Have you experience in a difficult situation in a relationship?
By braimer23
@braimer23 (108)
Philippines
December 31, 2010 6:24am CST
Hey myloters, im here again sharing this difficult situation of my friend so i need all your insight and opinions. So lets start, my friend asking me to help her in a big problem, its all about relationship, there is a guy currently courting her for about a year. Now this guy still have a girlfriend which he did not love anymore, BUt his girlfriend was so obsess to the guy, wherein she warned the guy that if ever he leaves the girl she will commit suicide. Now my friend was so depressed about this matter and very confused of what should she do, she told me that she already loved the guy but she was afraid to accept the guy as her boyfriend because of the treat of the girl. What can you advice about this matter myloters? Should she follows her heart or sacrifice it for the sake of the gf of the guy whom he did not loved anymore?
What should my friend do in this situation?
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4 responses
@khalida (1126)
• India
1 Jan 11
well, thats quite complicated. in such a situation, there is nothing much your friend can do. where as that guy can make his current gf understand that they have to break up for good and that he likes somebody else. This way, she lets go in a way that doesn't depresses her out to do something crazy.
another point of view is that, is your friend sure that, the guy concerned really loves her? he might be playing the fool too, considering how he is treating his gf now? that is something your friend should consider.
@braimer23 (108)
• Philippines
2 Jan 11
well i think the guy is serious, just imagine for about more than a year of courting my friend well i guess thats enough to prove his sincerity.
@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
31 Dec 10
your friend shouldn't worry about her suitor's problem. he should make his own move and resolve his own issues with his girlfriend before making a go with your friend, otherwise, she may end up holding an empty bag in the end, or worst, be held responsible (or guilty) for something that should not even concern her.
just caution your friend that she should not commit first unless everything is cut and cut clear between the gf and her suitor. i don't know about that guy, but he should've resolved his issues with his gf before courting your friend or any girl for that matter. it would not be fair for any girl who will get involved with him if he doesn't fix that problem first.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
1 Jan 11
Hello, Braimer.
In this case, it is not your friend who is going to decide what to do. It is the guy's (the one who is courting her) responsibility to end the relationship with the other girl before jumping into a new one with your friend. Though your friend loves the guy but ,still, it is not hers to decide.
You tell her to tell the guy that he must end the relationship first with his current girlfreind and that's the only time she decides what to do. Now, if the guy breaks up with his gf, she must not be scared because she shouldn't burdened herself with guilt for something that she did not do. The would be ex is at fault just in case she (the ex) will eventually get herself killed.
In this case, it is not your friend who is going to decide what to do. It is the guy's (the one who is courting her) responsibility to end the relationship with the other girl before jumping into a new one with your friend. Though your friend loves the guy but ,still, it is not hers to decide.
You tell her to tell the guy that he must end the relationship first with his current girlfreind and that's the only time she decides what to do. Now, if the guy breaks up with his gf, she must not be scared because she shouldn't burdened herself with guilt for something that she did not do. The would be ex is at fault just in case she (the ex) will eventually get herself killed.