I have never been this Sad my Entire life.....

Hello LK, If we are very attach to someone human or animal it will always painful when we lost them just be positive he will be back , i know how much you love him and he is special one also for you. hope he will be back soon so you will be happy again.

I felt that i am reading the things happened to me few days ago. when you love some one its hard to forget things about them and the presence is missing from our life. My mom was also happy because the trouble was gone but she was never being troubled. Leave it I cant rewind anything but i wish, we could find some solution.

I am one of the ones that have said that there is a positive side, but I have to let you know that I feel your pain. I was with my children's father for 5 1/2 years before he left. We have two children together. When he left it was out of the blue. He went to church by himself one Sunday and just never returned. He texted me the following Saturday that he would be marrying another woman. Here I was with your children, and you want to marry someone else. I wanted to do more than disappear, I almost wanted to die. For two months after he left it felt there was a knife lodged in my heart and twisting. I cried myself to sleep every night, and would dream that he came back, only to wake up crying again because it was only a dream. I would see couples together, and I would have to duck into a bathroom because I didn't want to seem like the crazy girl crying for no reason. But over time it did get better. As time passed, I began to see the big favor he had done me by leaving. He wasn't taking care of the kids, I was taking care of them and him. With him being gone I began to see the relationship for what it was, and that I was way better off without him. As I was going to school, I found a both a great friend and a great love in a man that I'm still not with, but he fulfills me way more than my children's father ever did. Fast forward to the year before last. My children's father was trying to come around. It was supposed to be for the kids, but it was more to try and find another place to stay. He's fighting with his new wife, and wants to leave her to come back to me. I was so proud of myself to tell him no, and I was right to do so, because he showed just how much he cared about the kids by no longer coming around. Long story short, I know personally that you are hurting like he*l right now. But trust from my experience, it will get better; you will see that you are better off as well, and you will find someone that truly appreciates you for who you are. Just trust in God, and eventually the pain will go away.

Please don't feel that all is lost, LK. When my husband and I first moved to this house, his cat, Bitsy, whom he had raised from a tiny kitten and who was about 10 years old at the time we moved, disappeared. She didn't come right back. Days went by. Weeks went by. No Bitsy. A month, two months, no Bitsy. We thought we would never see her again. But, around three months later, she came back. She just walked into the house, ate some food and went to sleep like she had never been gone. So, you just never know. Your kitty just may show up when you least expect it. We found out that my husband's cat had been visiting the new neighbors and they had been feeding her. She came back a bit fatter than she had left! So, don't give up hope. You may just be surprised. Cats are strange creatures.

So, is he your boyfriend, or someone related to you? On your statement is a bit confusing for me to read though. You said that you love him, and then you said that you treat him like a son. So, I don't know if you lost you love one as a son to you, or someone as a boyfriend to you? Anyway, we all experienced such pain before, and I hope that you would get over it soon. Time is the best healer.

The short advice would be as for any situation: hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. Even though it's hard to get past some events like these, I think you should turn your eyes to the good things im your life. It's not the end of the world. Not yet anyway :)

Cheer up LK! I'm sure he may have just gone catting out, or has a sweetheart somewhere and is staying where she is staying. I have seen that with Purr and I was shocked to find out that he was strolling in the moonlight with a black female two streets away from my house. He has come home though, these past few days but would not eat. Give Ponchi time. Learn to let go, he's probably wooing some neighbor cat. Unless someone got a hold of him and has hurt, which I hope not. Uhm, I do have three new kittens, all male. Just in case you may want to adopt a new pet. They're just a week old and they haven't opened their eyes yet. Just send me a message if you want to have a look at them.

It happens to all of us at one time or another. I understand how you feel. You will eventually get over the pain. Just remember if you let this adversely affect you and your attitude on life than he wins and you lose. You are not a loser. Keep moving forward and never look back.

This happened to me nearly 2 years ago now. I was so depressed I couldn't eat or sleep for weeks, I lost a lot of weight. But as time went on it felt easier. I read books, which helped me escape this world. When people said to me, time is a great healer, I'd never believe it, until I myself had to use time to heal. Try doing something fun, or mind distracting. Even flirting with a few others helps (when you're ready of course).

