How do i teach my 13 months old to talk?

Philippines
January 12, 2011 9:02am CST
Hi I am a new mom :) I have a 13 month old kid, beautiful baby boy. And until now all he can say is mama.. and a lot of babbles like dada, baba.. stuff like that.. Ive read online that you should talk to him in a normal way, avoid baby goos and gahs, if you know what I mean.. So I talk to him in normal words. I think sometimes he understands me, and sometimes he's too busy to actually hear me. I may sound so crazy, im just worried, I guess every mom is. Any advice?
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15 responses
• Philippines
16 Jan 11
I have a four year old son now. When he was a toddler like your son, we were also worried that he cannot talk that much until the age of three, he can say a lot of words but not that clear, but of course we parents can understand him. Until he started attending classes as nursery student, if we are worried before because the way he talks, now we lost answers to his questions! Because he is very talkative! and has a lot of questions with so many words! hahahaha. Its better if you talk to your son in a normal way, avoid baby talks. Just talk and talk to him until he grasp the words you are saying, its also good if he will have a chance to mingle with other children.
• Philippines
18 Jan 11
Thanks Mingviva :) Thanks for the tip. I guess, its in our nature as parents to worry. Never ending worry :) YEs, I avoid baby talks. I talk to him in normal way.. I always talk to him.. even if he doesnt listen.. :)))
• Canada
15 Jan 11
You're right that talking to him as if he understands is good...in fact he probably understands quite a lot! Also, when he says a babble that sounds like a word, praise him a lot. For example, if it's dinner time and he says "baba" or "baga" say "that's right! bottle! What a clever boy you are!" or something like that. Even if he didn't intend to say bottle, he will realize that YOU link the sound to the object, and he will start to associate more words with things. Also, kids love attention, so when he gets attention and praise for being verbal it will motivate him to try it more.
• Philippines
16 Jan 11
Thanks RebeccaScarlett :) I will do that :)
• Italy
13 Jan 11
I think you dont need to worry about and dont force him for start talking. He will do it by himself but it takes some more time. Let the process go on in its natural way. I can feel the anxiousness but it will take little more time.
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Thanks for the advice, Really. :)
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
14 Jan 11
My advice is to relax and enjoy your baby. He is still young. As a rule, boys take longer to learn to verbalize than girls. He should be able to give the names of common objects and simple commands like stop, go, walk, run, fall, etc by age 2 years. If he is not showing progress by the time approaches his second birthday, it is time to have him evaluated. In the meantime, talk to him in a normal tone. Read to him and talk about the pictures. Love him, rock him, and sing to him. Music is important, It doesn't matter if the words make sense or not. It is the melody and rhythm that are important. He should be responding to music already.
• Philippines
16 Jan 11
Yes, thanks for the advice.. Music really is important coz a lot of times, he really stops and listen to the music. actually thats all the time.. He really is.. He loves music.. even when im singing to him, he really likes it :)
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Just let nature take its course. You baby will learn to speak eventually as he grows older. The only reason that would prevent a child to learn to speak is if he's deaf but as long as he hears you there's nothing to worry about. Just speak to him as you normally would to a baby but not baby talk.
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Thank you :)
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
14 Jan 11
Some baby start walking late, some earlier, 13 months is not late chiedenn, nothing to be worried if the baby is normal, you can buy a walker for him it is a circular thing having 3 legs with wheels, put the baby there and help him walk, it will help i am sure thanks for telling kalyani
• Philippines
16 Jan 11
Hi Kalyani, Thanks for the reassurance :) He has a walker but he used for 2 months only.. he wants to walk really on his own, i can tell, its just that he's not confident enough yet..
@youless (112595)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Jan 11
I think a baby boy will learn to speak slower than girl. It is normal. Try to speak more to your baby. He will receive lots of information and then one day he will speak quite a lot to you suddenly:) I love China
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Thanks for the tip :)
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
13 Jan 11
First time parents worry too much! A 13 month old, understands more than you imagine, but he has yet to respond to you. One way to teach your child to speak is to read stories to him. Get some Children's books with lots of big pictures and read the stories over and over again. Soon he will be indicating to you which stories he likes best and will want you to read those again. Kids Love stories with pictures, and his imagination will run rampant as you read these stories. I helped to raise 4 boys, and they all loved to have stories read to them!
