Taking it the opposite way!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
United States
January 1, 2011 2:14pm CST
Have you ever tried to advise a person and they took what you said the complete opposite way? I have but most of the time I am the one taking things the complete wrong way, especially when it comes to my health. Why else would I come with the name Food Nazis.They say I shouldn't eat " junk" food. I hear them say that they want me to starve Or worse Never eat what I want so I can live better? Why? So instead of saying I guess that's a good idea for some , I say f@ck you , I rather die sooner thanks. They also say eating Too much meat is bad. I hear die already , Why? What they don't know is I don't eat vegetables so I would wind up not eating. In other words they don't want me to eat at all . So I say F@ck you I"m eating meat So sorry. And when people would say I Have to cook to make a guy fall for me Faster I took it as I would never be loved Ever Why? I will not cook.Or that if you Really love the guy/girl you should marry and have children. I hear this and I say , I will never love. Marriage and kids are not fir me. So have you ever Thought you had said a few simple words of advice and the other person take it the complete opposite way? Or are you like me, you hear it but take it the wrong way?
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
2 Jan 11
I am a defensive person. I am used to be deemed wrong or unhealthy so I just assume No One will see it the way I do , so Why ask for advice? This Capricorn has horns for a reason. But with that said , have noticed that there are a few people who agree with my view on some things. I was G-d smacked when I found that put.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
1 Jan 11
Hi Sarah,
Giving a piece of advice to anyone is quite an easy thing - You never would be in the practicalities of the one whom you are giving it and so you are always safe. Now when the implementation of the advice starts, the real things come up... not always pleasant with everyone as everyone has his/her limitations and / or inhibitions.
It is always advisable (lol advising again) to think from your heart and brain before implementing them... Blindly following anything is not always smart... can prove hazardous.
I listen to the advice, think about its pros and cons - whether it fits me or can be managed by me - if needed make a couple of changes to suit me and then implement or leave it altogether. But yes, if unsure of anything, take advice or I would say suggestions or opinions. This helps many a times in looking at the issue from a different perspective.
Cheers,
theSids
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
2 Jan 11
I rarely ask for advice. It opens the door to a Huge arguments, especially when a person assumes they know me.They mean well but if they Only knew what I hear when they say it , they would stop. I now may talk things out with my guy but I never ask "What should I do?" I Know what I Want to do , I just need to think. And I never need Anyone to help me think.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
2 Jan 11
Oops! Did I take what you said the wrong way at this posts of All posts, lol?! Let's start over. I never just give advice unless I'm asked. And I never ask for advice because I would never heed it. But there are times people state things I Should do and if it is a thing I will never do , I take it wrongly!
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
2 Jan 11
it happens to me sometimes but rarely... because i always try to clarify things with the other person if i'm not clear what he/she is talking about and also i always try to think positively most of the time now so that i won't get hurt easily... i had learn the hard way that being a sensitive person doesn't benefit me at all... so it is better to be a more carefree person... take care and have a nice day...
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
2 Jan 11
I'm supersensitive . And I have a hair trigger temper . A deadly combination. But I like it that way. I rather feel too much than not enough.I do try to understand the motive behind what is being said to me but I can not and will not promise nit to get pi$$ed off by what I hear.
@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
2 Jan 11
Not sure about advice, but I've had someone turn a compliment inside out.
"Wow, I didn't know you could sing!" Did not mean "I didn't expect you to be able to sing," it meant "Wow! You have a talent I hadn't yet discovered." Just like "Hey! There's an extra $50 in my wallet!" :)
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
2 Jan 11
Wow I never had that happen. That person must not know how to take a compliment. I have been lucky , Every person I have complimented has just smiled and said thank you.
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@Gorillafootprints925 (3586)
• United States
1 Jan 11
Sometimes I do but sometimes i don't. It will probably depend on the convincing power of the advice and how I see it.
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@Vaultar (95)
• Romania
1 Jan 11
Yea , it happened to me once , a friend told me what she should do because she got in a fight with another friends , I don't remember much but I remember I told her to do something (don't remember what , it was a couple of years ago) and then all of a sudden she left and she didn't wanna talk to me and I kept wondering why , then I realized she must've understood what I meant the wrong way and I apologized and then she told me that she understood I said she should get her friend to feel guilty about what happened . x_x
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@anniepa (27955)
• United States
2 Jan 11
Gee, I just don't know what to say! I mean I might be taking you wrong but I don't know what to say because you might take ME wrong for taking YOU wrong...lol!
Anyway, seriously, you don't eat vegetables AT ALL? I'm not giving you advice, I'm just asking, but I know a lot of people who don't like most veggies but that doesn't mean they don't eat anything but meat...lol!
Annie
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
2 Jan 11
Potatoes , as French Fries, tomato sauce and sometimes a green pepper on a pizza. But other than that, No vegetables. I Know I hate peas , I mean I have tried them and I don't like the taste. And I remember liking iceberg lettuce buit I haven't had it in 30 years. My mom , bless her , didn't force me to eat Anything. As a baby I wouldn't eat , period. So I was born a picky eater and nothing has changed.If Y think I won't like it , I don't try it. I rather fast until I can get something I Know I like than try something new. ps. We are friends . Ask me anything.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
3 Jan 11
D'oh! I forgot about corn. I love sweet corn. and that's what I used to have lettuce and thousand Island dressing. But That was when I was less than 12. As for seafood. I don't eat fish , not anymore. From the age of 6 until 12 , I had nothing but tuna for lunch during the school year. Now I don't eat seafood at all.
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@anniepa (27955)
• United States
3 Jan 11
That's not so bad, I mean at least you like potatoes and tomato sauce. Actually, you're pretty close to how my granddaughter eats except for she eats almost no meat and she does like corn and salad, which to her is just lettuce and dressing. I'm kind of a picky eater myself but I eat less meat than vegetables. But I LOVE fish and seafood.
Annie
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
2 Jan 11
I think that we all face hearing advice in the wrong manner sometimes. The thing is that when you get advice from people..that is just what it is..advice. They don't live nor feel the same way so it's easy to say things like don't eat meat because they love veggies. It's easy to say you have to get married and have children because that's the most important thing in their minds and/or what they have been taught is the "life cycle". Or on the flip side...we haven't experienced some of the health issues that another might have so our quality of life opinions differ. My grandmother was against drinking sodas and would ride me like a horse over the fact that I drank them. It was because she suffered kidney failure and had to do dialysis. I know she just didn't want me to suffer that. I think that it's ok to listen at advice..it gives us choices but at the same time..we need to be the ones to decide what advice is right for us. Take it with a grain of salt and try not to be offended..people are so different.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
3 Jan 11
Lol!Actually my guy keeps me from getting pi$$ed these days. With him I can see what is a little thing and I can let it go. But I still have a temper and I use it over the mid-size and large things.
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@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
4 Jan 11
I was like this as a kid. I had a big ego, that every time I would get reprimanded, by my parents or teachers, I'd just do the opposite. I even know that it is wrong, but I keep doing it to spite the people that reprimande me.
To some extent, I am still like this. Although I try to think things through, I still like making other people miserable to spite them.
