Are You Too Sensitive For Your Own Good?

@jujunme (2501)
United States
January 7, 2011 12:23pm CST
Being a sensitve human being in many ways is a wonderful trait to have especially when it comes to other people.Caring for thier needs and being sensitive to the plights of others is very commendable.But, when it comes to ourselves we can be "too"sensitive,get offended easily and do not do well when it comes to any kind of criticism. i myself am a very sensitive person,i hear a sad story or learn about any kind of abuse of children or animals and i literally fall apart.I can also be a little to sensitve when it comes to myself as well, but only in certain situations and with certain people.I can be criticised and disagreed with and not take it too seriously , but it all depends on "how" and "who" is doing the criticising and if it's done in a constructive way. How about you? Do you let most things roll off your back? or are you just too sensitive for your own good?
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
8 Jan 11
yes i am actually... but i also had found that being over sensitive is not good for me... sometimes i missed out a lot in life because of my over sensitivity and also make my own life more miserable... so over time i had tried to get rid of my over sensitivity little by little... and guess what??? i become a better and happier person after i done that... and other people can accept me better as well... take care and have a nice day...
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
8 Jan 11
I do agree that being overly sensitive can also be harmful to us.We tend to take things too seriously and can go around feeling miserable over things we have no control over.Even though it may be difficult to change the way we feel,the more we grow,the more we realize that the things we were just too sensitive about weren't worth it and we learn to overcome certain emotions.i'm glad that "little by little" this has worked out for you. Have a great day as well.
• Italy
8 Jan 11
Peoples around me told me that i am sensitive. Some time little words hurt me so much and i feel good to be sad and hurt.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
8 Jan 11
You need to stop and think how important someone may be to you before you take what they have to say to heart and allow this to hurt you. I know how hard it is for sensitive people to ignore certain things that are said to them and not let it bother them, but, unless it's someone you really care about and is important in your life,you can learn to let it go and realize that what they say is meaningless.People that really care about you, don't go around trying to make you feel bad.
@anetteh (3590)
• Sweden
7 Jan 11
Hehe, You have just described me. I am that person 100 procent. And guess what kind of profession I have...lol exactly I work as a assistance nurse for elderly care. The most part I can take critisism but as you say it depend on how it is said and if it is constructive, then I have no problem with it. I care more for others then my self and that is the answere to your subject Yes I am to sensitive for my own good. lol
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
8 Jan 11
You should be so proud of the work you do for the elderly, i find that anyone who contributes to the well being and health of others is to be highly commended.but, it must be very sad for you as well.Elderly people tend to suffer with many critical health problems and unfortunately can't always be saved.Being a caring sensitive person is wonderful, but, can also be heart breaking as well.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
8 Jan 11
Yes, I think I am quite a sensitive person. I listen to the feelings of others, even animals. I know too much of this quality is not good, but the lack of it or simple callousness is the last thing we need in this world. We need more sensitive people to populate our world.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
8 Jan 11
"We need more sensitive people to populate our world"/ I totally agree.Even though we can be overly sensitive at times.I would rather be this way than not care about the feelings of others. There are way too many people in this world who are strictly out for themselves and could care less about what others feel and think.I also like how you mentioned you listen to the feelings of "animals,they express themselves in so many ways you just need to be attuned to their needs and wants.
• Philippines
8 Jan 11
hello jujunme! i used to be a very sensitive person. Sensitive in a way that i can easily discern just through action or facial expression when somebody is criticizing or maligning me. This is the part of my sensitive that i dislike and which i had changed over the years. I am still sensitive to the needs of other people, and often goes out my way just to help them. I emphatize and sympathize with people, however when i realize that i cannot do anything about the situation i don't give it much thought anymore so as not to burden me with such negative feelings. Nowadays, although i listen to criticisms directed my way, i filtered it and just let those things which are not really worth pondering about. i don't take offense easily anymore since i realized that people could get so vindictive and jealous sometimes that they would do and say anything just to see you suffer and get angry.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
8 Jan 11
People who have a sensitive nature usually are highly perceptive as well and sometimes upon just meeting a person can tell whether they will like them or not just by, as you mentioned, an expression or manner. Of course we should always get to know a person before judging who they really are,but, i find i'm very seldom wrong when i feel a certain vibe about someone, since they will tend to say or do something that will confirm my opinion.As far as "jealous" and "vindictive" people, i just try and stay clear of them since they're their own worst enemy and aren't worth getting upset about.
