but if everything change, if we are not able to help, support and love the other person and he still is around us, even something which seemed like "use" would be love or real feelings.
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