What makes it last?

Compatibility, communication, compromise. If any one of these breaks down, the relationship dissolves. If they are all strong, then the relationship will stay strong.

Hm, I think you are right. It should be mutual; respect, love, care, views on life in general, thoughts, needs and dreams. So, I guess that is why not many relationship last, cause it is hard to find two people with mutual dreams or needs or views on something.

Makes me think of something I was told when I was a kid....for a relationship to last you really have to like the person you are with...not love or feel great passion for...but you have to like who they are. If you like who they are then after many years when they are no longer new and the passion has faded..you will still be with your best friend. Another one of my grandfather quotes..lol.

I actually made a video recently with the song "How do u keep the music playing" as background and i thought i felt my relationship is going on the right track. But i just wonder how with my intuition tells me its not that way at all. Mutual...that is with same intensity. How about when u feel like u want to give 100% and u feel your lover can give you 70% only.And whats worst is you are in love. And you know somehow , there is something wrong somewhere. But i prefer to be silent for i dont want to be a nagging gf who seems to demand for attention and love. But what if my intuition is right.That i can get 70% only for the100% i want to give. And i end up confused.

I will give another answer...it is what they are living for....You can see it when they have children and then they decide to live their lifes for their children...the relationship will last longer and certain commitments and compromises will be made... Religion could be a drawback here and you decide to make God as your priority, especially if you have different religion because each religion have different views of God.

well i havent found that yet, but for me i want a friend, someone i can talk to, have similar interests, make me laugh

There are a lot of things that can add to the success of a relationship. Sometimes it's the trust. Sometimes it's the satisfaction. Sometimes its the care that one gets from the other and sometimes it's the space that they give each other. Just because 2 people are in a relationship doesn't mean that they have to forgo of the world and live with each other. I have notices this is many a couples. People just try to impose their opinions and ideas on their partners and after sometime of friction it leads to a lot of problems and eventually a breakdown. They have to give each other some space. being pushy and argumentative is a major cause as being a relationship, they each other often look to each other for comfort and love. bourne

A lasting relationship is one that started with a firm foundation of friendship and trust. I am lucky and have been married for 20 years. I know a few other couples who have been together as long or longer. All of us agree that we are still together because we started as friends and though we are in love and in a love relationship, we are still friends with our spouses as well. I know my husband is still and always will be my very best friend.

I believe that being in a lasting relationship is a decision that both partners have to make. Since it is like a mutual agreement that they will stick together no matter what comes their way. Thus, working things out in order for them to live a bearable and comfortable life. It isn't just love. It needs respect as well, which is the greatest ingredient in the strong and lasting relationship. One can respect each other without love but they can never love each other without respect. Trust isn't a question , either, because once you respect each other, you will do the right thing so as not to lose such respect of your partner.

Greetings! Its hard for some relationships to lasts because we cannot avoid misunderstandings and flirts out there. It depends on the couple. Yes. I agree that if the feelings are mutual, it will last. If the feeling is not mutual, its hard to make it last because the other one would be having a hard time pleasing his/her partner that can turn to misunderstanding that can also lead to break up then that's the end of their relationship. Its hard so we must accept the fact that of all the many couples here in this world, only few lasts but still we shouldn't feel hopeless about it.

I would agree with you. A lasting relationship should have to have love from both sides. It should have trust and respect. I think without those it's really hard to have a lasting relationship.

Many people now rush into too many things. They quickly end up pregnant, engaged, married or move in. This is when they don't really know oneanother and so when they then spend plenty of time together things don't always work out well. If a realtionship has had many good times then when you have some bad times you look at the good you have had, you look at the love you had and the length of time you have been together, you then see that your relationship is worth fighting for as your partner truly is the love of your life and they are the person you want to stay with, we all change at somepoint, but realtionships where they always communicate and work together when there are problems are the best relationships of all.

I've been married for 18 years and counting and I must tell you that what keeps our relationship strong and on going is love. I've seen some other responses and they either downplay this truth or feel that more is needed. Actually, the other things mentioned are all a part of love. See, love is patient and kind. Love does not envy, love isn't proud. Love behaves, and love is not selfish or easily provoked. Love is not evil; love shares truth instead of spreading lies. Love understands all, love endures all, love has hope for all; love never fails. Ladies and gentlemen, IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT YOU! There's no such thing as a 50/50 relationship, it's 100/100! If you are not satisfied with GIVING in the relationship alone - you will eventually become alone. Many relationships break down because motives are selfish. We need to be a person who is figuring out the best way to please their loved one, not the other way around. Now, you'll reap the rewards and satisfaction of a powerful relationship, if your desire is to INVEST first and REAP last. I know there are different faiths out there, but this transcends them all - without love, it's pointless.

What truly makes it last is your commitment to make it last, despite and inspite. It includes the trust, the patience, the understanding and the love. Without it, you would never experience a story of forever romance. =) Stay in Love.

I would think it would have to be. I was in a one sided relationship and it got very old...tiring and before long I didn't want it any more. Everything had to be his way....it was his house...it was his money (even my paychecks)....so I let him have everything except MY kids.....and WE started over in OUR own house!

Working on it, communicating, making sure up front that the person doesn't have any traits that you can't live with.

I am already 10 years in a relationship and it last because of trust and loyalty to one another.being open to one another is also a great help to stay longer in a relationship.quarrels are just spice in a relationship.it makes the relationship more stronger.you are right, the two of them has something in common or mutual as what they say,that is why,they were able to keep the relationship in a very long time.

Hi Sarah, To start with It is My Requirement and Need... I would be willing to adjust and be open and try to continue as long as I can... It Starts the foundation of the relation. Then when it comes to continuing / lasting with it, both need to have the need for the relation and both need to adjust and be giving for the relation to survive. Keep adding trust, faith, love, Honesty... the stronger it becomes and stands the Test of Time

Of course, there should be something mutual between the two of you if you are in a relationship,because how you can you probably be together if all you have in a relationship are your differences. Mutual respect, mutual uderstanding, mutual feelings, and mutual trust should be in relationship to make it all last. Me and my partner are still in our 5 years of the relationship, and we still have a long way to go. I also admit that we have a lot of differences and we don't share a lot of hobbies or like the same things individually, but we share the same passion when it comes to thinking about our relationship and adjusting to each other's differences. Trusting each other is also one of the basic elements in a relationship. Without trust, there will always be a reason for arguments and jealousy.

I think a relationship will last when they are committed to each other. They will not let anyone ruin their relationship whatever happens. What is the reason why they enter into a relationship? Its because they needed something in each other. We never no what is that something. It depends..maybe is love, sense of belonging.but one factor that is also important is the compatibility...sometimes even you really love each other there is always wrong that u cannot fix.