What has locked you into making the same relationship mistakes again and again?

I guess sometimes mistakes repeat when person hope on luck, I know some people who gambling time to time, whether loose all their money usually and can't stop... Also habit is reason why people make same mistakes over and over again... Also some people don't even recognize that such mistakes happen and I think it probably depend on intellect of the person...

Thinking things will change....they don't.

I am doubtful that any of us truly know what our motivations are for doing the things that we do because I think our motivations run deep within us. A theorist said that, I think it was Sigmund Freud. There was a conversation on this same exact topic when I was in college. It was a while ago though. Some believe that it's a form of self-punishment. Others believe that it's because there's a lesson to be learned from it that we have not yet learned, and when we do learn that lesson it will break the cycle. Looking at myself, I think what motivated me to be in my relationship was that I wanted to help my boyfriend with the problems that he has because I wasn't able to help my father with the same problems. It was hope that I could help him even if I couldn't help my father. I don't want to go into any specific details because it's personal. I'm not sure if I even have a definite answer to this topic. It's a tricky subject.