How often do you say, "Excuse me," when somebody is blocking your way?

Philippines
January 24, 2011 2:55pm CST
I think it's important to start with saying, "Excuse me," first to make the person who is blocking your way aware that he is. I know sometimes when we are in a hurry, we tend to get impatient when someone is blocking our way. I admit, there were times that I had to bump the person first before saying, "Excuse me." And that person actually cursed at me behind my back. It was an awful feeling. Perhaps, no matter how much impatient we are, we should really exert extra effort in saying, "Excuse me." At least you tried to be polite. :)
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18 responses
@marcmm (1804)
• Malaysia
26 Jan 11
I guess I said it most of the time. Well what can we said to person that block our way beside excuse me and it is the most polite way I think. Most of the times a when shopping during weekend, the supermarket will be very congested and even without realizing it we might bump into other person accidenttally. And that is the only time I said excuse me or I'm sorry after I bump out into somebody. And there also a time even when we said excuse me, the person pretend that they are deaf and keep on standing in our way looking for the item on the self. And if that was the case and I get annoy after request being excuse for many time, I will surely on purpose bump that person and I would not even said I'm sorry or excuse me. It is not my fault. he ask to be bump by me.
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Oh, yes! I also experienced something like that, people causing such inconvenience and annoyance because they pretend they did not hear you. It happened to me. My first impulse was to bump that person, hoping she'd get the message. But my next impulse was to just squeeze my way around, brushing past her and "accidentally-on-purpose" stepping on her toes. --- well, just for her to get the message that she shouldn't do that to other people. Of course, I apologized for stepping onto her toes. Hehehehe!
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
I salute you, sir. :)
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
25 Jan 11
"Excuse me" is generally the phrase you use as you're brushing past someone ... like the Vikings used the phrase 'Vi King' ('I am King') to explain why they were slaughtering each enemy that stood in their path to the throne . So I say 'excuse me' while I am brushing-past/colliding-with/squishing/running-over someone, as many times as I can during the runover/squish/collision/brush
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
That's crazy, man! Lol.
25 Jan 11
I always try and say excuse me but on the rare occasion i am in a hurry and do knock against someone i will say sorry i get so cross as many people act as if they rule the pavement but i think they are ignorant.
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
It's good that you still apologize when you did not mean to bump into them along the way. Some people just look as if nothing happened or will throw a dirty look at you as if you're some criminal.
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
Hi sweetcatastrophe! You're right! There are times that there are people who just push you or bump you when they are in a hurry or they wanted to get in the way first. What's more worst is that, they do not know how to say "I'm sorry" when they hit you. This really annoys me. That is why, I always make it to a point to say "Excuse me" whenever I want to pass first. As the saying goes, "do not unto others which you don't want others to do unto you". What also disappoints me is that there are children who don't even know how to say "Excuse me". Which I think that parents should also teach there children these simple manners that they can use throughout their existence.
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
I guess some people are self-centered or have too much pride to say, "Excuse me," or, "I'm so sorry." No one is perfect, I get that. But I am sure that if somebody wrongs them even if it's just a little bump, they expect an apology, right? Some people just throw dirty looks and look at you up and down. Completely rude! But as long as you are still nice, then that would really make them ruder than usual. You win. :) Oh, the little children! I hope parents would still spare some extra effort in teaching their kids simple manners so that these kids will be able to get a habit of it.
@mokkka (881)
• Bulgaria
25 Jan 11
I do it all the time but I do really sorry that I am used to saying this.I don't think I should feel uncomfortable and excusing myself because somebody else is staying or sitting somewhere he shouldn't. Unfortunately usually when I am on the other side I don't hear the polite "excuse me" but just an elbow poke..
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
I do not like getting elbow pokes. I get that a lot usually from the grocery store when people compete in getting those stuff that are at sale, and they want to take advantage of the discount. All the beautiful manners... disappearing. Lol.
@naija4real (1291)
25 Jan 11
Saying "Excuse me" is a polite way of telling someone to give you a chance to move in an area that a person is blocking either with his body or an object. It is good to always say it to the person and be patience enough to wait for the person to allow you. It is rude for you to push your way through. However, this rules is sometimes applied different depending on the culture you come from. In Africa, for example it is considered rude for you to tell an elderly man or woman "Excuse me " But if it is your peer group you can ask them to excuse you. But a old man or an old women in Africa will see it as lack of manner. An African elderly expects you to wait patiently before passing and not to use the language "excuse me"
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
I respect that. It's true.. It is hard for an elderly man or woman to immediately move aside to give way. I can say that it is the younger people who are obliged to wait or find another route to take. I believe it is rude to make an elderly man or woman to step aside if it's a hassle to them. Usually when an elderly man or woman is in my way (and there's no other way), I always make it a point to bow my head very low and say, "I'm sorry. Please, excuse me." They would just smile, actually. :)
@greenline (14838)
• Canada
24 Jan 11
Oh yeah, that is the way. I think I say "Excuse Me" many many times throughout the day, while walking through the office, through the restaurant, through the mark mall, and so on. In fact, that is one of the expressions people use most often in the day-to-day activities. The other word may be "Hello" !
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Hmm. Yes, that would do. People can actually acknowledge you and sometimes even smile when you politely say, "Excuse me." I remember one time when someone was blocking my way so I had to say, "Excuse me." The person actually turned and smiled at me, saying, "Oh. How you doing? Sorry about that." Then we actually started a conversation. Voila! I gained a friend. :)
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
24 Jan 11
I will say "excuse me" quite often...though there have been times, when people are deliberately blocking my view. It's like they are trying to get a reaction out of me. I will often stand back and look at items in the store...and people will walk right up and deliberately block my view..you know they are because they stand there several minutes...just waiting...But most often, I say "excuse me." because most people are not that rude...just the ones that want to be.
