Is Valentine's Day a big deal for you?
By allamgirl
@allamgirl (2140)
Philippines
February 4, 2011 7:56pm CST
I've never really liked Valentine's Day. My best friend teases me that it's just me being bitter that I don't have a boyfriend to celebrate it with. But this year, I have a boyfriend and I still don't want to make a big deal out of it. I think my boyfriend actually thinks about it, but I don't really care so much about that day, although I'm a self-confessed romantic. I just don't see why all the couples have to go out on this certain day, give and receive flowers and chocolates on that day. So, what about you? What are your views on this day?
19 responses
@Fishy0109 (140)
• China
7 Feb 11
As for now I don't have a boyfriend so it means nothing to me.I don't really like it because there's nothing for me to celebrate.There's no need to celebrate it.But,sometimes,I just hang out with my friends.Or simply stay at home do what I want.
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
That's what I feel too. The first Valentine's that I had a boyfriend, it's quite lucky that we feel the same way about Valentine's. That it's just a silly and cheesy day. But my current boyfriend actually likes Valentine's day. We'd come up with a compromise though. Since I don't like going out at the actual day because of the crowd, we'd just stay in my house, maybe watch a movie and cook our dinner, or just bring some take-out food. I work until late Sunday night, so that would bring us to early Monday morning, which is February 14th.
@Fishy0109 (140)
• China
10 Feb 11
That's great to stay at home watching movie or something.I think cooking together is quite romantic.Wish you a happy Valentine's Day!And happy forever!:)
@DarthJustice (2014)
• United States
5 Feb 11
I can't say that Valentine's Day is really that big a deal for me. Then again, the fact I'm single probably has a lot to do with that fact though lol. But no, it's not. I mean, it's not like I do anything different on that particular day than I do any other day.
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Maybe you're right. Just kidding. I agree with you. For me, Valentine's day is just like any other day to me. I mean you can go out with your significant other any day. It doesn't have to be February 14.
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Maybe you're right. Just kidding. I agree with you. For me, Valentine's day is just like any other day to me. I mean you can go out with your significant other any day. It doesn't have to be February 14.
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
7 Feb 11
I don't think Valentine's Day is that big of a deal. My girlfriend always said that the holiday was created by Hallmark and that if you didn't know you loved a person February 14 would help you know it. That's true.
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
That's what I say too. My boyfriend asked me why I don't think it's a big deal and I said 'cause it's silly and so cheesy. I don't get why everyone has to go out on that day. I even told him that. That it's a holiday created by Hallmark to sell greeting cards, and he just laughed me off. :)
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
5 Feb 11
Valentine's day, you know i had this entire rant and its the same rant I tend to do in real life, but I think that I toned it down just a little bit. I just really think that Valentine's day is one of those holiday's that has been blown up to be a bit too serious and has made people a bit too greedy. Which is the ultimate irony considering that this holiday is supposed to celebrate love and affection and all that gooey mushy stuff.
Really I think that it has lead to a lot of greed, because people tend to expect something from their significant other. If they do not get it, well let's just say that more often or not they're in the dog house. And that doghouse contains pitbulls, rottweilers, and dobermans. It is really a twisted holiday. Still I don't begrudge anyone who wants to celebrate it, but I will not ever celebrate the holiday of Valentine's day.
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
I totally agree with you. My best friend hates that I always rant about Valentine's day. When I told him that I have a boyfriend right now. She told me that maybe that would finally change my mind about that day. I told her I'd still think that way even if I have a boyfriend. I told her that I even told my boyfriend that I'm sort of an anti-Valentine's day girl. I think I'm starting to get that thought into his head. Haha.
I know. This other guy commented on me that it's a good day for saying "I love you". I told him I do not agree with him. Like if a guy tells me he loves me for the first time on that day, I would totally think that the pressure of that day is just getting to him. I know most girls would find it romantic, but I guess I'm kind of a cynic.
@LeighB (700)
• Thailand
5 Feb 11
The past 2 years I have held Valentine Parties and they have been a great success. The people who came, either with their partner or alone, all joined in the fun and the spirit of the occassion. A theme was never set, but people would turn up in red and pink clothing. I would sell red roses - real and silk ones, the choice was up to the purchaser - to any one who wanted to buy them and all the money went to charity, again, this was a big success.
However, this year it will be a very different kind of night, being half way around the World from my partner and now living in a different culture, Valentines Day for me this year will just pass by except for a phone call to my partner to say, "Hi."
The culture where I now live is too fast to even think about bringing happiness to others and it seems to be all me, me, me. And here, Valentines Day, is something between just 2 people excluding the rest of the World and an excuss for another night of getting drunk down the pub.
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
So i guess Valentine's day is kind of a big deal to you. It's nice that you donate your proceeds to charity. You actually seem sad about your Valentine's day this year. I hope you cheer up soon! :)
@asyria51 (2861)
• United States
5 Feb 11
my husband and i do not make a big deal out of it. We have been married for 7 years, and we focus our money on our anniversary, to be able to get out of the house see a movie and have a date night. My friend called it singles awareness day for eons. I wonder if he still does now that he is married?
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Haha. Singles Awareness Day, that's funny! My married friend says the same thing. Although with her, she says they're both busy on work, their house and their kid. Hmmm, I wonder if your anniversary falls near Valentine's Day?
