would you rather be hurt than feel nothing?

Hi Mimoy, You are still hurting and that's why you feel this way. I've had my heart broken many times over and still no regrets. I just can't imagine never having experienced love in my life. As hard as it is to believe, the hurt does go away and you will look back and remember the good times. You will move on and probably find love again. Hope things start looking up for you soon!

Feeling nothing shows that you have no emotion. Being hurt shows that you can still feel even if the feeling is a painful one.

Being hurt is normal when it comes to a love relationship. Sometimes you have to get hurt to realize a lot of things. But it is not a hindrance for you to move on. Life never stops if you are broken heart. It is one way of moving on and getting on with your life.

Time..time..time give yourself a time..and try to stay positive if you cannot really avoid thinking of your past.. try to go outside meet friends..try to do things that you cannot do while your in relationship... and try to appreciate the spirit of being single:) It will heal soon..never loose hope.. everybody deserves someone better.. and Im sure theres someone for you:)

I guess this is part of everyone's lives. I think you will really need to go through this process. However, you should also be helping yourself too. Like what others have said you have to make yourself busy. Be busy with a hobby that you are passionate about. Think of how you could make yourself more beautiful. Find time to mingle more with your friends and relatives. Yes, there are times that his memories will haunt you but you will be surprise that suddenly you are no longer thinking of him.

hi there. i've been through that feeling 4 years ago. i loved my ex-girlfriend so much but then she did not do the same thing i did for her. she liked then eventually left me for somebody else, and during that time i thought there would be nothing else more hurtful than to be cheated on. i felt the pain for 3 months, until i met someone new. that was the only time i got myself free from tremendous pain i suffered for several months that seemed a long time for me already and i will always be grateful to God for having her in my life. until now we're still together. though there might be ups and downs in our relationship in two years, we just consider it part of getting stronger. i think you would only have to wait for somebody, the right one, to naturally come into your life. i assure you, the saying that "true love waits" is indeed TRUE. do not regret something that's been done in your life, there's nothing to regret instead you must learn from it to avoid the same thing to happen again. i'm sure you would not want that, right? focus on other things and learn to enjoy yourself. laugh at your past and always remember that if something's left, there's something better that comes along. socialize and have fun, do not lean on the past. cheer up! and may God bless you. see you around!

Being numb to hurts has its share of times eor me. But to me i would rather be just feeling the pain and the hurts than n0t to feel at all.

It's an old saying that I don't know if it's true or not really. I mean when you really love someone and then they leave it hurts like crazy but then again if you never fall in love you never get that experience of having it. I think it would be better if we could just skip the pain and go straight to the remembering what it was like to be in love. It's always fun to experience the fall.

Don't feel that way. Everything happens for a reason. And that everything had contributed a lot on what we are now. Our values, attitude, characters, views in life and even our ways of responding to everything we feel. And yes, it is really better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all. Because, we learned that we are capable of loving someone, that we know how it feels to be hurt, and those things makes us either strong and weak..the only thing we have to decide to is which of this should we respond..to be strong or to be weak? We have to remember that happiness is our choice. It's just a matter of acceptance and determination to get over it. Win over the things that we know could make us weak. At least we know that it is not possible to have someone else who will love us truly. If what your x found in you, in due time might be find again by someone who deserve your love. Atleast through that experience, for sure you learned a lot how to handle things now. Happy mylotting.

Only time will heal. All of us gets through this at least once, so you are not alone. Some gets over it in no time, but others need longer time to heal. You can take this as an experience for you to get better and wiser.

100% getting hurt, now and forever. I think we must value guys who values us, and that's it. After that if we get hurt it's always valuable cause it's life. Not feeling anything it's not normal and might be a depression, so feeling is always the right answer. We are not human beings but more like feeling beings, LOL

As bad as it seems it will get better. keeping yourself busy is the key in getting over someone. Go out and meet new people, everybody gets hurt at some point in there lives most people alot of times. As much as you try to avoid it its impossible. He will always pop up in your mind from time to time but i find the best way is to remember the bad things about him rather than the good. Think of other things you want from life and focus on getting them. Eventually the pain will fade and you will find someone new and better :)

hello friend! Welcome to Mylot first! Thats really sad that you are feeling so much for him and he is not with you! I think if you really feel so strong about him, then you need to have a talk with him. You have mentioned that its been long since you have had your heart broken, So, many things would have happened in the middle and a lot of things would have changed and my be he too wants you back! I think you need to sort out the differences between you both, I really feel bad for the way you are! If the things have gone beyond you, then its you who should start doing things which will keep you away from him, well his thoughts! Basically what I mean is, keep yourself busy! Go travelling somewhere alone for a while as travelling can really help you calm down things. Go in search of the nature and the nature will serve you as the best mother and the best friend in the world! I'm sure things will change eventually! Just think that, it was not meant to happen and let go things. I know its really hard, but then, life should move on no matter what! Try hanging out with your friends, but then a good travel along some hill valleys or hill stations will help you in a great way! Common, you need to be strong enough and I'm sure, you will find a better person as the days go on! Keep yourself busy! Cheers!

I felt the same way years ago. Right now i can see that you're still not fully recovered to what had happened. The anger i still there. You are blaming him for you can't see things the way you did before. You are blaming yourself too for loving him and letting him hurt you this much up until now. You will try hard to forget. I can see that at your current state, you would rather choose to be dense than feel the pain. When you reach that level, say for example, you became too tired of everything and eventually felt nothing, I'm telling you, it's better to feel that way than to be empty. Emptiness is even more painful than pain itself. Just remember at your current state, at least there's always something to hope for. You won't stay like that forever. That is not the way it's supposed to be. Once you have figured out everything and accepted your situation, you'll realize that nothing should be holding you back from that experience. You can freely move on and be happy. The space that he's occupying can be available for someone else, the one you deserve the best.

I would love to get hurt rather then feel nothing. Because before getting hurt i will get so love and great feelings moreover lot of loves. But if i rather feel nothing then i have to miss the love and happy feeling.

It is better to experience the emotional hurt rather than die without knowing how it feels to be in love and be loved. A broken heart heals after sometime but keep the good memories. It's normal to feel that way, i've been through it. Focus on some other things and slowly you will get back to your old self.

i would rather feel hurt than feel nothing. When someones hurt that means they invested their time into something and czred deeply about the outcome although it didn't go in their favor. If i felt nothing, that means that i care for nothing because you can only feel pain when something you cherizh is taken away. So by being hurts it let me know that i care and overcoming it is a great feeling also.