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
Well, that's really patient of you to say, "Excuse me." That's good. Some people I know would just clear their throats. And when the person don't get the message because he was busy looking at something, they say, "Excuse me!" in a rough and rude way. :(
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
24 Jan 11
I always try to say excuse me when someone is blocking my way. It is the polite way to let someone know that they need to move. Anything else is just being rude and obnoxious where there is no need to be that way.
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Indeed. Being rude to people can create trouble. It's a waste of time when you can just be polite and then voila! You get a smile. :)
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
25 Jan 11
Well not many people bother saying it anymore so sometimes I don't really feel in the mood because i don't feel like talking, but I do say it when ever I can.It just that everybody is pretty much rude now a days. Not very fun, but I guess if one is nice it makes them look bad.
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Ha ha, true! If you're nice to a person who is rude, it makes them look more rude than usual. But at least you tried to be nice. You're not the villain, and your day won't be ruined because you just remained calm and collected. :)
@jamed28 (1903)
• Philippines
25 Jan 11
"Excuse You!", if a girl like you will bump me everyday, then it's okay! Well, it is the proper way! But then if I am in a hurry, I also bump people without saying the words. But to avoid things like these, as much as possible, I avoid being in a hurry. I am just in a hurry when I am driving a car. and cars don't horn "excuse me". Good day gorgeous!
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Ha ha! Thank you! Well, actually, honking your horn once or twice can mean, "Excuse me." But if you honk it a bazillion times, I guess it's actually a way of saying, "Get outta my way!!!" :)
• United States
25 Jan 11
I do not believe I have ever been too much in a hurry to say excuse me, at least not intentionally that is. I do understand as it happens so often that I may be at the grocery store and someone sort of pushes me out the way to get through, my first reaction is to say firmly sure your are excused and the person will look back, some will apologize and I simply say it is okay, but then you have others who immediately look at you as if you were the one who bumped them.
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Whew! Yes, I had that experience before when someone bumped at me and then looked at me as if expecting an apology. I was so shocked that I impulsively said, "I'm so sorry." Even though I knew it was him who rudely brushed past me. Hmph.. But that's OK. I can't really please everyone.
• United States
25 Jan 11
excuse me is a very polite thing to say, no matter how much in a rush you are in. it's nice to people. i say excuse me so much! every day i say it at least 5 times! i can understand if people are having a bad day/are tired of saying excuse me, they might just try to pass a person without even saying excuse me.
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
It takes a lot of will to understand people who do not say, "Excuse me," because they are too grumpy to say it. That is really cool of you. I get irritated though but I just don't do anything about it. Bad mood can really be contagious, and I don't want to get ill. I just leave them be. :)
@e_mendo2 (127)
• United States
25 Jan 11
I always try to say excuse me though most of the time people would rather you just try and squeeze around them so as not to inconvenience there day. It's really sad the way our society is these days, as if the common courtesy has been thrown out the window.
• Philippines
27 Jan 11
Good observation. Yes, indeed. Well, it never hurts to be a good example of Miss or Mister Courteous. People may actually acknowledge how polite and respectful you are and be ashamed that they're not. There is a good chance that they will follow you. :)
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
24 Jan 11
i always say it and say please and thank you (well at least i try) and have taught my daughters to do the same.
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
That is very cool of you to teach your daughters to do that. I hear some mothers allow their children to learn good manners in school when, really, it always starts at home. What mothers teach to their children are those teachings which usually retain in a lifetime. :)
@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
24 Jan 11
When in that sort of situation, I always do say it. It's being polite. It's just something that I've been taught to do, ever since I was a kid. Now, it's just a habit. I feel that it's the right thing to do.
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
It is the right thing to do. People tend to follow good examples, especially when they know that it creates a healthy and peaceful environment. It is important to teach kids correct manners. Good for you that it became a habit! Some people, including me, needs to practice more when it comes to saying, "Excuse me," especially when we're in a hurry. It feels really awful when you brush past somebody and you hear him curse or mutter angrily. It adds burden to your day. Sometimes, the words that person let go of because you bumped him can ruin your day!
@laken02 (3065)
• United States
24 Jan 11
yes i think that is true everyone should try to be more considerate in there every day life even in the little things.. im working on not telling even lil white lies like when someone ask does my hair look bad i ask my mom that and she will not tell me the truth and it urkes me.. id rather she say will it looks ok but would look better put up or let down or you missed a spot.. rahter then letting me go around looking bad.. lil things count too... what do you think ????
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
Yes, that is true. Little things do count. Usually it's those little things that we appreciate most because when people become considerate, it means they actually care. :)
@eurekafemme (5876)
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
Believe it or not, this is something that I;ll never forget to do. I don't know but I am so use to it that I will always say excuse me whenever someone is blocking my way or I am about to block somebody's way or view. I think it is necessary to be polite to anyone at all times especially when you are in public places. You don't want to get into trouble, do you? People, a lot of us, have the tendency of getting annoyed when we feel that we are being disrespected and it is obvious that we don't welcome the behavior that no one seems to care if he/she is blocking my view or my way.
• Philippines
24 Jan 11
Yes, that is true. To earn respect, we should respect ourselves and respect other people. Even a few words of politeness can actually create a great impact to people's lives. It's creates a peaceful environment. :)