• United States
8 Jan 11
Life has allowed me to develop a bit of thick skin. Yes I can hurt by someone being way over criticizing but have learned that not everyone will agree and or disagree identically to me. So I have learned that we must remember that there is two people the same in life and that we have to feel good about ourselves and that is really what matters. I may dwell internally for a bit about a harsh situation but then I let it roll remembering my own worth.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
8 Jan 11
Yes, i find that self worth goes a long way when dealing with people who enjoy criticising others and i'm fine wth anyone who disagrees with me as long as it's done in a constructive way.Being highly sensitive doesn't necessarily mean hiding in a corner when someone is mean to you or criticises you for no good reason.it just means we may, as you say "dwell internally" for a little while until we realize it just wasn't worth it.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
7 Jan 11
my daughter is like that. she wants to be a vet but i think she would find it too hard to put animals to sleep.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
8 Jan 11
i'm with your daughter on this one.I would never be able to do that either.However i would imagine being a vet is a very rewarding job, since they are so vital in keeping and maintaining animal health and well being.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Jan 11
hi jujnme I am sensitive to a large extent and if somoeone whom I respect does criticize me its done in a positive not mean way so I do not mind that as it is meant to be helpful like my adult son. but others who d o not know me or maybe do not even like me pile on some nasty criticism of my religious views and things like'that yes I am sensitive and I am damned angry too. My views belong to me and are not to be made fun of or criticized at all.I often cry at sad movies and while reading a sad book too. I am helpful always to others and often feel others pain. I worked for years as a nurse's aide and loved it.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
7 Jan 11
In the first place i can't see "anyone" disliking you.I may not know you personally but from what i've learned about you here on Mylot you are a very helpful and caring person.Sensitive people are very attuned to others who are similar in the way they deal with others and usually can tell without knowing them personally, who the good guys are.and i totally agree,"nasty criticism" from anyone makes me angry and hurt as well.no one minds a person who has your best interests at heart or giving you advice or even positve criticism, but it's all in the way it's given and how it's said.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
9 Jan 11
I can be sensitive yes, probably too sensitive for my own good sometimes. I do find that I can toughen up and put my guard on when it comes to certain situations and certain people.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Jan 11
iam exactly like you. i cant stand to see those commercials even that show the animals thats been abused. or kids starving,etc, i know its their way of trying to get help for them but i cant help and want to so badly. then i have a bad habit of taking everything to seriously when talking with people.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
7 Jan 11
Omg, those animal commercials, i just can't bear watching them as well.The minute they come on, i have to change the channel.i just wish there was a better way of soliciting help for these precious ones.if i could i'd take them all home and make sure they were taken care of.and those poor starving children, i want to see the day when "no"child ever goes hungry or has to live in the conditions they're forced to live in.They deserve and should have so much better.
• United States
7 Jan 11
Im very sensitive when it comes to me and my heart. When someone makes the heart rate going up by doing something rude to me then i go in the room and start crying and i hate it but my heart cant take a lot so i get upset over it. When thinkin gabout abused animals or children of course its sad and it hurts inside but then again there isnt much i can do to help them as i am hurting myself with money but if i had money i would be donating it to a good cause of course. When family members im close to need me im always there for them and im just a phone call or a text message away and ill be there in no time. My family means the world to me. Have a great day.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
8 Jan 11
I am such a sensitive person that even your response made me kind of sad. I won't say rude comments make me cry but they do anger me quite a bit.I can't understand why people feel the need to be rude and insulting, there's just no reason for this.As far as abused animals and children, i, like you, wish i could help them in some way, seeing the way they are treated, breaks my heart, but the little i might be able to give would never be enough of a help and that makes me sad as well.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
21 Jun 11
Sensitive human misfortune is that although it is aware of all the beauties of life, he's only reached the evils of this world. The world is as it is. So much praise the quality of man that we forget to look around. Humanity have not yet arrived at perfect consciousness. We are still primitive in this regard. Being sensitive may seem to some as a flaw, others scorn a man and now out on the sensitive mouth totally stupid expressions like "that / that 's emo! Woe to me and me !"... how some hidden or some go to the extreme as all others .. and play .. maybe .. that's the saddest are unable to judge, but in my mind, so I one, I think, in the feelings, the only place where I would not make a playground for the one who plays dirty, could get the ball to be given all later .. tip: do not play ..!