Staying in a bad relationship

It's because that person makes you feel worthless & so bad about yourself that you figure no one else would want you. That's exactly how they want you to feel. It's their way of controlling you & also it's a way for them to feel better about themselves. Sadly that is the only way that people like that can feel good about themselves & that's by putting others down & making them feel very small.

Love is blind. When cupid strikes us, we are not thinking with our brain because we are seeing things from our heart. Everything we see or hear, is deeply affected by our feelings, that we can no longer think straight. It takes a 3rd party to see things clearly, yet there's nothing much a 3rd party can do to resolve the problems. When one is deeply in love with the other person, the way to wake them up is to hurt them deeply, over and over again.

It could be love or it could be being dependent to that person since some people doesn't want to be alone. I don't agree in staying in a bad relationship. Relationship should bring the best on both persons involve in it and not the opposite. I always believe that you should love yourself first before loving others in that case nobody can hurt you. No one can hurt you unless you allow them.

Hi Freymind, The person's esteem is probably already pretty low to not have left the relationship right away anyway. Then it gets broken down even more as time goes on and they don't feel confident enough to leave and make it on their own, they feel worthless and like they couldn't do any better. Sometimes they blame themselves for the problems. If they are to blame then they think they should be able to fix things so they keep trying and thinking that if they try hard enough then things will get better. Sometimes they do get better but only for a little while. If they stay long enough then it is just a way of life for them.

I've actually been in a relationship like this when I was a younger woman and it was only after I was out of the relationship that I realized the reason that I stayed in that relationship for such a period of time. The reason that I stayed in that relationship was because I felt like I was dependent on my boyfriend at the time. It was only after I was out of the relationship that I realized that I was able to be on my own and to be a stronger person.

people stay in those relationships to feel the lonelyness they have. i have been in in bad relationship after another. at first it is hard. then it gets easier. my daughter is going though the same thing with the guy that she is with. at least i know the signs and i jump in and stop him. he was wanting everybody to be scared of him. and when he reliesed that i was not scared. he backed down. that is all the abuser wants is for the other person to be scared. and when that person shows that he is not scared. then life can be better. but some times it is just better to move on. there is someone good out there for everybody.

Good day! Well if your relationship is not healthy, its better to give it up because you would be no longer happy. There are so many fishes in the sea so maybe he's not meant for you, maybe you're meant for someone better. Don't lose hope if he really loves you the he'll do everything just to make your relationship happy.

For me yes for now a days it is happy you are to have a perfect relationship it is because we live in the time of Satan is quarrel everything to day.

Some people simply hold on to what they perceive in their minds to be love. Love should never hurt. Sometimes the insecurities withing them cause them to see what is before them. Some people actually think they can change people. No one changes for anyone. When in a bad relationship one needs to change themselves and figure out that what is before them is not working. They need to learn to love themselves first.

In the first place why stay in a relationship when you know that you do not deserve? when a person is already in a bad relationship, then they have a choice of ending it. But if they do not, then its already their fault if they stay in it.Like you have a choice, why not use it right? There is a purpose why the head is higher than where the heart is located. Use it.

I got divorced in February 2010 which was the end of a very unhealthy relationship that lasted 6 years. Even to this day, I couldn't really give an explanation as to what made me stay as long as I did. The relationship was emotionally and physically abusive but something still made me stay with this man. It was draining the life out of me and I become a person that I didn't even recognize. This is what brought me to the decision to go through with the divorce and once I surrounded myself with a positive environment, I was able to stay strong enough for my children and myself to follow through with the divorce. Guilt played an important role into why I stayed after so long. It wasn't until recently that I've realized that staying in an unhealthy relationship was worse for my children than walking away. My children need to be in an environment that makes them feel safe and loved without the constant fighting and letdowns.