bullying me.. ?
By tiina05
@tiina05 (2317)
Philippines
January 20, 2011 4:32am CST
hello everyone,
I am a student with have lot of friends but I have notice something to them because every time I answer my teacher or every time I report they always make fun of me. I dont know why. Does they bullying me? hmmm or they just playing me? ..
Help me I want to know what is the real reason for this..
thank you.
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10 responses
@jimmythangjam (96)
• India
20 Jan 11
They are your friends and its a normal thing that friends pull each other's legs.
Dont worry, its not called bullying. Its just for the fun. Even u are gonna do it to them someday. Keep having fun. :)
@jimmythangjam (96)
• India
20 Jan 11
well if their actions starts bothering you a lot then Tell them u dont feel good with the way they behave.They should understand. Instead If they deliberately irritate u again and again, then they have got some problem with you.
Ask them what their problem is. But dont let yourself get into trouble. Everything must be done with friendly gestures.
G00d luck!! :)
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
hi Tina, you see people are social animals(sorry to use the term) and sometimes we also exhibit pack behavior, some people think that making fun or if it's bullying increases their status in the hierarchy, when I was young I got into fights if just to stop the behavior, guess most boys of young age do that,do not get me wrong, I do not advice any one to go into a fight, as I matured I found letting people know exactly what I do not like is enough and very effective, it differentiates us from other animals because we are a thinking specie
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
thank for your response,
LOL, thank you it makes me feel better now, I dont want to get into a fight when they are so many and I am alone. Don't like that maybe I should ignore them because every time that after they talk I dont speak and maybe they noticed that, Maybe they will change when they got matured. right? ^_^
thank you so much.
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@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
20 Jan 11
Dear friend,
During my college days when I usually stand up to answer my colleges used to make me fun.That was the first few days after that they did not care on me to make fun of, but they are friendly. Only thing is that when they made fun of me I did not respond to it nor I did not react to that fun. I did not even bother on it. I feel that if there is an action it would have a reaction. Hence I did not react to their fun. They just made fun for my reaction and they did not get it from. Lastly they left it. May be it is a part of life enjoyment only in school or college later grew up I hope it becomes just nice memories. Silly guys my friend even now I life those memories of making me fun..ha...ha.....
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
hello thanks for your response,
Hmmm actually, this is not funny at all I feel very little when they making fun of me. I asking myself if I am stupid? or clumsy? hmmm but I am trying to not react of what they say but it hurts me. But as what you say I must enjoy it for better and stay away from problems. hmmm thank you by the way.
thanks really help a lot.
@ramplified_17 (105)
• Philippines
20 Jan 11
Do you know the feeling when you hate someone even if he or she is not doing anything to you? You have to consider that they might be like that to you. I have to admit that almost twice or once I have bullied some of my classmates before. It's all part of growing up. One day they will get tired of it and just forget it. For now just try to ignore them
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
hello thanks for your response,
I am not bullying anybody but why did they doing that to me. Actually, I dont really know if that is what it called when friends having fun with you. Well, I am not a toy that they can play always and make fun of me. I dont know why they like that. yes, I will ignore them as long as i can.
thank you.
@topffer (42156)
• France
20 Jan 11
Hello tiina,
Have you said something funny or stupid ? Is your bodice open ? Are you walking with a red shoe in a foot and a black in the other ?
If no, you have perhaps a problem. It is not fun to laugh when a friend is answering. I don't think you can call this bullying, but if they are your friends, ask them to stop...
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
hello thanks for your response,
I just made a mistake when I answer but is it funny at all? hmmm I dont even know. I will try to say to them that I dont like their behavior every time I made a wrong things. hmmm But i hope it will be fine. right?
thank you so much
@mark98 (567)
• China
20 Jan 11
Take it easy.Sometimes friends make fun of you do not really laugh,but they like you,willing to joke with you,make fun of each other is a skill,especially in response to someone else canceled.
When people make fun of you,you should learn to laugh.If you show more confidence,it would not be easy to make fun of others.
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
hello thanks for your response,
Yes, you have a point there I learned of what you have just said. Maybe I should tell joke always but not all the time. right? yeah, maybe they just like me because they always laugh when I am around. ^_^
thank you so much.
@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
Sometimes people make fun of me for being, let's say, the one who's finished her reports first, the one who's got the highest score in the recent evaluation, the one who volunteers to do some unfinished tasks. We have a word for that in our language "bibo" which is good and bad at the same time. Good because you are good at what you do, and bad because some people find your being good annoying.
When people make fun of you I guess that first defense is too laugh along, but when you feel bad about it then perhaps you should talk to them and say how you feel.
@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
21 Jan 11
People laughing at us because of our gesture, our mimic, our voice, the way we presented the report, etc. It does not sound like bullying to me. Bullying is more insisting someone of doing his/ her bidding. You can ask one of them why they laugh at you, and maybe they will tell you the truth.
@r4v3n_ (178)
• United States
21 Jan 11
I also have some classmates who have the same attitude as your other classmates has. It's just that they're being friendly or they just want to make the class enjoyable and not dull. Base on my observation, they don't mean to hurt you but they can just be being friendly with you. Just don't think too much about that just continue being friendly.
@Poshpal (31)
• Nepal
21 Jan 11
You seem like the studious student. It's actually normal for not brainy kids to get teased. Don't give up on answering ur teachers questions. After all, u got IT :)
But it's also good if once in a blue moon u give ur friends the opportunity to speak out. Thats how you make friends ;)