Will it be as importatnt to me in..let's say 10 years?

Well i am still a college student mam, yet i got a suggestion for you. You continue with your job for next 5 years and save as much money as you can. After that you start a small business at your home itself when you wont need much money for living. In that way you can secure your future plus you can get rid of your job too. You havent mentioned whether you like your job or not so i shall not comment much on that but you should be planning to start your own business in next five years. Thank you.

I never had any kids so that's one less thing I have to worry about. I'm sure lots of mothers feel that way once their children grow up and leave the nest. I think you'll be fine...just try to stay as close as you can and try to do things with them even though they no longer live with you. Maybe you even enjoy having some peace and quiet. Sorry I can't help you much on this topping but I like to drop by and say Hi anyways

Good morning Jen, are u snowbound like me? As u know i have already been through the big change. I thought i had to work no matter what & went when i didn't feel like it. When the times comes when u can't do it anymore u just have to learn to accept it & make the adjustments accordingly. Itwasn't as hard for me as i thought it would be. The worse thing was not having the money coming in of course. Be sure u save for a rainy day in case u have one. I hope u don't. It is hard for your children to leave home. I grieved both times that mine did, u will to . We just have to count our blessings every day & make the best of whatever is going on. U will do fine. Happy weekend to u.

Think of what you thught the future would bring 10 years ago. Things change and as long as you continue to grow, keep an open mind, and make the help of others a goal you will find yourself a valued person in the world as it will be. Blessings

Hi,JenInTN! Well,actually this question has never bothered me.And I believe it shouldn't bother you as well.We can never know what we will be like in 10 years.Many things can happen and many changes can be done.The most important thing,I firmly believe,is that you love what you're doing right now.If you have the passion,go for it and stick to it.And maybe several years later,you find yourself more into something else or the passion is weakening,then just seek for some other things that you're interested in.There are plenty of important things to do in life.And while we grow more and more mature,we will make some decisions which we wouldn't even imagine of doing now. So just keep being positive and when problems occur,you will come up with solutions then.If the things you're doing right now is important to you,then you're going in the right direction.Don't worry about what it will be like in 10 years,now is the most important moment.And besides,you can't get anything beneficial out of worrying about your future,right? Have a nice day!

hey there! i believe that everything we do counts. they may not be as important in the future as they are now, but still, they'll somehow play a role. no matter how little that role may be. i always keep my optimism. it helps to have a glimpse of hope in everything. not too much though. you know what, my mom had the same thinking when we were a lot younger. she would tell us how she felt at that time. now that my sister and i have grown up, we are living our own lives. but though my mom's role changed a bit in terms of what she does for herself now that we've grown, her role to us hasn't changed a bit. she's still our mom and we include her in our future plans. but of course, this is speaking from a daughter's point of view. life is inevitable. one day we're like this, tomorrow we're like that. it's good to have a plan. it's good to set some goals. but it's also nice and healthy to retain a little spontaneity. it adds color to life. for now, i have mapped out my life in the next 10 years. hopefully by that time i have my own family, with kids of course, and a good practice as a doctor. but that plan is very vague. i psyched myself into thinking that things may not go as i want them to. so i have to be ready for some detours. i guess we just have to really live one day at a time. see where life takes us. im sorry i have no good advice regarding your concern. but i just want you to remember to keep an open but positive perspective in life. =)

Jen, you will ALWAYS be a mom. Yes, they grow up, but they will always need you. And then there will come a day, hopefully, you will become a grandmother! (Just hopefully not any time soon.) I wouldn't stress too much about where you are going to be in 10 years, if you are reasonably happy and your girls grow up to be happy, and emotionally healthy, then you have done your parental job and can become more of a friend to them. My mother and I had a wonderful friendship since I became an adult. I enjoyed spending time with her, we shared a lot of interests. Yeah, she didn't get the science fiction, but we both enjoyed mysteries. 10 years from now, maybe you guys can do things together that you all enjoy, and maybe even have the pleasure of helping them move on to that difficult time after schooling called adulthood! If your job is one you enjoy, and you think you can still enjoy it in 10 years, then, hey, stay! A job is what supports the really important things in live, friends, family and health. If it impacts one of those things, then you need to decide about it then.

