When people don't help themselves..

No I don't think I could to be honest I like to do something even if it's a lowly paid job I'd rather be doing something active and productive than sit around all day watching TV. I currently have loads of time also and hate sitting around doing nothing I've been actively looking for work purely to keep me doing something. Although in regards to your neighbours situation there could be deeper problems as such which remain unseen to an observer such as in this case you are. Maybe they've no choice but to sit around due to government restrictions, disabilities... etc. So each person's situation can be viewed differently and we can never really know or begin to understand such things with out discussing with the people in question.

Wow, what a way to live! I feel sorry for them for being like that and i feel a lot sorrier too for his sibling who supports them. It seems the talents given to them by God were wasted. What if something happens to the sibling and not be able to support them anymore? How will they support themselves if they don't have jobs to sustain them? I really cannot imagine myself being dependent on others for a living.

hi sweet pea I do not know where you live but here in the US in California there is one job for every four or five hundred peopole so if he is not wo rking maybe he is one of the jobless and has given up as it has been horrible. my son who is an experienced computer programmer is out of wo rk and is wo rking only part time just to have a job but wants back into the field he is familiar with. I wou ld not like to live like the people you describe but am just saying sometimes we dont know the whole story on people and they make look one way and may really not be that way.of course if he can get a job and does not go ou t and look for one shame on him. now in my case I wo rked til I was almost 80 and I was not wor king when I and my son move to our last apt. as I am partly physically handicapped so was not much help when my son was laid off, we were made homeless and thats why I am here in G o ld crest retirement center. we did try to helpourseves but the damned jobs just were not hter where he would have appied are now cutting back. so do no blame us or judge us as its no what you think at all.so in a sense that last two years when we were still in an apt. I was not working and depending on my son so do not judge me.

Oh, gosh! Please do tell those people to get a life! Somebody must, quick! I couldn't bear to see myself or my husband acting like that.It is very irresponsible.... My parents used to tell me when I was a kid that I have no right to eat if I don't want to share the labor. And, I believe them. We have to work so that we can eat. We have no right to enjoy any blessings when we ourselves seem not to care if we have given ourselves a favor or not. It is unfair to be blessed when it seems you don't want to be blessed at all.

Oh gosh no never, I have to be productive and sitting on the couch and or gossiping all day long would make me so lazy I myself would not be able to stand myself. Unfortunately what is happening here is that as much as the son love his parents he is enabling them to continue this way. I certainly understand he can help them indeed, but for them to solely depend on him is not fair one bit. What were to happen if the son, heaven forbid looses his job and or get hospitalized how will that family function. What a shame indeed.

I'm really ashamed to admit it, but if somebody were to offer me money to just do nothing, I'd take it without hesitation, especially in the form of a monthly allowance. Even if it won't be forever - for as long as it's possible, I'd be more than happy to take a break from work. I'm not saying I can sit on the couch and watch TV all day long, but there are so many things in my life I need to re-organize right now, and so much stress that has accumulated over time, that I could really use a period of not having to worry about the next paycheck. I'm pretty sure this isn't the same for people who have children, most naturally everyone wants to provide the best for their children. Also, it goes without saying, I wouldn't take money from someone who couldn't afford it. But a small allowance from a millionaire relative... I just need to find the millionaire relative. Back to analyzing the family tree.

i really dislike lazy people who rely on other people for living... for me, it is really disgraceful especially if they are still young and able-bodied... i will never want to help people like that... they deserve to have a hard life because they ask for it... take care and have a nice day...

The kind of people I hate the most are those who don't work when they can, and are dependent on others. Having someone give me money regularly would be nice, but I'd still work because I'd be bored. I must admit that I have a feeling of bitterness toward such people: me, working hard and them relaxing all day. I know a couple of people who are still supported by parents at the age they should be supporting themselves.

There is no way that I could live like this. I think I practically raised myself anyways, at least from the time that I was eleven years old. I guess some people have no ambition. And since I am trying so hard to get ahead and not even count on an employer, in other words work for myself, I really have a hard time relating to people who don't even try to get a job and make at least some money for themselves. I have heard that if all of the wealth in the world were spread out evenly, that over eighty percent of the people would wind up back to where they were to begin with. I firmly believe that I am not in that percentage group. And I feel the same about most of the people here on myLot. We are doing what we can to get at least a little bit ahead. And we are sharing our stories and good fortune with the other members here on this site. This is a great place to be!

Sounds like a waste to me. And not setting a decent example to the children. No I don't think I'd want to live like that. I wouldn't feel very good about myself.

I couldnt live that way and just let life pass us by,and its setting no example for the kids either i like to known i doing my bit and trying to make a living.

I think that's just sad to be honest. I don't think it's as bad as if someone kept living and leeching off their parents and leave them no money for retirement but it comes rather close. To leave your financial security and future of your kids in the hands of someone else's hands is both selfish and foolish. What if that generous in-law found out where all the money was going and decides to stop giving them money? What will become of the children and their chance of a good education? What about the rent? Where will they live? There are many people out there that work very hard just to survive and make a living and try to better their own situation and give their children the best opportunities to be successful in life. I've seen this with my own eyes when I look at my parents. They do so much for me and have made countless self-sacrifices so that I could be where I am now. If I was a parent like that in that kind of situation I could not bear to rely on a wealthy in-law. It goes against my character and would make me feel pathetic.

sweet_pea- We can never know truly what is going through another man's mind to be honest. We can also not know just what their experience is or what they are feeling until we have experienced it ourselves, and even when we do not every two persons handles this situation in the same way. It is possible that he is indeed lazy. It may very well be possible that he is so distraught not being able to be the "man" and provide for his family that his way of coping is to zone out. Depression is very real and it can set in very quick when one has a life changing experience in one's life. I have no issues with the woman staying home to tend her young children as that is what I am doing. Young children need their mother. If it is that they are blessed with a wealthy relative who can help them live until he is able to find work, then why is that an issue? We should all provide for those less fortunate, and we should start with our own families and neighbors. This is called common human decency and everyone is capable of this. Namaste-Anora

that's unbelievable, I doubt what was the pleasure of their life. Live is not just surviving, but living. My own work and achievement provides more meaning and sense of happiness to my life. What's more, in our country, in this time of fierce competition everywhere, everyone has to work hard to make a living.