Is it bad talk or bad action that creates more enemies...?
By chayapathys
@chayapathys (2111)
India
January 30, 2011 10:07pm CST
It is common knowledge that people and friends become enemies for some reason or the other. When I thought over the matter two things occured to my mind and they are bad talk or bad action that is responsible for creating enemies.Both may together cause enemies.When I analysed more I came to realise that bad talk is more responsible than bad action which is responsible for making people enemies.When we talk bad the other person immediatelys gets hurt.But bad action takes time to harm or hurt the other person.A man may talk nicely but ultimately he may be doing harm but the person may not realise it immediately.No doubt bad action also creates enemies but slowly So in my opinion bad tongue is more dangerous than bad action in creating enemies. I am not supporting bad action.What do you say..
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12 responses
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
31 Jan 11
Hi dear,
This is the reasons why people say use the 'tongue' properly.
For a better mannerist, words, thoughts, attitudes, behavior proves his personality and the way he presents the above will determine what type of a person he is. As you said, we talk badly it affects immediately and depend on the intensity, some it stays long and some time we forget also. But the later is dangerous and the impact may stay long just like it catches also slowly.
Thank-s
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
2 Feb 11
You have correctly understood the spirit of this discussion.Even close friends become enemies because of bad tongue.The words spoken cannot be taken back.It hurts the feeling of the person and it takes long time to erase it from the mind.The bad action permanently does harm to the other person and it may not be cured at all.In essence both are bad and we should avoid both to live a happy life...
@goodhunter (334)
•
31 Jan 11
With this two lethal combination it is a sure fire ticket to earning more enemies. We should be careful in our everyday lives that we do not offend the people that we come in contact with. It is better to have friends than enemies so let as think twice before we act or speak.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
2 Feb 11
What you say is correct but bad tongue is more dangerous in the sense it creates immediate enemies whre as bad action creates enemies after some times when it is felt by the person who is harmed.Both are bad in all respects.We should avoid for ourselves and also be diplomatic while dealing with others...
@indiangirl100 (51)
• India
31 Jan 11
Everybody has their own view about everything. i also support bad action. Bad action creates more enenies because all the time you really don't notice who and what he or she saying about you. but when anyone does a bad action you really can't neglect it and can't allow them to do the same again and again. That's what i believe. anyway we all are here to make friends not enemies. right!
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
1 Feb 11
People with bad motives and actions are really very dangerous in real life.But people with bad tongue create enemies immediately though they may be good in heart.Generally we are guided by appearance and talk.As we live in a society we have deal all types of people.Therefore diplomacy is important in real life.....
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
1 Feb 11
Bad tongue creates immediate enemies though bad action does real harm.The people with evil intention speak very nicely and politely but they do damage.So we should not be guided by sweet talk.From our side we should have neither bad tongue nor bad motive.But we have to live in the society which consists of people of both nature.We should be diplomatic in dealing with people..
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
31 Jan 11
I think that both of these could contribute to making bitter enemies for yourself. Speaking harshly about someone or to someone can certainly cause bad feelings between people. Doing hurtful things can also cause you not to have friendly feelings. What we do or say can have repercussions with the people around us.@chayapathys (2111)
• India
1 Feb 11
Yes what you say is correct.People with bad tongue and people with bad motives are equally dangerous.The people with bad tongue can create immediately enemies but those with bad action do real harm.Sometimes people with bad tongue are good in the heart.It is also a guess.We are living in a society in which we cannot avoid any but we should be careful in dealing with all types of people...All the best
@sgt_lupin (27)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
It is in a bad talk, talking is very sensitive, if we do not talk carefully expect that a lot of people give comment that can hurt you too. most of the time enemies start in bad talking.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
1 Feb 11
As I have observed that many good friends become bad enemies because of bad tongue let alone bad action.We are mostly guided by talk and appearance and only later by actions.We should control our tongue.If we do not control our tongue we not only create enemies but also spoil our health by eating more with the help of the tongue.Control of tongue is very important to lead a happy life...
@ganeshprabhuk (1722)
• India
31 Jan 11
It is bad talk which creates more enemies. You cannot be actionable all the moments but speaking is something which comes out spontaneously. The spoken words hits more than actions. So it is the bad talk which creates more enemies. If you are angry with someone, you hit him and can show your anger but speaking bad words will leave a greater wound in the person.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
31 Jan 11
So you agree with me that bad talk is more dangerous than bad action.Bad talk immediately creates enemies.The resuls of bad action is not so immediate and there as there is time gap the damage is diluted.Human mind is so designed that it reacts immediately and the hurt feelings remain long.The spoken words cannot be taken back and the demage cannot be easily cured...
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
31 Jan 11
words, attitudes and bad behavior is a major cause of discord and enmity. It can not be separated from judgments of others to us. That is why we have to keep everything from our behavior
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
31 Jan 11
Yes what you say is correct.Bad tongue bad attitude and bad behavious is always bad to others and also to us and can get us into trouble at any time.We should be constantly aware of it.Mostly men power have very bad tongue.They should realise that power is not permanent.If you hurt or or harm others by your behaviour God will certainly punish
@dreamsharmin (2281)
• China
31 Jan 11
I totally agree with you. I can talk bad rather then take action as this create enemies. But sometime it's really difficult without taking action otherwise the situation go out of control. And we can't stop people if they would like to be our enemies.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
31 Jan 11
You are talking of bad tongue in relationship with others.If you do not control your tongue and eat more it is more dangerous as it harms your health.So the role of tongue both in conversation and eating is very vital.You should therefore control your tongue in speech and eating otherwise you are likely get into social problems and health problems.Is it not..
@msdivkar (23359)
• India
31 Jan 11
To my mind the bad action as well as bad talk will equally harm your relation with other person. Sometimes bad talk may not harm the relation as much as the bad action will depending upon the situation, particularly if a person is known to be bad talker who only talks but does not follow it with action. It is a common practice to say 'I will kill you' but actually person saying that is not keen on the action. Take the case of a person putting you in trouble by his action say put you in some financial problem which is very common, you will immediately get hurt and the relations does not take time to sour by that action however close that person to you may be.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
31 Jan 11
As you say bad action is more dangerous than bad talk.But the bad talk immediately hurts the other person though eventually no harm is contemplated or done. At the first instance bad talk is prone to create enemies very often.Instead of wating bad action to follow the otherman avoids and does not mix with the man any more.So far what is harmful by bad talk is narrated.The other aspect is eating which is also very dangerous one's own health and eating is also done with the help of tongue only..
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
Bad talk together with bad action could really create enemies.
But i agree with you that bad talk hurts the more. The tongue is like a sword that can cut a person's heart by his wild talk. Nobody could beat a lying tongue from making a discord on people.
@FX777222999 (437)
• Philippines
31 Jan 11
Bad action and bad tongues are two of the most dangerous acts that human beings always doing for a long, long time. It creates bad feelings to the point that bad incidents may occurs anytime. Making enemies out of these acts caused your life miserable. Neither of the two are not good, so I suggests that you should talk to the other person if you have a grudge or you're hurt. Diplomacy is the answer and you can agreed upon the solutions with each other. If you have a problem with the other person, make a move to talk not to give bad action at once.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
31 Jan 11
The history is full of instances when bad tongue and bad conduct has caused hardhip and misery not only to others but also to themselves. If you talk politely you loose nothing and on the otherhand you stand to gain.Many do not realise this secret.Problems can be solved by mutual conversation many times than by bad talk or behaviour..
