Have you done anything courageous recently?

India
January 8, 2011 12:44am CST
I have. I quit smoking. I tried many times before, but I failed miserably. Each time I failed the number of cigarettes increased instead of decreasing. I failed because every time I was stressed the only thing that I could think of is smoking. This time I faced the situation boldly. I knew that I will get a lot of resistance from myself. I studied about the withdrawal symptoms that I was going to have. I prepared my mind to face it. I finally made the decision one day and stopped smoking from the very next day. The decision needed a lot of mental strength and courage on my part. I waited for the opportune moment. And when everything seemed to be in favor, I took the final step. Have you done anything courageous recently?
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@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
8 Jan 11
Congratulations, on your final success on beating the demon of smoking; you have added several years back into your life. I know it did take much willpower to finally stop smoking once and for all. Smoking like any other addiction is detrimental to our health and we are the sole person who can make the decision to continue the harmful habit or just say, "that's enough" an beat the demons off our backs. I am still working to be successful at not eating the harmful foods that causes heart disease and obesity. I also need to make time to get more exercise into my schedule. I didn't make a resolution, but working as if I did.
• United States
17 Jan 11
I have habits that I need to break, so I will follow some of your advice on how to overcome them. Good job.
• India
13 Jan 11
It wasn't easy. I had to be strategic. I had to stay calm. I set out a plan just to combat the withdrawal symptoms, because I knew it would be difficult. If you just want to give up an old habit, it may not be as simple. But if you find a way to replace it with another, much better habit, then the possibility of success improves. I decided to read more books instead of smoking. I bought a few books, borrowed some from my friends and downloaded few more. Then I locked myself in. I also stopped seeing all my friends who are smokers. Whenever I craved for a smoke I started reading a book or asked one of my friends to come online and chat with me. I told my mother all about my resolution because I knew I would need her support.
• United States
8 Jan 11
I haven't done anything exciting and or beneficial, per say. The only thing I am trying to accomplish is to be positive no matter what. I am dealing with a great many situations that all last year no matter how I mentally prepared I did not function well. So this year I decided from day one that no matter how hard the chips fall that I remain as positive as I can and say to myself that I did my best and that tomorrow is another day. So far all going well, I have encountered some issues and fell to near tears then I said no, this will not happen as I promised to move forward. Good luck to you on the quit smoking as this is a grand accomplishment.
• India
12 Jan 11
Do you know what the single most important thing was that helped me quit smoking? It's the positiveness that you're talking about here. I couldn't accomplish anything in my life if I hadn't been positive and strong. We need a lot of courage in staying positive no matter what comes ahead. This is by far the greatest achievement of all and I am really happy for you. Move forward, be happy. Isn't this the essence of all human learnings?
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
8 Jan 11
Gppd for u, congrulations. I need to quit smoking but doubt i ever will. Been at it too many years , know i need to so my doctors say but don't really want to. i'm not as courageous as u.
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• India
13 Jan 11
Sometimes you are never asked to do something and you don't need to do it either. But then you do it because you want to set an example for others to follow. My writings have been my inspiration. Everything I learn, I learn through reading and writing. When I decided to quit for the first time, I did a lot of study. I wanted to write something about it. But then I realized, I can't preach unless I carry it out myself. Now that I quit, my words of wisdom will have an added weight. People will say, "Listen to him, he did what he wanted to do". Isn't that something deary?
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
8 Jan 11
I agree, great feats in our lives take much courage. Congratulations, by the way for becoming a "non-smoker." Our minds certainly have to be "strong" when we are going to commit ourselves for something like this, losing weight, not smoking, quit drinking, etc...I haven't done anything to courageous lately, but I am sure I will do something before the end of the year.
