Will you give your Facebook password to your spouse/partner if he or she asks?

Philippines
January 16, 2011 1:12pm CST
Men and women often debate about this issue -- whether they have the right to gain access to their partner's Facebook Account. Honestly, as much as I want to know my boyfriend's private activities inside his account (emails, chat), I somehow think I don't have the right to. If ever he'll ask for my Facebook password, I don't think I would feel comfortable about giving it. Although I have nothing to hide from him, there are certain things I don't want him to read such as personal emails I send to my friends or family. I also don't want him to misinterpret guy friends who email me just to ask how I am. I am sure that will cause unnecessary quarrels. But that is just my opinion. Maybe in justice to those who want to have access on their partner's account, it's a way of getting a good sleep at night because they know their partner isn't hiding anything from them. It's also a way to scare off those who dare try to take them away. Peace out! :)
5 responses
• United States
16 Jan 11
I am not married but live with my boyfriend for five years and if he were to ask I would gladly issue it as we decided to be in a committed relationship and that commitment to me means we share everything and nothing to hide. If he were to ask me I would not have any problem with it at all as same applies to me in terms of our commitment. We do have each others and neither is so curious to check one anothers as we truly have nothing to hide and do respect one another. However, if you are speaking of a newly encountered boyfriend, dating stage and or uncertainty as to where the relationship is going then I see where as I would refrain, but then on the other hand how can the relationship further deeper if there are some sort of secrets, where as perhaps finding out things later will lead to destruction of a relationship. At any rate each one of us knows who we are partnered with and to what extent/level of entrust we should provide. I can't imagine snooping and mis-interpreting perhaps an innocent situation which there after can destroy the wonderful relationship we have. Be Well.
• United States
16 Jan 11
You really do not actually it comes naturally. If one day he needs something and is away from the PC he will not have access, then you say well baby just give me your password and I will be happy to help, as you know I too would do the same for you...wink! I wish you lot of happiness with him and a strong relationship, I also see you are quite new to myLot so a very warm welcome and much success with your membership.
• Philippines
16 Jan 11
Hey, thanks for the tip! I'll remember that. Yes, I'm new here. I really do want to know other people's opinions on certain issues because I know I'll get to learn a lot from them. I am also open to criticisms. Thank you for your support! :)
• Philippines
16 Jan 11
Good point! Thank you. I love your response. I, too, do not want to come to a point where I will have to snoop around for information. And neither do I want him to reach that point. I wonder how to open that kind of discussion with my boyfriend. I do want to build a stronger level of trust with him.
• Philippines
16 Jan 11
For you yes, since you said your still in the bf/gf stage and not yet married. But once you are married, the question is will you both still have secret accounts for social sites and what will be the purpose of keeping it. For me, hubby and I do have our separate FB account but we do know the password of each account. We don't hide anything from each other even email accounts since we are married and he is open to read the messages I sent to my family and friends, and at the same time he is open for me to read the messages he gets as well as greetings from friends on his FB account. If the relationship is transparent, the better. There isn't anything to hide and that also applies to text messages on mobile, both of us are confident on checking messages on our mobile phone since we do trust each other well. My family is his family and his friends are also my friends. The thing about keeping secret about joining such social site is really questionable for me, why and what is the purpose of keeping it away from your spouse if you have any other intention of flirting to others right? it is also a path to trap you where communication and trust is at stake. I am sure we keep something for ourselves no matter what, but for us, that does not include public social sites and emails. The only thing we both keep private and not share is going to the toilet, number 2.
• United States
16 Jan 11
I so agree with your response about the toilet.
• Philippines
16 Jan 11
"I am sure we keep something for ourselves no matter what, but for us, that does not include public social sites and emails." Hey, I like this! Thanks for the response. I get to learn more from your insight. Just a question though. Won't you feel irritated if your hubby always keeps on looking at your Facebook account or emails or mobile phone and reading your messages as if he doesn't trust you? Or you won't take it that way?
• United States
16 Jan 11
I don't have a spouse or partner so it's not an issue for me. But I wouldn't even consider giving it to my former spouse. He was way too controlling and manipulative for me to trust.
• Philippines
17 Jan 11
You have a point. I would be hesitant if my partner would be too controlling and manipulative as well! I guess it would depend on the other person's character and personality, right? Thanks for your response. :)
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
16 Jan 11
I dont think that`s a good idea. Fb is like your personal ownership, like cellphones. You do have a need for privacy...
• Philippines
16 Jan 11
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Just curious, why have you thought so? Are you married or in a relationship?
• United States
17 Jan 11
I don't mind to share my password with my husband but he never asks me about that and I don't like to ask him about passwords and all because every one needs some privacy isn't it?
• Philippines
17 Jan 11
Yes. It's kind of awkward to ask them for password directly. Maybe in an indirect way? :)