had a bad beginning of my new year.how do you get along well with your parents
By miniheven
@miniheven (74)
January 1, 2011 12:11am CST
i quarrelled with my father at the first day of this year. i regret about what have happened. i don't want it to be a fateful sign of this year.
i was just busy with something and didn't give my mom the apple my dad told me to do. my dad had nothing to do at the time and he just stood by me and sticked to force me to do so. i thought this was ridiculous. i didn't know what was the point of his act. then we quarrelled.
he said i ignored his father status. and he put out this reason everytime this kind of things happened. he thought i made no contribution to our family and i should do everything he told me to do.
i didn't go against him on purpose. i just happened to have no time. why don't they show me some understanding? i usually waited for them to pick me up on their way home after work. they always kept me waiting for at most half an hour with different kinds of reason, such as stopped by for buying some stuff or there was a traffic jam. i showed my respect usually. but once i was stuck at something, they complaint a lot about that.
i don't feel happy living with them. they two also quarreled for some small things. endless and pointless quarrels. i do love them.but maybe i will love them more if i live apart from them. i was wondering if you have the same feeling like me,or disagree with me.
3 responses
@eurekafemme (5876)
• Philippines
2 Jan 11
Miniheven.
Parents are sometimes like that. They seem to vie with each other for power, even with us , their children. I sometimes do not understand my parents, too. So, whenever we have an argument or misunderstanding I just keep quite. Doing this made them believe that I am accepting they are right and I was wrong. but no. Actually, it is the other way around but when you are arguing with your parents and you are living in their house, that argument is something that you will never win.
If you can be independent and live on your own, then do it. Good luck and God bless.
@miniheven (74)
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2 Jan 11
hehe. you are clever. i did like what you said. but if this kind of things happen more than once a day, i just can't control my temper and i will be like volcanic explosion. i will do like as you said. thanks
@calpro (930)
• India
2 Jan 11
Hi miniheven
Understanding should be from both ends. From you as well as from your father. I see no mistake from both ends but I sense a bit of communication gap between you guys. That is all. I agree with you there is no need to force you to make do the things.
You would have explained him you were busy in a respectful tone. Anyway forget about it at the earliest. Go with new year and new goals in in this new year. My suggestion to you is make them understand that you always respect them as your parents by your gestures. I am sure that will fill up the gap between you and your father. Parents also need to understand children and respect them too.
Happy Living
Calpro
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
1 Jan 11
i'm so sorry to hear that you have a quarrel with your father on the first day of new year... i always try my best to obey my parents as much as i can especially now they are already old because that is what i had been taught in my religion and it is the right thing to do as well... parents can be ridiculous sometimes... but if i can still tolerate them, i will just try to be quiet and follow what they want... i just want to be a filial daughter and make them happy as long as i can... take care and have a nice day...