how do you know if your doing the right thing with your life????

ren, We must not worry about the what if's and look forward. Lat year was the worst year of my entire life. My boyfriend and I are contemplating a move as well, and although I have lived here my whole life I too worry how I will adjust to a new state, and country side as I have been a city person my whole life. However, we must start with a fresh and positive approach and allow all that hurt us in the past simply stay in the past. I so wish you well with your move and try really hard to look forward and only remember back to make improvements. God bless and be well.

Just follow what your heath and mind tells you to do. Don't pay attention just to one of those two, but pay attention to both, your hearth and your mind, both are really important when you're trying to make difficult decisions. So you'll reach an intermediate point, and you'll choose the make the right decision. Also say a prayer, and hope that everything will go right. Hope that you can get the correct decisions in life.

Girl you just have to have faith. you already make the decision so now you have to jump in with both feet and make it work. Like i am creating a new website. I have been working on it now for almost a year. i have no idea if people are going to join, like, or even love it for that matter. All i can do is have faith that i am moving in the right direction and someone loves it. Doubt brings on trouble, faith always takes you moving forward knowing that everything is going to be ok. and even if we stumble and fall, we are still ok

I know what you mean. But sadly, there is only one way to find out. Trial and error. Wait and see. Hope for the best, but plan for the worst. you can only do so much and if you have done the best you can, and if fails...which is where my life has been for a long time...what do you do? I don't know. Keep trying, not give up...but then how long or how many times do you allow yourself to fail before you give up and just stop? I can't find the answers to this question. I wish you the best and hope you can figure it out. if you do, please share!

I really don't know if I am doing the right things with my life, but what I am doing with my life beats not doing anything at all. If you just sit around never trying to figure out your life, you will never find the road that you should be on. While you are trying to figure out what is right, just trying new and exciting things that enhance your life. Everything we do is a chance that it will turn out to be the right choice, but if it isn't the right choice you should not beat yourself up. You can always take another approach. You have to know that everything you do will not be the wrong choice, but sometime it does happen. Believing in yourself is the right thing to do.

I truly think that no one knows if they are doing the 'right thing' and who can say what that right thing is? As long as you are feeling happy and fulfilled in your life then that should be enough. Moving away is a good idea for a fresh start, but you also need the mindset to go with it, as you can't just run away from your problems (as I'm sure you know!) I know it sounds cliche, but a positive mental attitude really does make a difference and as long as you feel confident in your new venture, I'm sure you will succeed! Good luck.

I pray about the situations in my life, then move on with confidence. If you are afraid and hesitant, you will push your way off the path you need to be on. Focus on the things that you expect to turn out right and it will make it more likely to happen.

I am doing the same thing, but my move is months away. I have the same fears as you, but it just feels right. I went to visit there and just loved it, but I am moving away from everything I have ever known with just a friend coming with me. Its very scary, but I am full of hope that everything will turn out right and that I can start over and have a life that I will love there. I am sure you will be fine - look at it as a clean slate and start living life the way you want to. Everything will be fine and over time you will see, you did the right thing!

I guess you'll never know. I'm sure that even those people who think things through would never know, as there could be every bit of unforseen problem down the road. I once heard that 'the things worth doing are the hardest things to do'. So even though it's going to be hard, and you're unsure of yourself, I'm sure you'll pull through and be better for it. Goodluck!

Don't worry Ren. I think that we never know if we are doing the right thing. Only the time can show us if it's good or not. Sometimes i accept risky situations and at the end we understand that we had luck and our decision was right, but you can't be sure if you have not experienced it yet. Check how it will be when you move and may be you will feel more comfortable and lucky there, where you go.

I so love your topic! I remember mulan in this topic. It is actually hard to do the right thing even though it is too easy to do. Why? There are times you think you do the right one but isn't right in the eyes of the other. It's like our actions are observed always and we can't act well that were like asking "what should I do to make those things I did right?" The problem with some people is that they are fond of looking at others mistakes than themselves. So, I advice you.. Whenever, wherever and whatever that would make you more comfortable as long as it is not harmful and degrading to the people you are already doing the right thing. Just be yourself as long as you don't harm and hurt people. You can do whatever you want. Sometimes we messed up and that is normal coz life has always it's opposite. Nobody is perfect. You are not perfect. I am not perfect. They are not perfect. Only NOBODY is perfect in this world. You wanted to change? Change yourself for the better to lessen those mess? That would be great. Be who you are.. We may change some of the negatives we have. We make wrong things right. That's it. People have chances always. We can all acquire it anytime we want coz only one thing wont change - the only word CHANGE doesn't change.

By now you would have moved and i do hope that it works out well.Not sure where you have moved to, the last thing i remember seeing was that you were after moving to bse suffolk, did you find a place there or have you chosen some where different.Hope all works out well.

Where are you moving to? If your gut feeling is telling you that it is the wrong move, then you should go there! Move only to a place where you are at least confident enough to say that I will be 70% percent happy with the new location before you even get there. Never move to a place where you tell yourself that I don't really love it, but I think I can get used to it in time. Good luck to you, and keep up your postings here on my lot. I woud like to know how it all works out for you.......

You never know if your doing the right thing but you can know if you happy and thats what matters. But sometimes of the bad things you can do in life looking for happiness when you already have it. That was a mistake that i did long ago. Just keep to the basics and you will be happy.

well, you just have to use your intuition and feelings... also, when i have to make a big major decision like yours, i usually jot down the pros and cons on a piece of paper before i make the decision... this method really helps me a lot in making the right decision... good luck... take care and have a nice day...

No one really knows for sure when you are to embark on a thing to do if it is the most rightful thing to do. However, when you have done it already, you can already gauge if it is the right thing. If it gives you contentment and happiness , then you know that you did the right thing. However if it did not, then move on and try another thing after carefully examining what went wrong with the first.

Hi First and foremost thing you need to do is leave and forget the last year which did not give you any fruits. It was over and now you are living in a new year and expecting a fresh start, keep your mind, thoughts fresh and positive. Keep your worries aside, let them not interfere with the current work and spoil it. Just be calm and relax you are going to win this year because you are having a perfect plan to do it and you will execute it perfectly. Never ever think negative in life even in the worst conditions, just think to yourself whatever happened is for the good and that will give you peace of mind. Peaceful mind works effectively and this is my personal experience. Always think luck is just beside and ready to shower on you, by any means you missed an opportunity simply ignore it and get along. Wish and pray you will get all the success you wanted this year. Happy Living Calpro

hello ren1982! I believe that if you are happy where you are going and you think that it will make your dreams come true, then go for it. If you love what you are doing without regrets whatsoever, then you know that you are doing the right thing. Cheers!

Whatever you do it is the right thing for you.Once the act is over do not worry about it.

Somtimes in order to realize that you are exactly doing the right thing is when you realize your mistakes, and appreciate the good things that happens with your life, remember life is full if struggles, whether you face it or leave it, it works that way sometimes. You just have to make yourself feel comfortable wherever you are and try to think positive of everything that you do and try enjoy and love it, there is no perfect life but we can try make it right the way want to be, how is my words? is it helpful?