We had fun
By dorannmwin
@dorannmwin (36392)
United States
February 6, 2011 1:27am CST
So, earlier in the week I posted my apprehensions about rebuilding a friendship with a friend of mine from when I was a very young adult because of the fact that her brother was my first boyfriend. Well, today I took my husband and my son to meet Angie. I really couldn't call her ahead because she'd run out of minutes on her phone, but when we talked yesterday she knew I was coming down kids or not.
She had her three kids there and her boyfriend's two kids. We ended up having to take Paul with us because our babysitter fell through. We stayed for about three hours and caught up on the people that I used to know and about how our lives have been for the last eight years.
Paul didn't want to leave. He was so disappointed when I made him come home that when we got back onto the main road from our house, he asked us to cancel going to Nana's house tomorrow for Superbowl Dinner and to take him back to Angie's house so he could spend the night. We didn't do that, but he left her house with the promise that either next weekend or the following weekend he will be allowed to spend the night with them.
I really do believe that the people that said we could grow to be like a family in the other discussion could be right. After this evening I realize that the friendship that we had back then still thrives, and I really have no apprehension any more about the time when I know that I will run into Donnie.
So, I'd love to hear stories that you all might have to share about getting together with friends after not seeing them for several years.
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@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
7 Feb 11
I have tried several times to reconnect with old friends and it just hasn't worked. They have either grown in different directions, or have different interests. While they are friendly and say "hi!" The friendship is never what it was. Congratulations on being able to retain such a good friendship...like good jobs, good friends are hard to find.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Feb 11
I really did think that the relationship that we would have now after so many years would be very different from what we had in the past. However, I was surprised to see that it seems like our friendship will be able to pick back up right where it left off.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Feb 11
hi dorannmwin I have just reconnected with my childhood best friend vias in the internet as she is back in South Dakota and I am here in Garden grove California. she found me through my son's webpage
and got my email addy. we really have missed each other and its
been so much fun answering her emails and she often sends me
really interesting articles. I and she have changed a lot but we
ae still friends anyway she is dyed in the wool republicam
while I changed to a democrat. but we both do believe in God
and I just steer clear of arguing politics with anyone. It
gets too heated with most people
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Feb 11
You are right about steering clear of arguing politics with anyone. The only ground that would be best for the two of us to steer clear of is her brother, Donnie. However, since I've talked to him on conference call last week, that really isn't forbidden ground for us either.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
6 Feb 11
I have not gotten togeather with any old friends IRL. I don't know how it'll go and I'm one for putting my foot in my mouth and mentioning perhaps the reason(s) why we've stopped talking. Usually it's someone lying about one thing or another or being used. So honestly unless I get super close with someone again I would consider just contact thru FB being enough.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Feb 11
With some of the people that I was friends with in the past, I would agree that would have to be the way that things would go. However, in this situation it was different because it was sort of more like a mutual parting of ways. She was and still is fiercely loyal to her brother and it was when we broke up that Angie and I quit talking. However, time is one of those things that can heal that kind of wound and I know that I'm healed which was why I thought it would be okay to get together again.
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
6 Feb 11
I am so glad that things worked out for you. I know how you felt in the beginning. I have an old boyfriend who was abusive towards me and I hope to never see him again.
I have a friend who I went to Elementary school with and now we live in different states. She is in New Jersey and I am in Idaho. I had emailed her six months before my wedding to tell her I was getting married and she was so excited. She told me that she would have loved to come to the wedding, but could not afford to. Well, as it got closer to the wedding she had the funds to come, but still told me should did not. What she had done was book the tickets after I told her and she had surprised me. My fiance (now husband), my parents, my aunt, and my brother went out to dinner and out of the blue my cell phone rang. It was my childhood best friend calling to tell me that she was coming out and needed a ride from the airport to the house. My husband and I went to pick her up. I was so excited. It was great seeing her and I could not have asked for a better wedding present.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Feb 11
Well, I didn't see the ex-boyfriend. I do know, however that if I keep spending time with Angie that I will see her brother eventually. However, after spending the evening with Angie and her children, I don't feel as much apprehension of seeing and meeting her brother again. I really do believe that we can all be friends.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
6 Feb 11
Nice that you had a good time. My high school friends and I do get together 2 -3 times a year. Most of them do not live in Illinois any longer so we have to carefully plan.
