Cyber friends vs Reality friends..
By msvice
@msvice (34)
Canada
February 6, 2011 12:46am CST
Do you talk to more people online than you do to your friends in real life? If so why are we so fascinated with talking to txt coming from a different side of the world? Is it just a knew way to be able to truly let loose on what you may be thinking? Or maybe you've discovered another person who shares the same interests and beliefs as you do. Have you ever been so deep into a friendship online you develop feelings for them? Or have you created a cyber romance only to realize they are far from what they made themselves out to be? I think maybe we should get out more and the internet shouldnt be 24 hours and should have a cut off at 11pm lights out;)
What do you think????
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8 responses
@VioletB2 (1)
•
6 Feb 11
i think that, what it really is...is that we are bored, i mean you don't do as much activities anymore. the funny thing is that there are people who will get mad and ignore you just because you didnt reply to a message on a blog site. Sometimes me myself i just have to get away from it all. i don't even check my email for a few days. You just have to remember that reality is what you can feel, touch and smell:)
For those who fall inlove with someone online and never met them...come on...is it such a lonely world that you can't meet someone in the the same city...i think thats a whole lod bolocks. take up an activity, go to the gym, don't be afraid to spark up a conversation with a stranger at the supermarket and look people in the eye and smile...
@msvice (34)
• Canada
6 Feb 11
You totally hit it right on point. I 100% agree with everything that you said. We are bored. But possibly because society has given us these options to be bored. Its like a child who get everything bought for him in the world but instead of playing with these toys he decides to find other means to entertain himself (maybe colouring the walls, or acting something for a reaction) Back in the day there was nothing! No technology (maybe a radio, and eventually a tv with 1 channel that came on at a certain time) SO the children knew nothing else other than to entertain themselves. THey were also more active back then too obviously!! So maybe if these sorts of technology were taken away it wouldnt give us the excuse to be bored and lazy any more.. Maybe its out of pure laziness.. Everything is so accessible.. people truly take it for granite..
@celeste2224 (160)
• Philippines
6 Feb 11
There are times in my life when Id rather stay at home and just talk with my cyber friends, and there are also times when I just wanna see my reality friends, I guess for me it depends on the mood, but what's good about it is that I get to keep both worlds! Enjoy mylotting!
@msvice (34)
• Canada
6 Feb 11
Yes I think its a good balance if you can keep both worlds. In a healthy dosage for the cyber world though! Cyber world can be fun its almost like you are escaping into a book or a movie.. Its real but you kind of have to leave everything up to the imagination.. However there is skype and countless photo galleries lol so maybe you dont have to leave much up to the imagination..
@dreamsharmin (2281)
• China
6 Feb 11
Well i talk the friends in real life. Because i know them more then i know friend in online. And i trust them a lot. That's why i talked with my real life who also share my sad matter or others. I also talk online friend but not too much and i don't believe in online love as i saw my friend to got them hurt from it.
@msvice (34)
• Canada
6 Feb 11
Its very tricky to try to get to know someone online and to try to build a relationship with them because lets face it you could be talking to someone that may not be the photo you sent them. I think its best to the old fashion way and thats to just go out and meet people!!!
@RamRes (1723)
• Argentina
8 Feb 11
For me it's easier to talk with someone on the chat rather than on the real life, I'm so shy to keep friends over time and I use a lot the MSN and Skype to get connected with people. It's a diferent thing, but both are important but I feel better when I met someone personaly rather than just online.
I like the online friends the same and get involved as much as with real life friends but with online there is always a goal of a personal face to face meeting. And after that, the relationship becomes a normal one, in the real life. But the MSN has already done its job of facilitating the meeting.
@GoldenAsh (290)
• United States
6 Feb 11
Hello msvice, I really like this discussion of yours. But you have asked so many fun questions looks like it will take me along time before I start responding to the other discussion (opened in the other tab). Yes I had a romantic crush on someone I was chating with, once. I do not blame anyone I was just 15 years old. Boy oh boy could not stop thinking about him for the next two months. Now I laugh at those feelings someyimes and when I look at my son I feel he might get into these "cyber crushes " in his teens. Yes I also think that internet should be limited to less than 24 hours, we should be realistic about our lives and should not trust online friends blindly.
@alexrules01 (24)
• Australia
6 Feb 11
I use to talk to people online who i have never met, but things happen, you or they might say something and it rubs off the wrong way, as you can't express emotion throught text.
I talked to this girl who I had never met, but she did live pretty close to where I was, and she seemed nice, but then she started saying real weird things and i felt it was time to move on.
I do talk to people online more than in real life, but i only usually talk to my friends who I know, or friends of friends who i know are who they say they are.
@msvice (34)
• Canada
6 Feb 11
Right that would make sense seeing that I can relate through using facebook or email. When I was younger I had a myspace account and probably 99% of people were people I didnt know. I guess it was fun because you could do or say anything and just be yourself. The girl you were talking to was probably a guy :D Its a good thing you ended communication your gut was telling you otherwise!
@dreamnishu (1247)
• China
6 Feb 11
hello friend!
i do not have so many friend in online i just like to make friendship in my real life.and i have feelings for my online friend but not like real friends.i like to make friend in real life.one of my friend fall in love with her online friend but her relation not go so long.online relation is not real most of the time.thats why i always believe in real life friends and relation.
thanks a lot.
@brianneleary19 (76)
• United States
6 Feb 11
For me, it's a lot easier to make friends online rather than real life because I'm incredibly shy. Well, actually...it's still kinda hard to make friends online, because I still fear rejection either way I guess. But anyway, when I was younger, I believe I had way more online friends...I guess I was a little more naive then and didn't really care how I came off to people. Either way I was still cautious to stay away from people that seemed a bit too creepy or potentially dangerous.
As for cyber romances...long story short, they are not for me, and I doubt I will ever pursue one ever again. I have a "irl" boyfriend now anyway. :)
