Housewife: Hardest Job Ever
By jamed28
@jamed28 (1903)
Philippines
January 19, 2011 7:40pm CST
I am a father of four ages 15, 5, 2 years old and 8 months old baby. Eveytime I went home I wanted a quite peaceful house with no shouting, crying and fighting since I am tired from work. Unfortunately, our company closed due to, what day say "Global Economic Crisis", so I lose my job. So I stayed home for a while trying to look a job online and off-line but I find it hard to find one since most job openings are available to 35 years old and younger, and I am 36. So my wife and I started a small business of selling cosmetic products and RTW at home.
So am staying at home and it is really tough! I would rather work as construction worker that stayed at home. Why? Because it is very hard to be a "Househusband"! Or just maybe I am not use to it. Cooking, washing clothes, washing dishes, guarding the kids (toughest), and cleaning the house. Although we are ding things together with my wife, but the toughest of all of this is the pressure from my wife. She is always mad everytime she is doing something! Almost everyday she's mad! I wake up in the morning with her loud voice either shouting at me or shouting at my kids. Well, I cannot blame her since we are in hard times. But she is making it more harder!
As of now, I applying for a job abroad, and hope I get this job. It was a 2 year contract in Middle East as a family driver. And no doubt if I got this job, I'll fly in there right away even it will take me away from my family. I love my kids but if I stayed at home, I am a useless father.
Well, I pity also my wife, I know it was hard to be at home and be a housewife. Good day everyone!
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11 responses
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
In marriage, the husband and wife help each other in anyway they can.
When one is employed, then the other one should do the chores at home. I doesn't matter if you are the guy, when supposedly it's the wife doing those household chores.
Maybe your wife is just tired from taking care of your kids and at the same time doing the chores at home. Maybe she just don't know how to convey it to you lovingly, so she tries to let you know that her hands are full by shouting at your kids. When she do that perhaps you could help her by pacifying the kids because kids could get into our nerves as parents sometimes.
Really, being a houseband/housewife is the hardest specially when there a are kids to take care too!
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@soyporteno (406)
• United States
20 Jan 11
Yes, I agree. Being a housewife and doing all of that work for the house and the family is a very hard job. My wife is always tired at the end of the day. We have 4 children and she is always doing housework or cooking, etc.
@ParaTed2k (22940)
• Sheboygan, Wisconsin
20 Jan 11
I agree, but I commend you in being there for your family, even though your wife is making it harder. I also commend you for understanding that there are reasons she is on edge all the time.
When I returned from Desert Storm, my wife and I spent time talking about what we went through over the 7 1/2 months I was gone. I was in Saudi Arabia and Iraq for the war, she was home at Fort Bragg, NC, taking care of 4 kids, 5 years and under.
By the time we finished talking, we both admitted that the other had the hardest time, and each said we couldn't have done what was required of the other.
@reco13 (605)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
Well at least you realized how hard it is to be a mother and wife. You can't blame your wife if she's always mad, perhaps due to a very tiring day with your growing kids. You even have a baby who really needs much attention. Being a mother and wife is really hard but I want to be one someday. It is tiring yet very fulfilling role in a woman's life. Good luck on your career!
@eurekafemme (5876)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
Hello, Jamed.
I am also a full time Mum and my husband is the one working. Fortunately his work doesn't require him to be in a four cornered space from 8 to 5 because he can do his job here at home. But, he isn't that much help because even if he is not working he stays in front of the computer doing facebook or just reading anything and everything that even washing the dishes should have to wait.:(
This really makes me upset for a lot of times and due to so much physical stress I am often rude to him. He doesn't seem to understand the burden of being a wife and doing everything in the house and even outside that. But whenever I tell him that I want to work again, he wouldn't agree because he knows he will be the one left to do all the things that I do.
Sadly, here in our country being 35 above seem obsolote. And yes, working abroad is seems the best option for us who are not that young anymore. We have to sacrifice a bit, though, it could b lonely out there but it is going to be worth it especially when you know that you can give your kids a comfortsable life and all the best things they deserve in this life.
Goodluck to you, Jamed.
I am also a full time Mum and my husband is the one working. Fortunately his work doesn't require him to be in a four cornered space from 8 to 5 because he can do his job here at home. But, he isn't that much help because even if he is not working he stays in front of the computer doing facebook or just reading anything and everything that even washing the dishes should have to wait.:(
This really makes me upset for a lot of times and due to so much physical stress I am often rude to him. He doesn't seem to understand the burden of being a wife and doing everything in the house and even outside that. But whenever I tell him that I want to work again, he wouldn't agree because he knows he will be the one left to do all the things that I do.
