If I say, I Love You Dad, Can He Still Hear Me?
By jasonnaez
@jasonnaez (134)
Philippines
January 10, 2011 7:43am CST
It is sad to note that we get to appreciate somebody when that person is finally gone. What a pity because there were countless instances by which we could have expressed our appreciation and love, but then we have chosen to ignore and to keep to ourselves the beautiful words that should have been said. Words that could have lifted the spirits of those dear to us. As for me, my propensity to appear strong and unemotional, prevented me from saying, I love you dad. But now, I want to tell my dad that I love him and to thank him for everything he had done. It doesn't matter if I look weak and emotional for as long as I can express my feelings. But what good will it make now that my dad is gone. Can my dad still hear the words, I love you dad?
3 people like this
9 responses
@CRIVAS (1815)
• Canada
10 Jan 11
I am one of those people who believe that we move on to a different life after this one. I personally believe that the loved ones that I have lost, still look upon me from above. As such, I believe that when I am alone and need someone to talk to, there are there to listen even if I can't hear a reply to them. I think that it is normal to talk to those that we have lost, it gives us a way to say that things that we might not have otherwise be able to when they are around. I think that your dad is out there somewhere looking upon you and listing to everything that you have to say.
@jasonnaez (134)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
I feel better every time I hear or read comments about the departed just being around capable of comprehending the things we convey. But is there a way to know if departed love ones really exist in our midst? But, I think it's a hard question. Oh, sometimes it's better to leave question like this unanswered. It's simply comforting to think that my dad's existence with us continues unconstrained by the absence of physical presence. Thank you for sharing your comments. God bless you.
@koalatbs (2229)
• United States
10 Jan 11
I sure hope so jasonnaez. Both of my parents have passed away, my mom just this past April. My dad passed 6 1/2 years ago as well. I miss them a lot too and wish, like you, that I could tell them I love them and how much I appreciate them.
@jasonnaez (134)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
We are both in the same boat, wishing that we could express our affection to our love ones who are no longer with us. This experience is our life's lesson, we learned and it made us a much more sensitive and caring person. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. God bless you.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
11 Jan 11
that's why my parents and pastor always remind me to show my love, care and concern to the people that i care about before it is too late... they told me that it is no use of crying over them or say i love them when they had already passed away... by that time, it is already too late... so i am trying my very best nowadays to show my love through actions to the people that i love before it is too late and i will regret it... take care and have a nice day...
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
10 Jan 11
When we are living in this physical dimension, we tend to think physically! Your Dad is not gone! He is as close to you as ever, perhaps even closer.But you distance yourself from him with this kind of thinking. We are Spirit first, and always, physical only for short periods while we reside in this physical dimension. While your Dad was here with you, he knew on a spiritual level that you loved him. Of course he would have liked to hear you say it, but he knew it all along. You can arrange a meeting with your Dad anytime you're ready. Ask him to come to you in a dream. Hold this thought,as you prepare for sleep, and know (in your mind) that he will come to you in the night. It may take a couple of weeks. ( he's probably as busy in the spiritual, as he was when he lived in the physical) Be patient and expecting, and He will come!
@jasonnaez (134)
• Philippines
15 Jan 11
I agree with you that we are all spirit beings and that we are transient inhabitants of our physical body. It's just that most of the time I tend to lower my awareness of this fundamental truth and every time I am in this stage I feel alone, weak and rudderless. I will try your suggestion and how I wish I could see my dad one more time even just in my dream.
1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
hello jason,
It's so sad to realize things when the person's not with us anymore.
Like the saying goes "we realized the value of a thing once we lost it"
what more with someone we love.
It give us lesson then,you can still express your love to your mom.
Give whatever you missed to give to your dad...do it to your mom.
Don't be sorry for things undone and for words left unspoken.
You can make it up with your mom and to all the people that loves you.
Have a good day
@jasonnaez (134)
• Philippines
11 Jan 11
Absolutely right. It pains to look back because there were so many beautiful things that could have been done and spoken. But not everything is lost yet, and as you said, I can channel my love and affection to my mom. You know this experience made me become more sensitive and appreciative of all things that makes my life worthwhile, including my siblings. Have you gone through the same experience before? Thanks for your response. I appreciate it a lot.
1 person likes this
@jasonnaez (134)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
You are right in sharing your love along the way, no regret and remorse. Yes, life is unpredictable, we can never tell what tomorrow holds for us. It really pays to be prepared for any eventuality. Thanks again. God bless you.
@piperu (113)
• Indonesia
11 Jan 11
yes, sometime we didn't shown what we felt when someone still near us. But I do believe that your dad or someone else around you which not in this world anymore, still can hear you. They know what you feel and happy for your love and your care. Make me miss my dad too..
@jasonnaez (134)
• Philippines
15 Jan 11
Yes, as I have written in one of my other comments, we live in a world where the physical presence of love ones are often taken for granted. We only realized how important they are when we are overtaken by pain and grief. I am left with no other option other than to believe that my dad is just around watching over. Love is truly powerful, because it makes us believe in the unseen. Thank you for your comment and may God be with you.
@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
11 Jan 11
My dad is still alive and healthy. Thanks to GOD. Yes it's true that making ourself look great and strong sometime hinders us to express ourselves.. then saying I'm sorry and I love you became the hardest words. I failed him on some matters but how could I gain courage to say sorry?
@jasonnaez (134)
• Philippines
15 Jan 11
You are lucky that your dad is still alive for there is still a chance for you to make him feel that you love him. In my case, it's frustrating because even though I try very hard to believe that my dad is just around watching over us, but still it is no longer the same as having him physically present. Ego (self-righteous pride) is our worst enemy, because it makes us create a facade of false strength. It hinders us from loving and saying sorry to those we have hurt. Pure humility is the antidote against ego. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. God bless you.
@toniganzon (72533)
• Philippines
11 Jan 11
As they say regret comes always at the end! You can say it and probably he can but maybe he can't too.
I lost my parents when i was 13 and among us 5 children, i was the the youngest and bravest to tell my parents i love them when the occasion calls for it. I never missed their birthdays and i always have a note for them telling them how much i loved them. But the rest of my siblings regret not expressing their love to our parents. But now the 5 of us are now parents and none of us neglect to say i love you each day to our children and for them to say it back to us.
My son would suddenly hug me in the morning and tell me he loves me and misses me and also kisses me good night. I want him to be that expressive until he gets older!
@jasonnaez (134)
• Philippines
15 Jan 11
People who had shown their love and respect to their parents are undoubtedly blessed because there is no regret and remorse to haunt. You are lucky because you were able to show your affection when your parents were still alive. You are now reaping what you have sown. Since you honored your parents, you are now being honored by your children in return. I am a believer of the Law of Cause and Effect. Thank you for your comments. God bless you.
@Jlyn10 (11965)
• Malaysia
11 Jan 11
Gosh, Jason, you made me cry just reading this. I miss my Mom and Dad dearly. I never get to say that to him before he passed away but I know that deep inside, he knows that we all do love him very much. Sometimes whenever I look at his picture, I would always tell him that I missed him. Whether he can hear me or not, at least God knows that and I hope that He would convey the message to my Dad. I love you both, Mom and Dad!!!
@jasonnaez (134)
• Philippines
15 Jan 11
I am sorry if I made you cry. Perhaps opening-up my feelings here is a way of releasing the pressure that has been suppressed. I also have the same sentiment as yours, just in case my dad is no longer aware, I wish God will convey to him that I do love him. Thanks for your comment. God bless you.