It's ok to cry Letran, it does make one feel better, even a little. I hope your cat comes back, I know the horror I felt the few times my dogs got loose, but I was fortunate and they came back, maybe your cat will too..

oh my...I'm sorry but who is missing?

Oh Letran if I could reach you from here I would give you the biggest hug. Your cat was part of your family. See something some people do not do when they have pets. The way I see it when you have a pet for as long as you had your cat, it becomes part of you, like a child. My friend I do hope your cat turns up at least this way you will know your cat is safe. Think happy thoughts about the moments you shared, pray and hope your cat is safe. Do not hold back, sweetie sometimes we cannot hold back, and holding in is not good. Think of it as if your cat was a human, which to a sense you did as your cat was your baby, think positively as if maybe your cat will turn up, scream, cry and release. You can not be expected to be otherwise sad. I do hope your cat turns up as I am sure your cat misses you too.

I think I'm on the same footing , I'm depressed because she's in love and she had chosen someone I hate. How could I accept the fact that she had betrayed me after taking care of her for a year, spoiling her and siding with her when every body in the house thinks she's a pain in the neck. I think this is really madness, she made me sucks every time I would see her so sweet with that brute. I am now thinking of making even with her, I'm thinking of taking in a dog!

my nights and days sucks too if my FUBU is not around! its a darn thing too that he got naughty while im asleep! he loves cuddling, and he'll start from my head down! well, i just love feeding him and seeing him engluted would be so kind in my favor! lol that's why i treat my FUBU very well. i know he went astray but my good self redirected him so well. losing him, that would definitely make me lonesome! by the way, I called him Puppy and he's my Fabulous Buddy (FUBU)

Oh Letran, I'm so sorry for your loss! It's amazing how quickly our little creatures become a part of our family, isn't it? I never know what to say in these situations. Just know that my thoughts and I'm sure many others here are with you.

hi letran thats always so painful to lost a buddy pet,dog or cat. when I was young I had a dog that I called Rin tin tin after a movie dog who was also a collie. I loved that dog and he went everywhere with me , He slept on the foot of my bed. then one day he did not come back after being let outside. and day after day he did not return.,I cried and cried. they told me he just ran off. I did not believe them then one day I overheard my grandpa say too bad rintin tin was shot like that Doc, he always called my dad, doc , twasnt fair Patty really loves that dog. So then I knew they had lied for one reason or other. I did not have a pet dog again til I was in my teens.I dont know why its the special to us pets that always have something happen to them. I hope your cat comes back and is not really gone. A pet cat or dog who is special knows how we feel and will crawl on our lap or sit by us and tell us in their own way its gonna be okay, just wait and see. ood luck and God Bless.

No sign of him yet? :-(

Whether your loss is human or animal,it hurts and will continue to hurt for a while. The pain will gradually fade, but the memory will remain. Think about WHY this cat made you happy. Did he come to you when called? Did he curl up in your arms and purr? Was he a silly cat always doing things that made you laugh or a serious cat that didn't seem to know how to play? Remember the good, write about it in a journal so you will be able to come back and read it when you hurt the most. I don't know your mom, but mom's are never happy when their children are sad. Go to her and talk about your loss. You might just be surprised. Hugs, Maggie

Don't be sad, friend. Life really a mysterious things and pain is included in our heart and mind...

We treat our pets as though they were human, we assign human emotions to them and of course we love them. Cats offer their affections to few, although they are fickle and change alliances easily. There are several reasons why your feline friend has not returned to the bosom of your affections, he may be keeping company, he may have wandered into another's yard and heart ending up sitting on someone else's pillow for a while, or he may just be enjoying being a cat doing cat things. Part of what will make it easier for you is to learn to accept that he is what he appears to be. A cat with cat type concerns and cat type needs. Another part that will help is to get out and do things, see people, other cats and even a few dogs. Heck take in the company of a few horses for an hour or two, horses always appreciate a bit of attention. The thing is for you to become active in your own life and allow him to be active in his. Even in your heart.