A question for all of us.

Excellent, fantastic discussion! I think it's a terrific reminder to us all that we shouldn't "sweat the small stuff" and that however bad we may think we have it, however sorry for ourselves we all may feel now and then, there are always people who have it far worse, those who will never get another chance to right a wrong or tell someone they loved them. I'm kind of the "laid back" member of my family according to the rest of my family; I don't always agree with that description because I DO get angry and frustrated from time to time, but I must say I try to be patient with people and I TRY not to say things in anger I may regret later. There have been a lot of people I know, some that I'm quite close to, who have had health problems and other difficulties that make my problems seem tiny. Because of that I think I've been more aware of my own actions and I've been more grateful for what I DO have and for the many good things in my life rather than constantly dwelling on the negative and what I don't or can't have. I'm not wealthy, in fact I've had some financial struggles in recent years; I had to have back surgery and I'm still not totally convinced it worked; I also have tons of other aches and pains and have to take several prescription medications every day. However, I'm NOT fighting a very tough and quite possibly losing battle with cancer and I don't have a five year old child with cancer. Both of those are things close friends of mine can't say. These days if a friend fails to return my call inst4ead of getting mad I worry that something terrible has happened then when I do talk to them I make sure to NOT act angry! Annie

Love & forgive; live & let live!~!~ To err is human, to forgive divine. Life is too short for all the minute & petty issues, we should not be stumbled by all these things. Let's practise what we've been reminded today - love in action!~ For that will speak volumes as talk is cheap but actions always speaks louder than words!~

Is important to be at peace with everyone ,and pretend that everyday is our last day in this planet.

I live like I am going to die anyway...if I am involved in something and my kids call...I am gone. If they need me....I am only a call away...for both friends and family. I say if I die tomorrow my work won't miss me...but my family will! Cherish every moment!

I would try to spend as much time with the friends i had abandoned like Christian and Michelle and tell them that I don't hate or have any ill feelings toward I just needed some space to think. But I'm done with space. I just want to talk to them because I know they were always there for me, there was just this one time where they couldn't be there for me and I was mad at them for that. But, life is short and instead of wasting every minute of being angry at a person, I should be wasting it laughing and having a good time. Thanks so much Pose 123, you really made me open eyes and see how many things I take for granted.

If i knew that i would die tomorrow, maybe i would do my best to spend it to the fullest. It's hard but there is no other way. Actually we can't be sure of what will happen to us at this very moment. I always thought to tell that i love them, i want to hug them, to do good things to others but it's only on my mind, i can't practice it in reality...

Those are some very good thoughts! And ones we should remember every day! How different we would live our lives!

This is a very real possibility. I try not to stay mad at people now because it is not worth it in the long run. You are the only one being hurt. A lot of times when I am mad at someone, I cool down for a couple of days and start looking at the situation that occurred and realize that it really was nothing. I usually try to contact the person and find out that they didn't even know I was mad at them. Now that I am facing chemo again for a cancer recurrence, I am more mindful of other people and try to be responsive to their needs. Thanks for bringing this up!

No i would not stay mad at my friend or fret over small things if i have a very short time.I would never want to die with anger in my heart.If i could then i would try and help everyone's problem before dying.Your question is really good one as we don't appreciate people in our life and get angry over small things but if we knew its our last day then we suddenly want to do good things.Why not behave like this when we are still alive, even now we don't know for sure whether we will die the next second.This discussion made me rethink how small life is to be wasted down in anger and fretting over small things.Thanks for raising this question. One should enjoy life and live in each moment.

Hi Pose, If I'm going to die tomorrow, I won't spend my last hours harboring anger because some friends didn't return my call, I would call them instead and say a few nice parting but lasting words to all of them. I would just pray that they remember the good things in me when I'm gone. I've been trying to shed a few ponds since last month and I must admit that it's not an easy task and sometimes I get frustrated, but if I know I'm about to die tomorrow, getting in shape would be futile, so I would treat myself instead to a hearty meal, try all the foods I've been desperately avoiding,and just enjoy and tell myself, don't feel guilty, it's your last day anyway. And if I forgot to buy something, I think I would welcome the idea of going back to that store maybe not only once, but more than once, coz again, it's going to be my last time to do that. Great discussion, Pose.

Well, I really don't want to die leaving everything in a mess.:) One day may not be enough to say all the things I want to say to those who became a part of my life and to do the things that I want and have to, I'll make the most of my time.:)

I guess i would say yes.When you are sick and dying, you become sensitive about a lot of things.Short to say, you want to be pampered and you want to feel that they love you and care for you.Of course, you would never want to feel neglected at that stage in your life. It is a fact of life that we tend to neglect our friends and family because of some other things that we think important in our lives.I think this is an eye opener for everybody. :)

Well i would probably love to spend the last day of my life with my family if i knew it beforehand. I live much away from my family and it nearly takes half a day to reach my home. So obviously i would like to spend those last moments with my family and my special friends.

your question got my attention, that's a real question, and a rich discussion if ever that i would know that i am about to die tomorrow, of course i wont waste my time being mad at anyone especially those who are dear to me,,, but then again i would not know when will i die and perhaps i don't want to die tomorrow either, but because of your question, what if we set our mind to that question... and use it as an outlet so that we wont get mad to everyone,,, but that maybe impossible to do... cheers.. thanks for topic,,, its very interesting i hope you get more responds.. please free to add me up

Well, it's easy to make peace with friends or family that had slighted you a little. Yes, definitely if I knew I'm living my last day on earth, I would go out of my way to make amends with those close to me. I've been asked this question before. And I'm confronted with it again. But until now, I still can't honestly say, even if I'm near my deathbed, that I'd be able to make peace with people who've wronged me the most. I mean, I'm thinking about those people I see and hear on the news wherein a loved one of theirs got raped and killed and I put myself in their shoes. I don't think that I could forgive them even if I know I'm gonna die the next day.

Very interesting question. And to me, that's exactly how we all should live. Live your life to the fullest, after all, you never know what tomorrow will bring. Then again, easier said than done. I guess that's part of everyday challenges - to avoid being complacent and don't let the everyday get in the way of living our lives to the fullest.

Really good discussion! I like to think of this very thing or something along these lines every morning when I wake up. To appreciate and love everything in the world, as it all has a meaning in my life to which I should show my graditude. Really giving into the flow of life breeds remarkable results in how you feel and thereby how you project yourself to the world. I absolutely appreciate every moment of my life regardless of what the circumstances are.

I would definitely not like to die with anger in my heart towards anyone. however since i just moved to a new town most people here i dont know except for my dad so lol. But yah I most defnitely agree. I miss so many peoplbehind at my old city, even people that I didnt seem to care that much for while living there i miss. We definitely take people in our life for granted. And you dont totally realize that til theyre gone...or your in a completely different place and wont get to see them again, or atleast for a long time.