How do you control your temper?

It can be very hard at times I agree I got like that at times in my Job as a Manager but I had to learn to control it which was very hard at times People can drive you to the extend of blowing It was hard but I managed to control it by biting my tongue or lips lol and then when I got in the car I used to scream

hello lexirose! yes, i do believe it is possible to control your temper when you're in such a situation, if you really try and discipline yourself to reign in such temper. I have quite a temper myself, especially when i am working. I dislike being distracted and disturbed especially if i am meeting a deadline. It just ires me when people could get so callous that despite your pleadings to please not disturb you, they would still do it. I guess they just want to test how much i can hold on to my temper. And so i taught myself to be patient with people, especially during trying times. When i feel my temper rising, i then turn my thoughts to more pleasant thoughts to distract myself and would often count one to twenty, when there are really people who are persistent, before i open my mouth to answer their query or tell them anything at all. It pays to be patient, whether you're at the top or just going to the top.

It happens to everyone when the minds are exerted and hands are full. It is as though the small veins that control anger suddenly snap off which could create havoc to people around us. When the mind is uncontrolled, it behaves like a wild horse with no rider, racing madly in all directions. When you do not control your mind, it controls you. The only option for tired minds is to listen to soft music and it will rejuvenate by itself.

For many years I have practiced meditation on a daily basis and gradually the anger I used to experience quite intesensely from time to time, has almost gone now, as it takes a lot to get me angry. _Derek

I always try to be very slow to react to anything. Usually that helps me not do anything that i'll immediately regret. I would try to warn people that you get touchy when you are working hard and if they still bother you I think you should get mad!

I regularly be in such a similar situation,where i have a time deadline. Most of the time while travelling i am always late or on the nick of time. While leaving,trying to find or recall something which you know is very important,but you cant recollect it,and then there is a constant woodpecking from one of your friends or family to bring them a particular thing,or some other matter which is distracting you,while you are trying to concenterate,then that sudden outburst of anger is there which sometimes even surprises me,how could i have been so rude. To control such emotions is difficult i think, but that can be overcomed by stress related excersices,yoga,meditation.Which is not only beneficial to control those outbursts of emotions but also helps in keeping a healthy mind and body.

It is up to an extent. The problem is this, if this is who you are and are happy with it then it is who you are. You cant really help all of this you cant change who you are. I would just tell all my coworkers that I just need just be left alone during your busy work times.

sudden outburst of emotions do happen sometimes when you're overwhelmed with the situation. but i think there are ways to keep yourself from this happening by keeping your self level headed as much as possible. if you find yourself in a situation that suck you dry due to stress, then have a break and try to relax. stop what you're doing for a while and breathe for a moment to calm yourself. if the situation permits, have an ice cream..it works for me :-). if you don't like ice cream, have something you like that could take your mind off your stress for a while.

When you're under pressure, it's hard to keep your cool. I find that counting to ten slowly and releasing my breath the same way helps a great deal then I'd tell the person to please leave me alone till I have this work done because I'm under a deadline so I need to hurry. And if the person doesn't do as I asked then I'll have to be a bit more firm but yet cool. Some people need that firm attitude to show that you're not joking. If that doesn't work then it's time to blow my top! lol

I have too been to work and there are times when i am on an international call and the person next to me is enjoying his favorite music in loud volume.I got irritated and told him something.Because he was my senior he got angry and he told the information to all the other engineers.Then i decided to become calm and maintain a peaceful environment in my workplace. There are times when bad thoughts will come in my mind while working like judging people, then i try to focus on work and think or positive thoughts or else it would affect my work quality.I try to speak humbly to people so that we can never get into an argument or a fight.If your coworker comes to speak to you, you can kindly say i am busy or i will speak to you after work.If he is still troubling you, you can ignore him and continue in your work. If anger comes into me,i will boil for sometime but i will not think thoughts of revenge because after hurting someone it would make me feel sorry for the person.My concept is to Forgive and Forget.

I think it is rude for co-workers to bother you when you are working. It is possible to have control. Just be very cut and dry in how you act with them and perhaps they will understand. Be polite but tell them not to bother you in the future unless it is very important. Sometimes you have to be stern and straight forward.

I'm late here but I had to respond. Bad tempers run in my family. So does high blood pressure. To get work done, I like to work by myself. I used to be the most patient person in the world with no high blood pressure. Since I now have high blood pressure, I can't afford to have a bad temper. When I was teaching, I once had someone give me a sign that said, "Mathematician at Work". Maybe you can either get a sign that says "Genuis at Work" or make a sign and put it up so that all can see.

It happens when we are under pressure and suffering from too much stress. We become irritable and people bothering us is just like bees buzzing around our ears that we want to swat. But we can control this by not reacting immediately or we can meditate. Try to close our eyes only for a few minutes and then think of a calm water or anything that can help us relax. Imagine the cool breeze of the sea or the chirping of the bird. Even just for a few minutes this can help us calm our mind and our emotion too.

Hi lexirose! Sorry to hear u r soo busy! There are ways of controlling your emotions in such situations. One way would be: before you have an anger outburst or you say something, think about what u r goin to say. If it is appropriate say it, if not dont. You might just regret it later. I have regretted it alot of times! If u r goin to just say it without thinking, you might as well count till 10 in ur mind before u say something. That will give u time to calm down and unconsciously think about wht u were goin to burst out with. Hope this helps! All the best! :)

Hi Lexirose, I think if that is your working style, your colleagues will get used to it. Most of us are very tolerant in the matter of weird temper of our colleagues. Even when our bosses or colleagues bang tables in frustration, we take it as a matter of stress management. Most of us do not think evil of our colleagues. I think in the workplace, those who are good tempered get bullied. Those who are too kind, and cannot say no, are the ones who get all the tough work.

Hello lexirose..I understand that sometimes due to the problems, hectic schedule of the work, you were not in the good mood but there is cases that you are in a good mood. I remember that before, if my mens is coming all the people around me receive my anger even if they didn't do anything and didn't noticed that they felt hurt. That's why before my anger burst, I need to go the quite place because it really help me to cool down..You need to control your temper because we can't know the other people if they really mad.

i dont think so.me also want to control my emotion but i cannt.i feel so crazy that time.now a days i feel so angry with my roommate.she never understand me.but i know she care me a lot.sometimes i hate her when i feel so angry.i really want to control my anger.

Yes you can, why not dump a bucket of cold water over your head to cool yourself down. No, I was kidding with you. That is what my best friend always told me when I try to control my anger temper. Actually, you can try to think something positive and lower your emotion down by imagine some happier results. That might be helpful if you can try it out.

ooh. you must've freaked them out. haha;D yesterday, i had a bad day too, and i bet i made that clear to everyone who came to me and received my evil eye. hahaXD just joking. i'm not very good at controlling my anger or irritation so whenever it comes, i make sure that i let everyone i deal with know that if i ever give them a cold shoulder, it's just because of the bad day and not them. i often say, 'i'm sorry. i find the weather bad and i can't share the joke' or something like that. then they'd stop coming to/bothering me (they even stop trying to cheer me up), and i could get the peace i want. after the storm's over, i try to approach my cold-shoulder victims, say sorry, and explain why did it.

That bothers me too to be bothered when I'm in the middle of something because I'm afraid that I will forget what I was in the middle of thinking or doing. When I'm in a situation like that I usually tell the person with a nice voice and with a smile. I'm in the middle of something and I'm afraid that I'm going to forget what I'm in the middle of doing. Please come back in whatever time you think it will take. Thank you.