is maintaining a relationship so hard?

It is, sadly. It takes a lot of courage, patience and understanding to be able to nourish and keep the relationship. 13 years of being boyfriend and girlfriend before my husband and I decided to settle down. Whenever I tell how long we've been together before getting married, same reaction I get. They were totally amazed. I always tell hem, though, that it was not always a bed of roses. We have our ups and downs. But because we love each other so much, we were able to conquer the trials.

Yes, starting a new relationship is hard enough, but maintaining a relationship is even harder. Though being in a relationship, both parties should be knowing each other quite well and there should not be much conflicts, misunderstandings, whatever. HOwever, problems often arises because we know each other too well, that leads to hiding of stuffs, not opened to each other, having secrets before being exposed. When that happens, trust is lost before the relationship is gone too.

I think if a relationship gets "too damn hard", then the relationship isn't worth it. It's not always easy, but it shouldn't be like pulling teeth. The difficulty is because no matter how compatible you are, you are still two individual people and it's not easy to meld the two.

Greetings! Yes. I agree that its hard to maintain a relationship because you must have trust in each other, understanding, contentment, and many more. You have to do a lot of things so that you're relationship would last its hard because some are really not satisfied with their partner that's why they tend to look for someone else so we must our best all of the time. Its hard to find someone who would really love us unconditionally that's why we must always be our best - our looks, attitude so that our partner wouldn't look for someone else. ;)

I agree with maui..it is never really easy to maintain the love within a relationship especially when you are together for quite sometime already. And making each other feel and express love everyday is also very hard. It depends on how patient each other are and how strong they can stand the relationship.

I wouldn't say its hard but I would say it takes both people to keep a relationship healthy and fun for each other. There's nothing worse than one person trying too hard while the other partner doesnt. Doesn't mean its hard just means they arent as open to keeping the relationship the way you think it should be. Patience and understanding would be more a key factor in keeping the relationship going I would say.

Hi Yes it is true. Maintaining a relationship for a long time is not an easy thing to do. Actually they say is 5 years is the maximum time you can really maintain a close relationship, after that it starts to fizzle.

Hello my friend maintaining relationship is hard if both side have own secret but if the couple have good relationship,open minded, can give and take ways it is easy to maintain, so my friend depends of the couple for maintaining the relationship. see you around

could be yes and no...the thing to remember is that whatever efforts you took at the beginning to get the girl/guy is the same efforts you have to constantly put in order to main the same relationship if not more. And I would say the absolute WORSE thing to do is too become complacent, stubborn and Stuck in your ways. You might as well kiss the relationship good bye with these cancers.

uh yeah..

Sure, I can't say it's too damn hard, but i had to admit it's not too damn easy

I don't think so. the key is how to get along.that's to say,communicate.keep in touch each other.