rejected by a dating site!
By ren1982
@ren1982 (341)
January 2, 2011 5:28pm CST
so the other day i was watching telly when a ad came on for a well known uk dating site and you can go here and get a compatibility test and then you get to see all your matches. so i was bored and thought i am newly single why not.....
i go on the site and start filling all these questions, and yes i filled in honestly. and then i get to the end and it says click here to see your matches so i click away and what do i get told?? thats right that there is no one compatible for me! and then goes on to tell me whats wrong with me and what i should try to do! now i no i am not the best girlfriend in the world and i am a bit of a pain but still i didnt think i was that bad! so i guess there really isnt anyone out there for me i am just to weird of a person!!! hahaha
have you ever tried a dating site? did it work out? did you get rejected??
do you think there is really someone out there for everyone or do you think that some people are just to weird???
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11 responses
@phoenix3423 (135)
• United States
2 Jan 11
Wow that is nuts how can they after a few questions know you or if you are right for someone. If a computer could figure it all out then there would be no need for a site just put in info and they match you and tada instant match. No talking or meeting needed lol. I do believe there is someone out there for everyone, no one is too wierd, if that were the case then I would not be married cause I sure am strange hehe. You sound like a great fun person and I am sure you will find someone equally as awsome
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@FriendlyGirl777 (108)
• United States
3 Jan 11
I agree. Don't be offended by the rejection. There is a silver lining in every cloud. It was probably to your benefit. Trust me. Move on. Did you have to answer a series of questions? Perhaps you are not a great test taker and did not answer the questions correctly. People can and do fail even the easiest test no matter how smart they are just by making some stupid mistakes when responding. They put in the wrong answer, etc. I would never go by a computer generated test especially when it comes to compatibility. Don't sweat the small stuff and move on. NEXT!!!! Try try again...I bet you'll be glad the first site rejected you when you finally do meet the right one!!!
Happy New Year!
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
3 Jan 11
Hmm, I tried one or two dating sites before, but I didn't get much from it. I just don't have much time for those dating sites I guess. I didn't keep up with those websites eventually. So, does your website cost any money at all?
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@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
3 Jan 11
That would make two of us... weird.
No, I didn't do a dating site. My cousin went to a person who is able to see things and the future, and I was with her. When her purpose was served, she asked the man to look over me (who I will marry and things like that). He said, it's difficult to see my husband-to-be. In other words, I may not destined to have one. So, be it....
By the way, I am outspoken, bold, imprudence, does not care... enough weird?
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
3 Jan 11
I do believe there is someone for everyone out there. That test is computer generated so many something was answered incorrectly.
Now you say you are newly single, are you divorced or separated? Just curious as some sites say that separated people will not be accepted until fully divorced. Or maybe you were way too specific on something they find incompatible. At any rate ren1982, maybe you should take it again, or try another service. As my first thought would be that if none of those I mention apply then you would not want to date from their service anyways.
Years ago after my divorce I gave one a try but unfortunately the men were so lonely and desperate that some wanted to marry me just by viewing my profile and picture. That without even meeting me.. LOL I ran out of the site pretty fast.
@ren1982 (341)
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3 Jan 11
hey, i am separated but i always put down single or divorced. i never put down i am separated cos that part of my life is closed and is over so i rather have divorced down. i dont think i will try it again now lol to much shame to be rejected again hahaha but i guess i will just have to play the waiting game now!
@RebeccaScarlett (2532)
• Canada
3 Jan 11
Sounds like a ploy to keep you on the site longer if you ask me (was it a free site or paid site?)
I mean, in this world with billions of people, and hundreds of millions of them are on dating websites, there is someone perfect for you no matter how weird/demanding you are, and no matter what you look like!
@mikeyr6000le (2123)
• United States
3 Jan 11
That is just wrong on the side of the dating site. They shouldn't even have that as an option. I on the usual ones here in the U.S. such as Eharmony and chemestry and some others but haven't had any luck with them. I've met a few people and just chatted and then when I send a picture for some reason the chatting stops lol.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
3 Jan 11
I thought that to join a UK dating site the person would have to be over the age of 18 years old. Their might be a common interest of the members the person joining would have to say yes to. For example it might be a dating site for vegetarian people. If so some of the members would be vegan, lots would be vegetarian and some would be new to trying to be a vegetarian. A person that is not vegetarian or vegan might not be able to join possibly. I don't really imagine they would reject a person that wanted to join. When saying who is ideal for you it could be a person living up to 100 miles from you. If you put 10 miles there might not be anyone in that area. You could put a wide age range. One of my friends joined a dating site. She was 32 years old at that time. Her age range was 28 to 35 years old. Then she dated a man of 38 years old. That didn't work out. She ended up with a man of 48 years old and now they are in a very happy relationship.
@CinnamorollTK (263)
• United States
3 Jan 11
I find it peculiar that dating sites can reject anyone. If a person has a very specific set of interests, strange as they may be to the sitemaker, they should still be allowed to be matched by a percentage similarity.
Perhaps you weren't a perfect match with anyone, but an 80% match with some?
(And I haven't joined any sort of maatchmaking or dating site, so I can't comment on that part.)
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
3 Jan 11
We face enough rejections on a day to day basis. How discouraging it can be when a dating site rejects us as well. How do you get your confidence back from that? @gnomeland (421)
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3 Jan 11
I am an old romantic so the answer is simple, yes there is someone out there for everyone but sometimes these people are right under your nose and you just have to realise the fact. if you have many 'boyfriends' that are just friends who you go out with in a group i will guarantee that someone will think you are just perfect. sometimes love comes from strange and unexpected angles when you are just not expecting it. so enjoy and just be you, what do these machine sites run for money know anyhow? good luck for 2011.
