Mobile Secrecy Of Husband and Wife Necessary?

Hi visavis, Honestly speaking, we (me and my wife) have no issues on this and we usually exchange our cellphones. There is no secrecy... Secrecy is required only when you are aware that you are doing something wrong and try to hide it from your partner or anyone... I do not have any secrets, it is more like an open book... As me, and I will tell you. I believe the more open you are the better the relationship and more trustworthy it becomes. But that is just me and my wife and our opinion... Many others disagree and I respect their views.

hello friend, I am maybe one of a kind wife. I am not a jealous type and not even suspicious. I don't care my ex-hus mobile,or other things (i am over confident) my phone is open to everyone,my kids can use and i just put it in an open space ready to reach on. I am not a jealous type...if so,i should have made trouble with my ex-affairs. Yes,what i did each time i find out he has an affair is...i called the other woman's phone,and say "hi,i am jaiho,your boyfriends wife,are you aware that he is married and have kids?...and oh,don't you worry i am not going to fight with you,i won't go down to your level eh (ugh with one eyebrow's in sky high)..bye,enjoy my husband " See,i am one of a kind...so good yet so evil

I use to keep secrets from my huby, honestly. Like i used to not tell him what i have been purchasing lol from clothes to other things...and later on i realized it isnt right and it reached a point where it was getting into our relationship. And i learned from that, i learned that i should be open to him, from purchases to other stuff..like mobile phones..he used to keep it from me as well, he gets freakin mad when i open his phone..and well we sorted it out. right now we are open as much as possible..we tell stuff, it is hard at first but then we both realized it is a must if we want thigns to work out.

Hi...visavis I can see you are a bit confused about a few things...privacy is a very sacred thing to me! I never read my children's mail...and they never read mine...there is a trust that is very important to us. If you can't trust the people you live with/ spouse/girl friend/friend/children/ then you have a problem with trusting the people you live with...and why is that? there have to be a reason! I do not share my mobile/internet/password/ or what ever with any one...this is my life and I have a right to my privacy despite of whom ever I live with! to answer your question yes we should be open in our relationships...but is always important to guard our own privacy. And that my friend is a must!

Many times I had encounter friends having this kind of trouble. When they ask me what I think of it. I always say, it's your fault. A wife who respect her husband would also respect his privacy. His phone just like his letters and other correspondences are his private thing. One should always knock before making a peep on this. There's no exemptions, wife included!

You have a good point. Somehow its necessary for Mobile Secrecy. However, its not good at all. What if one of them would really do anything wrong. You still have the right to know what's happening with your wife/husband. Maybe, mobile phone would help us. Mobiles does not have faults. Married troubles is people's fault. A successful marriage is all about trust, love, and faith. If one fails, then marriage fails, too. And we just have to learn how to love our wife/husband day by day. If problems come, we should learn to love more the person we marry. Its not about --- I don't like anymore, I quit, etc. We marry and its not just like a bitter taste of food that if we don't like its taste we throw-up.

I think when there is trust there is no issue with mobile usage. I mean. We wont mind giving our partner their privacy. Andt i think that is hnw things should be for couples.

Well if you are both trusting each other then there's no reason at all to keep your phone away from your spouse. You are one then it means no secret between you two. Aside from the fact that if you wont't open your cell phone to your partner seems that you are hiding something.Openness with each other means also Trust.

I think each should be open to each other. If there is nothing to hide then it shouldn't be a problem.

Hi Visavis, Yes, I believe that spouses should leave some privacy to each other, and that includes not checking on the hubby's cell phone or even wallet. In my case I don't have any reason to doubt my husband, so since our marriage(13 years ago) I never checked my husband's cell phone to see who calls or sends him messages (come to think of it, I've never even tried checking his wallet's contents). But of course that's because I trust him so much and he never gave me any reason to feel otherwise. But I guess if I sense that something is wrong, and I believe I'd feel it if something's amiss (guess it's called women's intuition), I think I'll start investigating, and the first thing I'll look into will his cell phone and wallet.

Secrecy between a husband and a wife ultimately leads to unraveling of relationship.When two gets married, it is a chance to appreciate life, and share it while both live. Couples have responsibility to be as transparent to each, although many people fail to give it the importance it deserves.If, for example, a wife feels personal satisfaction of hiding messages in her CP from her husband,time will draw nearer when the cheating will eventually seep out. Like they say, when there is smoke, there is ember or fire. At the end, the cheater will ask herself/himself:"Why did I disregard the little that make a house a home." But then its too late, too little, when distrust explodes the relationship into thin air.

I think it would be better for both parties to not have any forms of secrecy from each other especially with regards to mobile phones. It would kill me not to know of my husband's affairs, it doesn't mean that I don't trust him it's just that I would be much comfortable and would be in a peaceful condition to know what my husband is doing. Unlike other men who dislikes the idea, I am just thankful that my husband doesnt't care if I always check on his phone, what is there to hide anyway? I would think that couples who have some form of secrecy are the couples who are not really open to each other and are not that very comfotable with their partners yet.

I think it depends on the situation. I don't care if my husband is curious about what kind of messages I have on my phone but It would be strange if it looks in a way to see if I'm hiding something instead of just being curious because I want him to trust me. When it comes to money my husband and I know how much money each other has but I do know people that don't tell the other spouse because the other spouse blows money and they need the money for things they have to have which I understand so I think it depends on the situation.

Yeah I think so... this way you express your trust to your partner. It is more of having some sort of "privacy".

Everyone's mobile phone should be a private issue for them. husbands and wives should only share if that is something they both want to do. there has to be trust in every relationship. this should go for phone service as well.

It depends. Folks all want their own time their own things and own space at times. But I do not think couples should secrete things. There is a disparity between privacy and hiding things.

For me, secrecy of husband and wife is not good. Which my husband understand it, so when my husband is at home I read his cellphone messages, I know password of his facebook account, my hubby is kind [em]smile[em]. There were times I caught him deleted some of his cellphone messages before he arrived at home.

as a wife i say YES. being dishonest to each other in a small ways can lead into big problem which is called infidelity. to refrain of this, its a good idea to have a counter check the things in vice versa to know what's going on behind. Anyway, having secrecy regarding with the salaries thanks God it never happen to us as couple. whatever we have even little things its always open and share. and all expenses in the house is in give and take method. as couple, we have no problem discussions, if ever there is conflict, we talk it over and settle right away. mostly we are open minded to all circumstances and situations and laugh the problems. that's how we handle marriage life.