How do you feel when there are always many people in your house?

This is one of the few disadvantages of big families. A big family is like a communist country where everyone should bear the burden of the mass. Even if someone is incapable, his burden will be shared by the rest. However, individual freedom is significantly curtailed in such big families. There usually is one head of the family and others have to ask for his or her permission at every step. You are expected to participate in every little incident in the family. If you're sick and there is a party going on in the house, you really can't do anything except enduring the bitter moments. The noise seems intolerable, the whole world seems insensible and cruel, but you really can't do anything about it as you're just a small part of the big family where majority will always win. In a big family you always get financial and mental support from other members, but you will have to give up privacy and independence for that.

I live with my parents and siblings and it is mostly open to my friends as well as theirs plus other relatives that visit most of the time so I have gotten used to having many people in the house. I sometimes feel strange when I find myself alone at home, but there are indeed times that being alone can be a blessing itself.

I love having a big family and even if I am working in the night shift, I still have find time to sleep in the morning even with so many people preparing for work in the working. It's hard sometimes for me to sleep but at least I can rest for 3-4 hours. I enjoy the company of the whole family since there are very rare times that the house is quite. Although I should say that having a quite time is really a nice feeling especially when you have enough of the noise and you really need peace from within. Good thing I can still find it in our house when the people are working and not at home.

I know exactly what you mean! I love having a lot of people around because it makes me more outgoing and I have a lot of fun with them, but there are times when it is too much. I'm kind of an introverted person by nature and I need my alone time. In college, my house was the hang out place, so I always had a lot of people over. There were times when I really wanted to lock the door and just have some privacy even though I loved these people with all my heart.

I wouldn't like to live in a house with many people,although it is good to be in their company,but certainly not all the time.Honestly,if I were in this situation I wouldn't feel comfortable at all,I would definitely be desperate for some privacy an the chance to spend some time with myself.I think it's very exhausting to be surrounded by people all the time.

Hi wildlittlefan, You should be thankful that the family gathers together. How sad it would be if you have a large family and none of them wants to visit each other. It is the member's part to show they remember you too. Can you imagine large families where none bother to visit each other during CNY? or small families where they have no one to relate to or celebrate festivities with? On the part of having silence, sure, we all need quiet moments. I am sure if you have done your part to say "Hi", "Bye" to your family members, they won't stop you from excusing yourself since there are others to entertain them. Consider a walk to the park (if it is safe) or back to your room and put the headphones on with some light music. Or if you really need silence, get a super duper pair of ear plugs. But in all honesty, do enjoy the fellowship of the family. I am asian, so I can understand how you feel, but not necessary think that you should feel tired because of this. Cheer up, OK? and Happy New Year...Gong Hei Gong Hei....Fatt Tai Choy.

I am n0t comfortable ar0und a lot of people in public places. Well dfinitely especially at h0me i think i do not want to have a lot of strangers at h0me because i wouldnt know if i can get a rest. Haha

yah i know what you feel. i belong to a big family too and we're too noisy when we gather together. our fun time is when we sing and dance together at home during weekends.there are times that i became conscious of the noise we made. we were just that lucky since our neighbors just don't over react. my father is fond of making blasts of his sound system and it's like there's always a festive activity at home.now that i am married, i prefer to have a solemn environment which me, my husband and son share. i feel like i need to break the cycle.

I feel uneasy in company of a large group of people, especially people around me are strangers. It always makes me feel anxious and have no feeling of doing anything. I just want to escape from the crowd and stay in a quiet place all by myself. Perhaps I'm not a sociable type. Sometimes I worry that others may get bored at me and don't want to be with me, since sociable people have greater chances of being liked by others and silent type are easy to be repelled. So I often have to force myself to get involved in a crowd.

I think I know just what you mean and how you feel. I can't seem to get any time to myself. Someone is always here or calling or just needing something. Even when I say these hours, leave me alone. Works for a week then everyone is in a state of flux and needs my assistance. Then it's time to watch the grandkids, and can't even use the bathroom by myself. As much as it sometimes gets me down, I know there will come a day when I will be wishing for someone to visit me. So I try to enjoy it while I have it.

We are not big family here. But there are always visitors coming from the province which is our relatives there and want to stay for while waiting to finished their appointment or leaving the country... I appreciate them but sometimes not. Because I always burden with expenses which is not included in the budget...

Well, there are times that I wish that my husband and myself had some friends that would come to visit our house. However, for the most part I really do like having my privacy. It is good for us to have our own place in this world after having lived with my mother and siblings for many years. When it comes to my daughter's friends always coming in and out of my house, that is something that drives me absolutely batty at times.

It really depends on the type of people... I used to live in my grandparents house and I shared a room with my other cousins. But we really don't meddle with each others personal businesses or private matters, so there's still privacy. In terms of noise, it's really about being sensitive. Since we lived in our grandparents house it was quite most of the times or peaceful. Only if we have family gathering that the whole atmosphere changes.

I am introvert.Usually I like reading and playing musical instrument in my room.If there are many people in my room,tell the truth,I desire that they leave my room early.However Taking politeness into consideration I cann't do so.

Hi Wild I don't have a house full of people so I really can't relate to what your going through but I could at one times it used to be that way for me when the kids were younger and when they had friends over running around making noise the kids are grown up now and its pretty quite around here and my husband and I really like the peace and quiet

hello wildlittlefan! i don't like it when there are many people in the house. Even during celebrations, although i find time to mix with visitors and family, i am always the first one to retire to the sanctuary of my own room, at the soonest possible chance. I don't know, but i grew up avoiding such big gatherings. My head hurts when there's so much noise, i don't like the sound of so many chatterings and laughing and i just don't like to mingle with people. Best of all, i like my house to be peaceful and quiet, not a haven of buzzing activities. My immediate family told me that i should try to mingle and i really tried, but i find no joy in it and it always leave me feeling drained and weak afterward. I would rather stay in my room, reading or browsing the net than mingling with them.

I don't care for a lot of company. The continued conversation wears me down pretty quickly. I'd far prefer my own company for much of the time. I guess that it all comes down to being different!

I like going to my parents house every now and then. There, they are many because aside from my parents my two sisters , one widowed and the other separated together with their big kids now, live there. I feel happy whenever i go there for a short visit. But as to living in a house with lots of people, no i don't like it. I am already used to our house where we are only 5 members. My husband, my parents in-law and my brother -in-law who comes home on saturdays and back to a far city to work on Sundays. Our daughter comes home during school vacation only. I am used to just being us at the house and i like it.

If there are celebrations like New Year, Christmas, etc., I would love to have many people in my house. But on ordinary days, I feel don't want them around. The presence of too many people makes me feel irritated.

sometimes it crossed my mind to try to live alone, just like everyone else. i would always want that silence and peace each time i go home. learn to be independent and learn things that i ought to know like cooking among others. to have the privacy and the freedom and the confidence you'll learn when you know you were able to make it through. off course, once in a while get to see my family, some relatives and friends.