Sadly, here in our country being 35 above seem obsolote. And yes, working abroad is seems the best option for us who are not that young anymore. We have to sacrifice a bit, though, it could b lonely out there but it is going to be worth it especially when you know that you can give your kids a comfortsable life and all the best things they deserve in this life.
Goodluck to you, Jamed.@jamed28 (1903)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
I do understand you and I do understand you husband also. If that "house job" of your husband is the bread-and-butter of your family, I do believe you need to let him off the household works. But then if he is just wasting time in front of the computer all day, and his earning is not sufficient like of those regular jobs outside the house, then you should really be mad.
Now as I'd said, if your husband is earning enough to geed your family and support your family needs then give him the time and space, and don't expect him to do the household works. He is in front of the computer not because he is having fun with it, he is in front of the computer to work. Just imagine he is working in the office! Isn't it better that he is at home working? I have the same situation in here, I am earning $10-$12 a day working at home, if my wife and kids won't bother me while working. But my wife is always shouting, and slapping everything and it makes me sick because I know she wanted me to help her run the house! But I compare it to working outside the house. I left in the morning, with prepared breakfast, ironed clothes and a kiss. I arrived at night, sometimes late, with a hug and kiss and food already set in the table. But now that I work at home, everything has changed. I work up in the morning early to cook breakfast and iron the kids' clothes and everything. I am earning online the same amount I am earning when I was still working "out of the house". We may be at home but we still bring money to the house!!!
@Graceekwenx (3160)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
Jamed. Thank you for declaring that housewife is the hardest job ever. Not all men would be humble enough to admit it so. In fact, i have heard many men say to their wives, "you're just at home and yet you accomplish nothing??!!!" Well darn it to all those charlatan men! Managing the house and family is terribly difficult!
I dont think you are a useless father Jamed. It could be that you dont know your way around and still in the adjustment period.
If you do get qualified for the job that you are applying in the Middle East, this is what i have to warn you. Many married men who works abroad get really lonely and end up having relationships there as well. Be on your guard. Pray hard for yourself and your family. Remember that you are there for the love of your family and not because you think that you make a useless father.
Keep in touch!
@jamed28 (1903)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
Well people in here thought I am useless, lazy and crazy father. They never believe me I can earn money online. I started making money online with just a few penny a day, then it turn into $1 to $2 a day, then now it is $10 - $12. But still I feel I am useless. I do the washing of clothes today, and I'd just finish washing the dishes. I am in front of the computer when 2 of my kids cry. Then I here my wide shouting, slapping his feet and make the whole house shake. I think she thought I am again in front of the computer and she is mad of it. ahhhh.... enough! It makes me sick.
Thanks madam for understanding. I know women are having a hard time staying at home specially if there are kids (well of course if you are wealthy enough you can hire someone to do things in the house for you). I know that because that's what I'd been doing this past months. That's why I'll rather get any job off the house than stay in there. It is really tough!
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
20 Jan 11
i know that being a housewife is the toughest job ever because it is a never ending job and it is 24/7... especially with 4 kids like you... it is even harder... i think your 15 years old child is old enough already to help you with the household works and looking after the younger siblings... may be that will make you less frustrated and your job to become easier... take care and have a nice day...
@housechaos7 (609)
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20 Jan 11
I understand what you are saying life is always tough,and i believe its more stressful to be a housewife/househusband than going out to work as being at home is emotionally draining,but how would you feel if your wife took the upper hand and got a job working away for two years and left you to handle the home and kids?I understand you love them all but kids are hard work and need that father aswell as mother.
@lologirl2021 (5542)
• United States
20 Jan 11
No father is a Useless father. I dont think if you have four kida and none are able to provide for the family yet then you should not take a job so far away and be able to help your wife when she needs it and be there for her when she is in need of a hand. You can do alot of things im sure around where you live or even find something just around your town. Post your resume on craigslist and see who picks it up in your town. Have a great day.
@raviteja_ravi84 (2620)
• India
20 Jan 11
Well i know what you mean! Being a housewife is really hard and i know the pain hey have to go through. My mother is a housewife and she takes very good care of the house and she does an excellent job at it. She also maintains me and my brother well giving us whatever we need. I try my best also to help her out at home by doing some simple chores like washing dishes, cleaning up attic and so on. I feel happy when small jobs like that are done because it's my own house and no one else would clean it right?!
Cheers!
@titchy1231 (732)
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21 Jan 11
as there are 2 of you it should be easier as you are both doing the housework, but yes it is hard doing housework
