Does your parents compare you to your cousins?

You reminding me of my childhood days. I still remember, when I was a kid, my parents never compared me with any of my relatives. But some of my close relatives used to compare me with others. And I used to get really angry. Sometime, they used to compare regarding my result, sometimes even my height. And that also whenever I will go to their home, that time. So I was kind of pissed off by all these people. Now I am working as software engineer and I have achieved whatever goals I wanted to achive in my life. So whenever I remember all those nonsense, it makes me laugh.

My parents have never compared me to my cousins, but that's probably because they're all younger than me and we live far away the ones from the anothers. I think parents shouldn't use the comparison tactic, as it only works to dicrease the confidence of their own children, and never to make them better. It's a cruel thing to do, as everyone should be special in their own way, and not compared to others.

I do feel like I am compared to my sister and maybe a little to my step-brother. My parents might not always say it to my face, but sometimes, it will seem that way from something they might have said or something. It gets frustrating. It's really not something that I like.

yes. My parents do it, almost every day. I just hate it. I lost my confidence.feel like a looser. They never satisfy with me.

I am my own person. I don't like being compared to others. My mom never does that to me but my dad does all the time and I always tell him that I don't really care at all. It will never make me a better person rather a better person for myself and for the people that wants me in their life for who i am.

Well I only have one set of cousins from my mom's side of the family. My dad was adopted so no one on that side. I remember that we would get compared by my mom to them "they are better looking, more educated, made better choices, etc..." I don't see both of them anymore so I don't get compared to no one. I didn't know asian families did this?

not at all... i don't like to be compared with anybody because God created me as a unique creation and everybody is different... i always tell my parents not to compare me with anybody because i will get really upset if they do... and they understand me and stop doing it... take care and have a nice day...

Good Day! Yes, sometimes they do but I really don't like it because its putting me down making me feel insecure and I'm losing my confidence.

Actually I will tend to make comparison of myself with my cousins, not so much on my parents side. But your discussion triggers another issue that I have noticed. I think it's a common situation which most of us will encounter when meeting up with relatives. Start from young age, my relative would question about my education (that's when they will start to talk about their own kids being in a reputable school or getting good grades). When graduated, they will asked about my professions and current love life. And subsequently, it will become the question on the time frame set for marriage, followed by housing, kids etc. That's when things become annoying because it's repeated year after year. Do you also encounter such situation?

yes, that's terrible cause all my aunts do that and it created a horrible competition that i don't participate, it's just ridiculous

hi, actually my parents didn't do that, ever since,comparing me to my cousin, and even now.

Hi, I'm also being compared by my parents to my cousins. But is was in different way. That happened when I was a child. Whenever my cousins will have a summer vacation in our house, there is an assurance that I will be always compared. My cousins were kinda healthy and eat with appetite while me, I'm thin but I'm not easily getting diseases and I don't like eating much. We always eat together. My parents would always say; "Look at your cousins. They are healthy and invulnerable to sickness. Look at yourself, you are thin and you eat like a bird." Of course, I would be embarrassed.