We're not best friends anymore
@Bianca_mergillano (1067)
Philippines
January 5, 2011 4:14pm CST
Good Day to all!
I have a best friend before but I lost her now. Here's the story. I've found out that she's spreading rumors about me that I'm this and that and so many more. I can also feel it. I also don't like it when her facial expression seems "badtrip" every time I'm with her especially when somebody gave me a compliment. Now, I'm schooling and now, she's not. Another thing why i don't want hang up with her is that it seems like she don't want me talking to her crush. And that is the problem, her crush likes me that's why he keeps on talking to me but she said that she doesn't like that guy anymore but I was surprised when my other friends told me that she cried because of me - because of talking to that guy though he's only my friend that's why I end up losing that friend to give way for her. But I just hate this, she's not supportive to me especially when it comes to relationship with someone. She seems like she don't want to have a boyfriend. By the way she's single. I'm having a hard time when I'm with her because of those things. Well, this is the worst part. There are so many opportunities that came to me but they all passed away because of her. Like for example, whenever we're supposed to go somewhere, we always talked about it 1 day before so that it would be fixed but then it always happen that when morning comes, she's not always prepared for the reason that she's not going. I just hate it because I don't like those things to be done, be undone. I understand her but what about me? what would happen to me? Not all the time we're in the same shoe. We're different. I've been so nice to her but look what she'd done. She's just telling rumors about me which is not true. I already forgive her but the trust is hard to gain. but I think this is really meant to happen because now, I can do things freely. I can go wherever I want without her asking where would I go. I can have friends without her giving a malice. I can do things without her asking what is it for. I still have best friends which are true and they're my best friends since elementary. Until now we're best friends so I don't regret that we're not close anymore because good things happen to me now. I just learned my lesson from her. I learned to have patience and to be forgiving. Well, its just hard to have a best friend who has different principles from you and who's not supportive and who can't accept you for who you are that's why I gave her up.
6 responses
@FriendlyGirl777 (108)
• United States
6 Jan 11
I know this may be hard to believe, but you are probably better off. It's better that you know the truth than not know the truth. I think we have to be very selective in who we choose as friends. We have to be good friends to ourselves. Yes, it is important to have friends, but they must be good friends. If the signs are there, pay close attention to them. They always are. It's okay to keep someone as a friend even if you notice things, but always keep what bothers you about that person in the back of your mind. I am sure you noticed things about this friend for a long time. Stay true to yourself and everything else will fall in place.
FriendlyGirl777
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
6 Jan 11
from what i read from your post, she is not even worth to be your best friend... i feel like she is just making use of you and make your life miserable... also, she is betraying you by stabbing you from your back through her untrue rumours... it's good that you cut all ties with her... i think it is best that way... otherwise, you are the one who will get hurt... take care and have a nice day...
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
5 Jan 11
I feel sorry for that. She doesn't deserve your friendship after all. You should get someone better than her. Anyway, you should find someone who appreciate you as a real friend, not someone who just back - stabbing you all the time. Good luck!
@mayur71091 (425)
• India
5 Jan 11
i read that your friend was spreading rumors about you, that's it.
But when you said she was your friend then the thing arise is that how can you say that, that was absolutely rumors, don't mind but when you say someone your friend then you loose such rights to say anything about them. But lots of time peoples by mistake went saying anything that comes in mind. that is like to kill a snake by catering milk to it.
don't heart your best loved one's.
In the end i read "i just learned my lesson from her" yeah that is pretty well for you and i am sure while reading this whole response you will be angered in 1st para about me, but after all that is the fact.
Finally i will say "Live life, and let live other's" don't heart anyone.
God bless you.
@rage35 (344)
• Philippines
6 Jan 11
Based on your discussion, I think that your best friend is insecure of what you have. She's not happy seeing you happy with other people because she haven't experience being into a relationship. She tells rumors about you to keep you away from your other friends. It's sad to say that your best friend does it to you. How come she can tell lies at your back wherein you are making good impressions to her. Indeed, there are people who doesn't care about what other people might feel. She's only making a way that you'll get mad at her. She's not considering your feelings as her best friend. I hope that you she will realized the things the she has done and will never do it again.