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• India
13 Jan 11
I couldn't agree more. When we commit ourselves to anything like that, it needs huge mental strength to fulfill that. Sometimes you want to change something in your life, but your environment is highly opposed to that change. In such a situation it becomes really difficult to make that change happen. Most of my friends smoke. My parents never forced me in doing anything in my life, but of course they asked me to quit smoking. I was in perfect health. There was nothing to force me to quit smoking. That made it really very difficult. But I am glad I finally did it.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
8 Jan 11
not so recently more like two years ago a woman kicked her daughter on the streets, the poor little thing should be just 4 to 6 years old and i went there and yelled the crap out of her, the coward just ran i also got in front of a car cause an idiot was trying to kill a dog
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• India
13 Jan 11
That's the most wonderful thing I heard today. You really did a great job dear. I can understand that you are a very kind person. But you are not soft to those who cross the limit of humanity. I am glad that you put this comment in here. People like you can be source of inspiration to others. By the way, I would really like to know what happened to the poor little thing and that wicked woman.
@JohnMach (550)
• Philippines
8 Jan 11
I've landed a good job recently. We need money and I think that's the only way for us to pull through life's misery. I'm going to work even though I'm still not yet done studying. I'll put my family first before my own sake. I think that's courageous.
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• India
13 Jan 11
Yes it is. You have transformed into a more responsible and sensible person. Welcome to manhood. You've taken a very courageous decision because sacrifice of any amount needs courage. I knew that I had to quit for the sake of my own health. Yet, giving up that momentary pleasure of putting more and more nicotine into your blood was not an easy thing to sacrifice. Your mental strength takes you a long way towards success, even when your physical strength may not permit. This is the victory of mind over body. Congratulations to you.
@celticeagle (167025)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Jan 11
Quiting smoking is a very hard thing to do. I applaud you. My corageous act was in September when I went back to live with my daughter. SHe is bi-polar and had had a nasty manic attack in the summer which brought me, the mother, and my then pregnant grand daughter into a near homeless situation. My daughter announced she was moving out of the apartment we all shared. She was the one holder the lease so if we stayed it would be at full price and we couldn't afford it. So my granddaughter and I found a little one bedroom and lived there for four months. Then my daughter got back on her meds and wanted me to come back to live with her. After much deliberation and after writing a contract with her and having her sign it I did go back to live with her.
• India
12 Jan 11
You have been bold, yet you did not loose your reasoning abilities. Courage should be accompanied by sanity otherwise it would be a big risk to you. Life is not a gambling. You can't live your life by chance. Every single day you need to reduce the amount of unpredictability. You can't just jump from a cliff to prove that you're courageous. I am so glad that you finally took the decision. But I am also glad that you made her sign the contract. You've set a very good example of virtue and wisdom.
@arunmails (3011)
• India
8 Jan 11
You courageously overtook the smoking. Yes, we need guts to overcome which we are doing it daily. I don't have the habit of smoking, but, I made one of my friends to quit smoking. Is this comes under the category of courageous?
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@ifa225 (14461)
• Indonesia
9 Jan 11
nope... maybe i am not that bad. it is hard to make a change, even to myself. but your discussion encourage me do that
@ifa225 (14461)
• Indonesia
12 Jan 11
maybe you are right. i don't have any courage to get the risk. i had thinking and rethinking again to do the step, one by one. in my mind, the risk is too high than the benefits. so here i am, just stay on zero point.
• India
12 Jan 11
I completely agree to that. It's really hard to make a change, especially to yourself. What's hard for you is difficult for others as well. There are a few decisions that you couldn't make just because you had limitations. But all others who made those decisions also had the same limitations, believe me. If you are not brave enough, that's understandable. We remain afraid because we don't accept the things as they are. Accept the fact that it's difficult, but also accept the fact that there is nothing wrong in being afraid. But once you finish this job that you've dreaded for so long, you will gave every right to call yourself brave and strong.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
14 Jan 11
Well, I want to say congrats for that decision you made. I don't have vices and I don't need to make a decision as you have. If you really want to stop smoking you need to discipline yourself and if you said "NO" you must stick to that word...
