Marriage In China
By for1ever1
@for1ever1 (18)
China
January 7, 2011 12:57am CST
Nowadays, men of young generations in China have to undergo great financial pressure to get married with his Mrs Right.
For many unmarried girls, or those who are going to be married, they are considering a lot preconditions before getting married. Something like "Three Highs": being tall, high salary, high educational background. And having their own house is one of the most common or basic requirements for men. At the same time, some more realistic girls may even require his fiance to own a car if he wants to get married with her.
Therefore, many young couples have to break up for realistic problems mentioned above, although they're falling love with each other. As you know, there are many resistances or public opinions from the girl's family, relatives or even society.
"How can I live with you without a house after marriage?" It's one the most frequently mentioned question we have to face before marriage. China's housing prices is increasing day by day. But our income or salary is not increasing day by day. It means we have to pay more and more to afford a house in the future.
My friends, what's your opinion? How's the marriage in your country?
5 responses
@picjim (3002)
• India
7 Jan 11
I can't say its exactly the same but for all except the very well to do both the couple have to work to lead a comfortable life.In the days gone by if the husband worked the wife would be a home maker,which in several cases is still there and educated home makers are useful more than the amount they earn in a marriage in the sense they can give the right impetus to a the future of a growing child beside better management of the house and household finances.Break up in my opinion has to do with unrealistic expectation and a lack of understanding each others nature and expectation.Here too housing and setting up an independent household is expensive.
@smallsaozhou (827)
• China
7 Jan 11
Yeah,both of the couples should work hard to imporve their financial conditions instead of the male sides working hard alone.And that is exactly the recipe to keep balance in their relationship and earn respect from each other.But in China,there is something we can not get in spite of our hard wroking.For example,most of the young people with their ages about 20 in big cities like Beijing and Shanghai can't afford the exaggerated housing price without the help from their families.
,and unluckily,owning a flat is one of the most basic conditions if a couple want to get married.
,and unluckily,owning a flat is one of the most basic conditions if a couple want to get married.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
7 Jan 11
The three highs sounds unreasonable: the person has to be tall, have a high salary and have excellent qualifications. So the man must have his own house. Maybe to get married all a couple need are the love and to know that they are compatible. There should not be any public opinions from the family or friends. It is a shame property prices in China are increasing however the salary stays the same.
In England people tend to marry for love and some couples sadly turn out not to be compatible. Therefore it leads to some couples getting divorced. A single person can be a parent and this is accepted in society. The usual number of children in a family are two or three. Sometimes it can be four or five. In a few cases it is even more. When two people date they are interested in personality, attraction and shared interests in my home country. Many couples live together before marriage or don't bother to marry at all.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
7 Jan 11
i think this is not only happening in china but every part of the country all around the world nowadays... it is so hard for the young people to find a decent job in nowadays hard economy... and even if we have a job, the salary is not enough to cover everything... let alone buying cars and house... that's why people get married at an older and older age nowadays due to this reason... take care and have a nice day...
@smallsaozhou (827)
• China
7 Jan 11
I live in the same country like you,and housing price in my city is spectacularly too high for most of the common residents to afford. We have no power to change the reality like that , and I am sad to see that situation.But I have to say,as a girl, I still anticipate my future husband own a flat after we get married.It's not a behaviour to reflect my vanity, I never look forward to finding a rich Price Charming to change my financial condition,it is just a least condition to ensure my life happy and normal without too many debts.
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
7 Jan 11
Relationship in my country is now not based on culture and tradition. Many young couples here decide for themselves specially when they are of legal age. Women of marrying age doesn't demand much from their future husband. just love and sincerity and faithfulness. Our young male professionals let their wife work too or if she chooses to stay-at-home, does some part-time job to help her husband sustain the family. If their parents could afford, they can give support and if not,help them tend the house for them to let the couple work as they star their new family.
