How should parents behave when wrong?
By didi13
@didi13 (2926)
Romania
January 6, 2011 10:23am CST
It sometimes happens that parents, rather than guide us well in life, to push us down the exact opposite. Not out of malice or premeditation, but purely and simply for their turn and they learned from their parents wrong. How to proceed with such parents? At maturity is simple: you can afford to be nice but you put them away. But it's hard being a child: you are to be confusing (do not know what is right and wrong) allegation that you are upset, when in fact they are the ones who kicked off. How do you think I could save child from a situation like this?
7 responses
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
15 Jan 11
I think that as a parent it is only natural that there will be some times that we do make mistakes. That said, I think as a parent we need to be able to realize when something happens and that we have made a mistake. In those kinds of situations, it is the perfect time to be able to open up discussion with your children. Those are actually perfect times to learn because a parent can explain to their child that we are all human and that means we all make mistakes from time to time.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
13 Jan 11
The thing that is most important when you are trying to parent a child so that you don't put them into a situation like what you've described here is that you should try to live by the same lessons that you are trying to teach to a child. The reason that I say this is important is because of the fact that children make a lot of their decisions based on what they see the adults around them doing. Therefore, if they see the adults making the right decisions, then the children are more likely to make the right decisions.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
7 Jan 11
parents are also human beings and they are bound to make mistakes as well... so if they make mistakes, then i think they should have a big heart to admit it to their children and say sorry... this will show as an example and role model for them which they will follow... this is what i think... take care and have a nice day...
@RebeccaScarlett (2532)
• Canada
6 Jan 11
When a parent realizes he or she is wrong, they must act EXACTLY how they would expect their child to act in the same situation. If you are trying to teach your child to apologize with dignity and make amends when they are in the wrong, you must do so also.
"I'm sorry I punished you for lying about breaking the pot: I found out that you told the truth and it was actually your brother who did it. I was wrong to yell at you when I didn't have all the facts. Here is your toy back that I took away, and I hope you can forgive me for punishing you before I knew the truth. I will try hard not to do that again."
Most parents will never do this, because they are too proud to admit they are right or are convinced that they are gods in their own house: if they say or do it, it becomes right, no matter if it is wrong. If you act this way, this is what your children will learn to do!
@smashraful (129)
• Bangladesh
6 Jan 11
when it takes a mistake to the child parents shouldn't rough and tough with them. parents have to behave with them easy and simple and should have to make them realize that which is mistake or wrong. children could be always mistake or wrong because they don't know what is right or wrong.
@priya23 (5)
• India
6 Jan 11
Parent's are the sole guiding figures in a person's life.They ought to show their
children the right path in the midst of adversity.at times, children get confused due to opposing views of both parent's which is the main cause of psychological problems in children and later in adulthood.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
6 Jan 11
Hi didi,
I would not call that a parenting where the child is not properly taken care of. Up to the age of six a baby learns much faster and anything negative going in the family would get embedded in the docile child mind and its impact would be seen much later.
Chi;children would commit mistake or do wrong and this should not be translated into child thrashing or punishing. This is natural and parents have to be patient enough to bear with them.
Next important thing is that even if there are bickering between the father and the mother they should not show their anger in front the child.