What are the dilemmas that you have faced and how did you cope with it?
By celeste2224
@celeste2224 (160)
Philippines
January 19, 2011 9:41am CST
I have faced many dilemmas in my life and the worst situation that I have encountered was during college years, i have a friend who is also a classmate during college and we are so close, he is a guy and I know that he has a girlfriend, we talk everyday and somehow I fell for him, he and his gf are not so good at that time, and then he told me that the reason was me, they broke up and he courted me, my friends told me that he was just using me, it was not true that the reason was me, they just broke up and so he wants to use me, the dilemma was, I love the guy but my friends are telling me no, what I did was I fought for what I know will make me happy, so we did end up for a certain time. The sad things is my friends were right, he just used me, we broke up and he and his gf went back together. I was dumb I know but at least I was happy at my decision although it was a major suffering for me and I have found my true friends at that time,they never left me...
3 responses
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
19 Jan 11
Hi dear, You are absolutely right. When such situations come up, we always justify ourselves and we may have 100s of reasons for it. In our view, we are right, because we are longing for it. In your case also, you though you can get that relation perfect with some time and can go ahead happily. You had seen only one (bright) side of the matter and your friends advised with looking both the sides. It is the age where we take decisions with passion, and not with sense. So, for everyone's life such incidence is common and the decisions also come up like how you decided only.
I also had several such cases, though it is not so touching, but there were many incidents. Sometime we may think that our friends are jealous and that is the reason why they think in such a way. But mostly they were genuine and we will realise only after some time, once whatever is happened.
Thank-s
@celeste2224 (160)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
I do agree with you, yes I do think that sometimes my friends are jealous but at the end of it all I just realize that they can see what is the truth and I am just blinded with what I feel. Anyways that's all in the past now, I just look back at it and I say to myself what wonderful friends I have.
@zahid_ans (2)
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20 Jan 11
It is good that you copped up with the situation very well. In my opinion, happenings in life are just predecided and out of our control, but we are not able to foresee our future. It is just in the hands of the supreme power.
Hence, we should always take it easy. Life is full of changes and to lead life to the fuller extent, we have to accept changes. The only thing that is permanent in life is Change. So, take everything in life easy, it will keep you easy.
@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
19 Jan 11
good to know that you were able to overcome that dilemma of yours, celeste. well, we all have problems and face dilemmas all the time. it is how we deal with them and move on with our lives that is more important. also, learning the lessons from these trials that we encounter is equally significant since it is the only way that we can mature and be braver every day of our lives. problems and issues may vary in degree and levels of difficulty, but how we deal with them help to make us grow as persons, emotionally and mentally.