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Wow. Thanks for the tips :)
@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
12 Jan 11
The best way is to constantly talk to him. Explain to him what you are doing with everything you do in life. Also make sure you explain things in detail. For instance you could say "look at the round, red ball". Also you can try flash cards with pictures or letters on them and practice once or twice a day with him. Eventually, he'll be babbling away to you.
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
Yes, I am showing him flash cards with pictures, the one from brainy baby.. he loves them.. Thanks for the advice :)
• India
12 Jan 11
The simplest way is to talk to him. Give him visually stimulating objects, colorful objects and keep on uttering its name. Let him touch objects and say the names of those objects while he touches them. Don't give him complicated objects. Give them those with simple geometric figure. Figures that are of regular shape, like round, triangle square, are the best. Show him a toy car and say 'car'. Show him the picture of a dog and say 'dog'. Talk to him, even if it may sound silly. Always engage him in conversation. But let it go easy. Don't hurry, okay? If he is busy with something, let him be. But of course you can speak out the name of the object he's being busy with. Speak the name again and again.
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Thanks for the tip :)
@RULizzie (100)
• United States
12 Jan 11
Babbling is very important to the start of speech. My 14 month old is currently working on talking, since he began to walk at 10 months. I just speak to him like a regular person. He does respond to yes or no question by nodding his head. Every children develops on their own timeline, and your son does not sound delayed. I would not worry, yet unless your pediatrician has concerns.
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
My son knows how to say to.. I mean not the word "No" .. but he turns his head side by side, like how we express no.. haha.. Thanks for the tips..
@pastigger (612)
• United States
12 Jan 11
My daughter is three now I am not sure when she started talking well as it seems likes she has always talked now. I have always talked to her in a normal voice. She is a very clear speaker now everyone can understand her. I have never baby talked her as it drives me crazy. People used to give me strange looks in the store as even before she could talk I have carried on conversations with her. Now she talks a lot and I miss the days when she didn't talk just a little bit. And only some days. It is true that they may not use some words correctly but always seem to use bad words correctly and say them clearly. We have been lucky as just to have to tell her one time not to use such words. Just keep talking to him he will talk and it will amaze you how fast he will start picking up new words.
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Thanks, wow. I guess that will happen to me too, when you know, he's talking a lot. Haha. But of course not all the time too. I didnt baby talk him too .. even when he was weeks old.. Thank you for sharing your experience.
@asyria51 (2861)
• United States
12 Jan 11
Narrate your day. That is what i do when i am home with my child. What are we going to have for breakfast? Give choices and give names to the choices. point out colors, sing songs, read books. Children pick up language at different times, and boys tend to pick it up slower than girls.
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Thanks for the tips :) A friend of mine actually mentioned that .. that boys is slower .. Thanks again..
@Anna1983 (76)
• China
13 Jan 11
I am a mom of two years old daughter.I advice you often talk with him, tell him what did you do today, tell him what is it in your room and in street. Tell something details more with him that he is interestd in. Then he will be active in talking and speaking. The boys can speaks later than the same age girls. If he is liking enjoy music, you can let him hear some music after he wakes up in the morning. Music can makes babies more clever. Please do not worry.
• Philippines
13 Jan 11
Wow thanks.. He really likes music.. Its like one very good way to get his attention .. Thanks
@Trav135 (25)
• Cambodia
12 Jan 11
Yep as parents we all worry tooo much! I believe the advice you have read - talk to your children lots read to them, children are incredible fast learners and they will be reponding in no time!. Just wait till they something unexpected - in exactly the right context - unfortunately it will often be a swear word lol. I often think (no always!) - think children are far smarter than we are. Have fun with your kids :-) there not young for long.
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
Thanks for that.. its good to share this feelings.. you know, it eases the worry :)