people and wedding gift

hello loveworld, Giving gift is not by request let your friends give it you, i found it childish so this wedding have a policy "NO GIFT, NO ENTRY?" . Gift is not important the presence of your bestfriend on your wedding day will be enough if i am in the position it will be fine a wishes will do with or without gift i will be happy as long as they present on my big day. have a nice day!

I feel these friends have taken advantage of your friendship. They should not be putting you in the middle of all this. It is up to the friends whether or not they want to exchange wedding gifts. It is true sometimes, that some do not have a gift to give, but by joining in the festivities and helping to celebrate the wedding actually is a gift. Anything extra as a wrapped present should be accepted graciously.

When we got married, one of my husband's friends didn't buy us a wedding gift. But, when this guy got remarried (which didn't last), we bought him a wedding gift. I was meeting his new wife for the first time, and didn't want it to reflect badly upon myself (and my husband), if we didn't get anything for them. So, we took a present for them, and over and over my husband kept saying we shouldn't even be getting him anything, since he never got us anything, but I just said that it is better to do our part, no matter what. Some people I guess just don't understand that if you treat people one way that is how you are most likely to get treated, but it is better to try and treat others better than they deserve. So, maybe if you talk to them, just say, something like that. That, OK, he didn't get you anything, but you can still get him something. Or if they all want to go out together for dinner or an event, and split the tab, that is a fun way of reconciling.