• India
15 Jan 11
Courage is not only needed in things like quitting smoking. At every single phase of your life you may need courage. There is this winter, and you don't want to go out. You can always take a leave, but will you take it just because there is a cold wave outside? You are at the point of taking a decision that solely depends on your courage. You can choose to stay at home, but if you choose to go out and work, that will be a very courageous decision on your part.
@irene66 (1669)
• Philippines
9 Jan 11
It is good you tried and finally quit. I think quitting should really be accompanied with self discipline. Without such would be a trial and error only on the part of the person who wants to quit. Finding another way to handle stress could be good too. I really hear most people , smoking is a way to relieve stress. But I think if other ways are explored to tackle stress, smoking would be stopped. I haven't taken any courageous action yet. I am still thinking! hahaha
• India
13 Jan 11
Well, I smoked to relieve my stress too. But then when I analyzed the whole thing, I figured out that smoking isn't the way of dealing with the stress. It's actually a way to bypass the stress. It lets you escape from reality or imminent danger. It can't solve the stress because it never directly address the cause of the stress. When I had stress, I tried to project myself into future. "What happens if I smoke now, and what happens if I don't," I thought. I finally concluded that I stay in the same position whether I smoke or not. So why smoke at all? I tried to find out something else that can directly deal with the root of the stress, rather than help me escaping it.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Jan 11
I honestly can't think of anything courageous that I've done recently in my life. This last little portion of my life has been a part of my life that I've been living mostly in auto pilot. The reason that I say this is the case is because of the fact that I've not really been getting out of the house much since it has been so cold outside and because of the fact that I stay at home with my two little ones and I've been trying to concentrate more on my son.
• India
13 Jan 11
So you finally went out and did your job?
• Australia
9 Jan 11
Lately, I've become a homebody. Too scared to go out anywhere despite the need to walk my furkids. More recently, I've started going out on late night walks, because I feel braver walking the streets when there's nobody around. I know I'm taking a big risk though, as there's always the risk of me being attacked.
• Australia
12 Jan 11
Thanks so much for that. You've given me more inspiration. :)
• India
12 Jan 11
Yeah, okay. But don't go out on late night walks anymore, okay sweetheart?
• India
12 Jan 11
To start believing that YOU CAN is a brave thing in itself. Sometimes you need one or more trials to prove it to yourself. But now that you've already broke the shackles I don't think you need to continue going out late at night. You've already proved your point. Being courageous doesn't mean that you need to be reckless. There are people who are connected to you. They care for you. So you should also make sure that you are safe and sound. Protecting yourself, preventing a disaster are not the things that make you a coward deary.
@singup (666)
• Malaysia
9 Jan 11
i reply in your post about quiting smoking and also i will reply here and any futre post about that because i want to feel that we are around you , support you and we also trust you that you will not return to smoking again
• India
13 Jan 11
Wow! That's so kind of you. It's because of my friends (like you) and family that I ultimately succeeded in quitting this thing. I took the decision when everything was favorable. I knew that I was going to have some severe withdrawal symptoms. So I prepared myself to face it. Knowing it beforehand always makes it easier to handle. Because I already had a plan, it became less difficult for me. I took up reading. I started chatting again. I drank a lot of water. I ate sweets and candies whenever I felt the urge for smoking. In a few days it was all over. I don't feel like smoking again.
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
22 Jan 12
Good daya getbiswa2000, And now that a year has passed are you still smoke free? I have been a smoker for about 45 years and I know it's way too long and I have tried to quit so many times over the years I can't count how many. I can't seem to kick the habit for good though. The longest I ever quit for was 6 months and then I thought one day that I could be like my sister and only smoke once in awhile, like at the bar having a few drinks with my friends after work. So I bummed one from someone and that was it. I was a full time smoker again. On my way home I stopped and bought a pack and started all over again, and after quitting for so long, I was really dissappointed in myself. But not enough to quit for good, I guess. I am still smoking and it really is stupid. I don't smoke in my house so I have to go outside to smoke and when it is 40 below out and I am standing out there freezing my butt off, it's just stupid. Good luck my friend. Cheers and happy mylotting my friend , chris