I wonder if you won't be glad to have a job that you enjoy and that you have been doing for awhile. After the girls leave and you are on your own you may feel some of the 'empty next' thing and you might be glad to have something to do that you like and that you are used to rather than something new and nerve racking. As far as myself and the things I am doing now being as important in the near future. I have comitted to helping my daughter in raising her son. Also in helping her with her bi-polar manic phases. It will be as important in the future as it is now.

It's good that you are planning so that you can gradually get used to it, but still, I'm sure there will be a shock and discomfort until you get used to it. I've had a life changing experience once where I stopped doing something I was so used to and it was difficult to let that go, but eventually, I am starting to get used to it. I hope that the things that worry me now will be nothing in 10 years.

Well, as per my opinion is concern; I need to have a plan for the future because you don't know what happen tomorrow. The plan should be an optional for us to landing in another jobs in case the company we are working for didn't need our service...

Hi angel... too pessimist. I am not with you here. Why you are for an option thinking that your daughters will not feel your needs. No way. If you have taught them as a mom and how to survive and handle the circumstances, then your thought should not be raised. I am not here to advice you just keep hoping on your angels. Take care.

Yes and that is to continue to be as active as I am and have always been. You got that right they will grow up, and it will be at that time that you will say wow, where did time go. So continuing what you do best, working hard, still being The Mom, (cough) grand mother and life will remain as sweet. Sure you will be a bit more free then now but you will continue doing what you do only at your pace.

I think it depends on how much your life changes then and how close your kids are with you then. Some kids when they move out are so busy with their new life that they don't have much time for their parents anymore and some kids still want their parents to be apart of their life all of the time. Everything most of the time is still as important to you later on, it is a big change to get use to not seeing our kids as much when they grow up but still we want them in our lives as much as possible.

I don't know how old your children are but if they are school age. You might need to consider if it't the job that is important or the people you work with. I worked at the same job for 11-years and thought it was more important than anything. I found out recently that I didn't care as much about it as I thought. It was the people I cared about not the actual work.

DOnt worry they will need you maybe not as much but they will. Daughter says I am her best friend and we are buying house together live together and have always been very close even if I lived in another state rom her ew ere on the phone all the time. after 10 years it will be time for you to have some time to do what you want!

When I was younger I used to plan all the time about what my life was going to be like, and what I was going to do to make sure it ended up that way, but then I got involved with Zen, that focuses more on the present moment and teaches you how to focus totally on the moment of the here-now and to do everything with focus and concentration. In this way, the future sorts itself out when it comes, but for now, it does not exist and is therefore an illusion. Life has a way of sorting itself out according to our karma, that we create ourself on a moment to moment basis. What will be, will be. Take care of the moment. _Derek

I have gone through what you are writing about here,and I must say there are still days that I say to myself, "when did they stop needing me?" OH.....don't get me wrong, Nana is still a babysitter and especially on short notice. OR the chauffeur for a 15 year old with a busy life, but for the most part, my phone does not ring. To be honest, I get most of MY information from facebook, at the same time as everyone else does. The job thing is quite different for me. I was soooo happy to retire and sometimes I feel I am busier now than when I worked AND my job was stressful the last 10 years or so and I wasn't liking it much so retiring was a nice relief.

First, your job as a parent never ends. People get this idea that once they leave the nest, that they never need you anymore. Not true. At the same time, the sign of a good parent is that you teach your children wisely, which results in them needing you less and less. Parenting is the ultimately 'working yourself out of a job'. Depending on your family fiscal situation, you might get a simple part time job, or maybe you have some skills people need? Start your own business? There's one other thing you should consider. Empty nest stage of life, is sadly one of the highest divorce rate times. It has to do with understanding the routine. People learn how to relationally connect with each other under the current situation. Then when the situation changes, some people don't know how to deal with it. This is great that you are thinking this way ahead of time. A plan can help that transition. :)

In 10 years, I'm sure the job you're doing will be just as important. Maybe not to you anymore, but it would still be for the people around you. And when you could recognize this moment, and realize that you're already rid of your responsibilities for your children, then maybe it would be the time to think about yourself. On what things you really like to do for the rest of your life.

By stating these it only means that you are a great mother. I don't have kids at the moment so I can't exactly relate to that yet. However, seeing that you are worried about that then I suggest that you should get the most out of everything right now since they are still with you. Try to make a lot of good memories with them and I'm sure even if they're grown up and have their separate lives then they would still remember you and try to visit you often.