from friends to lover, then lover back to freinds - is it possible?
@chardonnay_nz (9)
New Zealand
January 21, 2011 5:55pm CST
From friendship to lover is such perfect way to get into a relationship because you two have known each other for a while. However, things do not always work out. The relationship may end for various reason but is it possible for you two go back to the friendship like before?
7 responses
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
24 Jan 11
Ups, sorry I wrote "steel" in my post, I should have written "still" hehe. Sorry! Though, Blessings! =)
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
24 Jan 11
Yes! It is very very very difficult, because you have to kill your inner love for that person. You have to disguise your love. I`ve seen it with a friend of mine that this kind of love-relationship wouldn´t work, because of many outside reasons, for both of us. I think that is better for us to be just friends, otherwise, we will be enemies for ever. We have love each other... with such a big love. I can´t express this love with words. But it was the kind of love that help you live, no matter how plain of troubles is your life. It was such strenght love. Unbelievable. But we cannot be more than simply friends, just friends. That´s the real thing. So I have diminish my affection to him. I have cried a lot, really a lot. Even in front of strangers. But we were damaging each other, forcing a love that can´t be. So he is steel my friend, he is a good friend, but no more, because I decide it. Because this is the Best for us, and for everyone beside us. Blessings, and good luck!
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
22 Jan 11
I have heard of some people who have done this but for me personally, I do not think this will work. It is like mixing business with pleasure, where as you sort of cross the line and the special friendship bonding gets wrecked.
I do see you are new to myLot so a warm welcome to you.
@raviteja_ravi84 (2620)
• India
22 Jan 11
Well that is really kinda hard and difficult in the first place. Once a guy likes a girl he finds it real hard to even talk to her. After he does he wants to be together so he tries to be friendly with that girl and sadly he might succeed or not at all. After all that he's done he has to wait for a response from the girl either to say yes or no. If the girl says yes then it's a good thing else it's a nightmare. After that they enjoy and the worst part of it is breakup.
Guys want to forget girls but girls always want to be friends. Here comes the real part. The guy wants to forget but the girl doesn't. Why? I don't know. My girlfriend also did the same to me but then i knew that i was in charge of my life and not her so i left her forever. She even tries to talk to me today but i neglect her... How i hate her now!
Cheers!
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@juniorstringbean08 (455)
• Philippines
22 Jan 11
that depends. i think you may need a lot more time and space after break up before bringing back your friendship like before. it's not that easy to bring back what the both of you have had after just a break up. because bitterness is still present between the two of you. so if given enough time and space to move on, it's possible that both of you have moved forward already, and free from all the pains. therefore, it could still happen. it''s difficult and really awkward to talk to an ex at first, but time could heal all the wounds. see you around!
@saphire31 (18)
• United States
23 Jan 11
Absolutely. That would depend on the reason for the break up and the length of the friendship. I've only dated a few of my friends but for the most part we ended amicably enough for the friendship not to have been damaged at all.
@kevin90az (143)
• United States
22 Jan 11
I think it would be a very difficult thing to do. It may work for a while but when you begin dating your next partner it would just be awkward. I think it's best to stay friendly with them but not really talking to them too much or sharing personal things with them.
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