what is courtship for you?
By sweetyellow
@sweetyellow (86)
Philippines
January 2, 2011 6:47am CST
For me courtship is a time to see the good, the bad and the ugly in the we love. Then our emotions and decisions about relationship can based on fact. But it does call us to make sure that these feelings are flowing from reality, not wishful thinking or rationalization..
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@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
5 Jan 11
courtship ... I'm not really sure.
I mean, I know the 'dictionary' would describe it as "dating," but 'dating' has always seemed to me to be the time when you 'present yourself' (not quite the way animals do in their courtship, but rather you 'put on the mask & costume of the person you would have people believe you are.')
My "good, bad and ugly" happens WHILE I'M HAVING FUN, which is HARDER TO DO while 'presenting myself' (when I have to worry about 'how things look' etc.) So courtship should be 'going together where you both usually have fun apart.'
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
5 Jan 11
To me courtship is the period where you spend a great deal of quality time to get to know one another. This "going together where you both usually have fun apart" Sounds to like friends with benefits. 
As yes just because you courting does not mean you can't spend time apart, but too much time apart will not allow for getting to know what one or the other is about, No??
As yes just because you courting does not mean you can't spend time apart, but too much time apart will not allow for getting to know what one or the other is about, No??@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
10 Jan 11
I don't mean 'being apart,' I mean 'doing things together' (the same things you did when you were apart, but together now!)
And it is 'friends with benefits'! Maybe not the 'benefits' Sue Sylvester & Barney Stinson would share, but ... FRIENDS FIRST!
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
2 Jan 11
Courtship is the unspecified set time period for a couple to get to learn and know about one another. It is the time period that we either truly fall in love and or realize we are not right for one another.
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
5 Jan 11
where you 'take each other to the scales & see how well-met ye meet' ... or something.
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
2 Jan 11
Courtship? lol...Yes, dating helps you to get to know what's on the surface, but it takes much more than courtship to find out if you really love the person. You need to meet the family, know the friends, see how the person interacts with other individuals, etc...When you marry the man, you also marry the family.
@sweetyellow (86)
• Philippines
3 Jan 11
Yes,,and it takes patience to wait to go to the next level of your relationship, until you're truly ready to court or date with purpose. Then after you've started a purposeful relationship, you'll need patience to make sure it unfolds at a healthy pace. Interacting not just to the person who you love but also in families, in church life, with friends and at handling pressure. cheers!
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
4 Jan 11
hello sweetyellow,
for me courtship is the seeking and looking time. it has been perceived that it is the man's to actively "court" or "woo" the woman, thus encouraging her interest in him and her receptiveness to a proposal of marriage. 
it includes the going out together in public more particularly known as dating: either movies, meal, outing and other social activity. but it also includes private activities such as talking together, either personally or by phone or text messages or email. sending love letters is part of courtship, and gifts and flowers. sometimes a more romantic man writes a song to his love one. courtship in the Philippines is a complex one.
it takes a far more subdued and indirect approach. i say complex because it involves stages, and it is considered normal for courtship to last a year or longer. it is common to see the male showing off by sending love letters and love poems, singing romantic songs and buying gifts for the female. the female's parents are also seen as part of the courtship practice because their approval is commonly needed before courtship may begin, or before the female gives the male an answer to his advances. but more modern courtship is becoming more popular.
happy new year!
ann
it includes the going out together in public more particularly known as dating: either movies, meal, outing and other social activity. but it also includes private activities such as talking together, either personally or by phone or text messages or email. sending love letters is part of courtship, and gifts and flowers. sometimes a more romantic man writes a song to his love one. courtship in the Philippines is a complex one. it takes a far more subdued and indirect approach. i say complex because it involves stages, and it is considered normal for courtship to last a year or longer. it is common to see the male showing off by sending love letters and love poems, singing romantic songs and buying gifts for the female. the female's parents are also seen as part of the courtship practice because their approval is commonly needed before courtship may begin, or before the female gives the male an answer to his advances. but more modern courtship is becoming more popular.
happy new year!
ann
@nykel88 (999)
• Philippines
2 Jan 11
When I see the word Courtship I practically misinterpret it as same with relationship they are somewhat similar. Are they? In recent books they are interrelatedly used. If it still is related to relationship.. the simplest for of what I can describe to it is that "couples getting to know each other". Thats what I see on it. :)
@sweetyellow (86)
• Philippines
3 Jan 11
Oh that's it nyk ,in the season of courtship we have to fight the tendency to fill what's lacking in our knowledge of the other person with emotion based on fantasy. If we don't know something about him or her, we need to talk, ask probing questions and discover who they really are - their values, their motivation and their goals. We need to move beyond typical, artificial dating activities and observe each other in real settings.
@sweetmary86 (822)
• Philippines
4 Jan 11
courtship is expressing how much you like a person and how much you desire to be with this person. if guys should court, they should give enough time and effort. surprises and dinner dates. thoughtful acts such as giving flowers, calling or texting and spending activities together.