My boyfriend and I would be celebrating our first month together a week after Valentine's so he asked me if I would be willing to pool it into one celebration. Well, I don't really care about Valentine's Day, so it was very fine with me. He's the one who actually likes Valentine's Day. I guess I already influenced him on my negativity on that day. :)
@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
5 Feb 11
I find the whole thing silly and commercialized. It will be a big day for flower shops, restaurants, sweet shops and motels because they will be overrun by couples wanting to celebrate the day. I will be at work on that day, so my boyfriend and I plan to celebrate on another day. You can make everyday Valentines day without having to go with everyone else.
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
13 Feb 11
My thoughts exactly! You can do all that in a different day, it doesn't have to be February 14. I'd be working that day too, I just don't feel the need to file a leave for that day.
@lhenpaule (495)
• Philippines
5 Feb 11
oh! it's sad that you just see this wonderful lovely day in such a narrow context. You can have a meaningful one even WITHOUT a boyfriend or girlfriend. For sure you have your family who awaits a special show-off of you love for them on this day, even in the most simple things.
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
13 Feb 11
I guess people have given it a narrow definition these days. I just really don't like making this day a big deal.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
5 Feb 11
I've never been big on Valentine's Day. I agree with you, I don't think people should need an excuse to buy their partners gifts and shower them in love. LOL. But then again I am single for the second year in a row on Valentine's Day (unless my love life picks up..soon) so of course I'm going to be a little cynical. But it definitely seems like a Hallmark Holiday if you ask me, all about getting us to spend our money.
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Yeah, it's just a Hallmark holiday. My best friend told me that maybe I would change my mind because I have a boyfriend this year. I told her that that didn't change my mind before. Although this year my boyfriend likes Valentine's day. But I guess my cynical nature influenced him. Hehe.
@dreamnishu (1247)
• China
5 Feb 11
yes my dear friend it is a very important day for everyone.it is not only for couple also for everyone who loves any one in this lovely world.i love my mother so much so on this day i want to show how much i love her.not for one day i love her every single sec of my life but in this special day i can show her that.that is why it is special for me.
thank you so much.
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
13 Feb 11
Yeah, it's okay with me if other people loves it. But I don't like making a big deal out of it myself. Like some of my office mates even go on leave for this day.
@vangie26 (445)
• Philippines
5 Feb 11
For those who are madly in love, yes it matters haha. But will it be a big deal? No. There are some countries wherein valentine's day are not actually being celebrated...so it's okay if it will not be celebrated. But of course, receiving flowers from the one you love will be sweet :-)
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
13 Feb 11
I agree, receiving flowers are sweet. Although it makes me feel a bit awkward as well. I don't know, I guess it's because I easily get embarrassed. When I walk around with flowers, it makes me feel like people are looking at me.
@Meryembay (70)
• Turkey
5 Feb 11
No, Valentine's day has never been special to me even though I do have a very loving and wonderful husband of twelve years already. In my humble opinion it is just another commercially enhanced day to ensure people spend their hard earned money on useless trinkets.
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
13 Feb 11
Exactly. Plus, all the good places are crowded with people who shows to much public displays of affection.
@gelooo5 (113)
• Philippines
5 Feb 11
I think Valentine's Day would be special for both couples and singles alike. For couples it would be a day of expressing their love and care as partners. For singles I think it would be a day of going out with their also single friends and just have fun! =D
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
13 Feb 11
I guess so. Although I have never really liked this occasion that much.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
5 Feb 11
I love Valentines day...it's another excuse to send a little gift of love to my family and show a few coworkers some kindness...I am making cupcakes to take to work for those who might not get anything for Valentines day...personally I don't care if I get anything....I love the giving!
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
5 Feb 11
That's good. It's just that everyone is filled up with cheesiness during Valentine's day. It's good that you don't just celebrate the romantic kind of love. Have a good day!
@reneezoso (392)
• India
5 Feb 11
well .. to be honest.. people just wanted a day to celebrate certain special things in life..for example ..14 novemeber children day then we have mom day ..and father day.. and then people thought why not make a day for couples.. and henceforth, The birth of Valentine Day .. just making a day special doesnt mean u have to do all those pricelses rituals..when you are in Love, Every single day spent is worth it and lively.. and Valentine day doesnt quite makes a difference..
@dreamsharmin (2281)
• China
5 Feb 11
yes it's a big deal for me. I think all people should celebrate this day. This day not only for couples or love birds. I believe this day for love. And love exist in every relationship. So we all should celebrate it. All day in a year we are busy so this day we should spend with our love one. It could be your family also. So i celebrate it.
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
I think it's much sweeter if a person decides to spend some time off on a random day. It's better because it's a surprise. Plus, you know, that that person genuinely wants to spend some time with you because he or she wants to, not because of the cheesiness of Valentine's Day. But then again, maybe that's just me. :)
@devijay78 (1573)
• India
5 Feb 11
Hi. I guess it is just one more day to be extra sentimental and shower your loved ones with gifts they would love to receive. But honestly speaking, I don't care about that much either. Nor does my husband. We do go out on ordinary days or on special ones like his birthday or mine or our wedding day. So those days are much more special to us than these days.
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
I agree with you. Anniversaries and birthday are much more important than some generic love holiday. :)
@Marmot (590)
• United States
5 Feb 11
I treat Valentine's Day very seriously this year because I just find the one I love. She is the first girl I fell in love and I want to remain this relationship forever. I want to make her happy everyday especially Valentine's Day. I have already begun to make plan for that day. I want to make sure that she will never forget this day in her life~~