Do you blame the parents for the misconduct of their children....?

I am a parent of 8 children. I am just appalled when people do not control their kids. I understand that kids are kids but there are times and places for it. I have seen many times where parents let kids run around stores and touch everything. My kids did not do that. I have no hesitation on correcting my kids in public. I will simply voice a correction to them. I am a strict parent but only to the degree that my kids respect people. If we are in MacDonalds they act differently than if we were in a nice restaurant. It is all about times and places. And I have voiced my opinion to people, not always nicely either. I have told to them to put a leash on their kids in stores, but of course I did not mean a real leash but a metophorical one.

Most people think that parenting is something that comes natural but to me its a skill that has to be learnt. We always say that we want better for our children so we give them everything they ask and spoil them. Some parents refuse to discipline their children and allow them to run free and wild. Other do it by grounding them. Serious how on earth is that a effect way to discipline an amoral person. After all children needs to be thought right from wrong and etc. They aren't born with such morality thats why they are amoral. Its not always the parents fall as society also plays a role but to me thats no excuse. Children best learn through pain and suffering. Please don't take this out of context. I'm NOT saying torture and abuse them but let them learn through pain. We shower them with love and affection and disrupt a certain balance. Showering them with love doesn't make them good. It just give them emotional support and confidence. When they are doing wrong depending on how your child learn best either correct them with a calm voice or a much stricter voice.

By the time children are are 10 or 12 years old it is very hard to teach them to behave and be respectful. Teaching a child manners respect for others begins at a very early age. Children will be mischievous but they need to learn the proper place for playing. When I took my 4 and 5 year old grandchildren I would tell them what they could have and when. When I did this they were very good. If I forgot to tell them if they could have something they would act up fussing to get what they wanted. Those parents you speak of think that their children are wonderful and every one else should too. They don't realize that they are harming their children because no one like kids like that. They will be selfish rude and obnoxious adults. So we would be doing society a big favor if we would say something. But I am like you I would keep mum too.

Of course it is the parents fault if a child that age is like that. Kids learn what they are taught. They see parents fighting, arguing, being rude, etc...they learn to be that way to. Have you seen what is on television these days for kids? For instance..Hanna Montana...that is the sassiest girl I have ever seen. Yet the girls love it and then they start talking like that and acting the way she does and learn what they see and be like that. The language on tv these days..for kids...sorry, but half the stuff on there should be rated R but it isn't. Many parents these days don't raise the kids right in that respect. Then complain when they have kids that Nanny 911 has to re-teach. I think many parents need a "naughty chair"..in their case it should be called a "straighten up your act chair".

Children are children.. They are children because they are not yet adult and so they act not in the normal way and they should not be faulted for some mistakes they commit which to them are just for fun and to us are already infractions... Me, I let them do their thing but at the same time if they go beyond what is tolerable then I tell them to stop... Children should like wise be allowed to express what they feel otherwise they will grow up with inferiority complex.. There should be a balance what is permissible and what is permissible... But as much as possible be tolerant with kids..

When one child born then they don't know anything. They learn the things what they see around and what there parents teach them. So ofcourse i will blame the parents for misconduct of their children. 10-12 year age child learn all the things from their parents and they don't know much about bad or good as that period they live most of the time in home. So they should be very polite if there parents teach them. I also hate them and their parents.

I would never say anything to the parent in front of the child because the mannerisms and behaviors that children have are typically a direct reflection of their parents. Children are honestly born not knowing any better. That said, there have been some times that I will talk to parents in private when their children don't behave in a way that I view to be inappropriate and I will talk to those parents when the children aren't around.

I am really appalled when my 4 year old son got home from school and started saying rude words. I asked him, where did he get those words from. He said he heard it from his classmates. So, how does a 4 year old know how to curse? I assume that the children may have heard their parents or family say it at home like it is part of a regular conversation when it is not. I am really am dismayed. You send your children to school to learn good things but in the end, they learn things that are not something to be proud of.

I believe that the misconduct of children attributable to their parents. Them being children is not an excuse. It is a parental responsibility to raise their children to be good and decent citizens. This includes actively curbing misbehavior.

I believe that the misconduct of children are attributable to their parents. It is not an excuse that they are just children. It is parental responsibility to raise them to be upright and decent citizens. Hence parents must act to curb misbehavior.

The training of a child begins at birth through our example as good parents. Being polite to others and to our child will in turn encourage our child to be the same way. There will always be time that our children will act out and be disobedient. As our children grow they need to learn how to act nicely at home before we put them into public situations. I taught my daughter how to sit nicely for a meal at the table by making sure that for every meal we sat together and ate together. Therfore setting the example. Raising children with loving kindness takes more time but it's worth it in the end.

No! i don't blame parents. It's the environment where he belongs i think and that is the main factor affecting behavior. No parents want their children to behave that way. Maybe children are just stubborn and careless that is why, they are not concern to what they are doing.

Yes, the parents are absolutely responsible for the behaviour of children. Sometimes, you get children like me who are perfectly behaved from the beginning. Sometimes, there are kids like my brother who need to be taught manners. Nothing makes me angrier than when a child is rude to their parents or strangers or whomever. Just the other day, I had two little girls over at my house and they were just overall rude -they stuck their tongue out and opened everything even though it was their first time at my house. A parent needs to discipline their child. So what if they cry a little.

Of course i do because as parents we leads by examples and by so doing the children emulate.that is when you display positive characters that whyt the children will though some tend to copy from peers and we should rectify them

It is always good to give your children a positive example and maybe you will luck out and they won't misbehave.But,you never know.Life is full of taking chances.When you plan to have kids,you say,"My kids won't do this or that"....yeah right!Like I said it does not hurt to give them a good example. But,look at Jeffrey Dahmner,his father was a pastor! And he didn't turn out so great

Well, I'm a parent and I know that if my son misbehaves, I would blame myself. We are their first teachers, experience is their last. Kids those age are easily influenced by almost anything - their friends, their school, TV, and their parents especially. You asked a very good question. How do we react? I get really affected when a child talks rudely so I'd talk to the parents about it even if I risk incurring their ire. Parents can be defensive at times especially when you're talking about their kids.