It is such a great feeling to get together and talk about the past, but mostly getting together creating yet more memories for future to come is more important.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Feb 11
You are right about making new memories for the future. My best friend from when I was in high school is my son's godmother. She and her family have moved to Texas and last year her parents sold their house and moved to Missouri so I don't get to see them often at all. However, I always know when we get together that we will make new memories and the children will all have a blast playing together.
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
6 Feb 11
Yes it is fun and exciting, when you meet some body after several years. While we were travelling to Tirupati by train, I saw some body in our reserved train compartment, while going toilet, I thought she was my classmate Dipti, whom I last saw 40 years ago. Just then, she said, 'hey are you kalyani'?, almost simultaneously i said, are you Dipti?
We hugged each other and kept gossiping the entire night.
kalyani
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Feb 11
I think that the random encounters are even neater than the planned encounters with people that we knew in our past. I had something similar happen when I was grocery shopping one Monday night last year. It was neat to get to catch up with Kelli.
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
21 Feb 11
Glad that this was able to work out for you, and that you live close enough to where you can still be friends, and do stuff together. I live too far from any of my childhood friends, but did go see one of my friends from High School like 6 yrs. ago. It was OK but I think now we lead quite seperate lives. But I have been invited to my Class reunion this summer, and gotten back in contact with Childhood friends I have not seen in a long time via Facebook who I might find time to go see if I can afford to make it to my class reunion, and then share my stories from there.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
22 Feb 11
I do consider myself to be lucky that I still live in the same area that I grew up in. There are a lot of people that I was very close to when I was a teenager that have moved far away from home. However, there are others that are still close by home that I think that having a friendship with again is a possiblity.
@kykidd (6812)
• United States
6 Feb 11
I remember about 15 years ago getting together with my lifelong friend. We hadn't seen each other since about a year after high school, and by that time we were both about 26. She really needed me, as her husband had gotten killed in a coal mining accident. I went to her house, and we became friends again, just like we were before she got married.
We remained friends all through the years, until recently. She started dating a guy about a year and a half ago, and then in April of last year, she remarried. Now, she never returns my calls, although she does send cards for all the holidays, even the odd ball ones that people never think about.
I am glad that I could be there for her when she needed me, although it really hurts that when she is in a serious relationship, I am no longer important to her.
I am sure the next time she calls, it will be just like we were never apart.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Feb 11
You are probably right that the next time that you talk on the phone it will be like you were never apart. My mother always used to tell me when I was a younger girl that one of the signs of a true friend is that when you get together again after a long time apart, it is like not a day has passed since the last time that you'd talked.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Feb 11
that is so cool. it would be so nice i imagine, having a friendship that lasts your whole life like that. and the kids to.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
8 Feb 11
I really like the fact that the children do get along. In the long run, I really think that makes for an even better "new" friendship. I look forward to watching our relationship grow.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
10 Feb 11
Maybe it's just me. That think I could never get back to the friendship we had once, before the relationship.
A few years ago, I came into contact with some college friends. And with one link to another, I came into contact with an ex. We were friendly and civil at the time, but after some time, after we remembered the bad things that happened, I couldn't go on with the friendship.
Maybe I'm just riddled with guilt as I was the one who ended the relationship.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Feb 11
What is funny is that with Ang and I, we were able to pretty much pick up right where we'd left off. My mother always told me when I was younger that a true friendship is one where you can go months or years without talking to the other person but when you are back in contact with them, it is like not a second has passed since the last time that you were together. I didn't realize it before, but I do now that our friendship is one of those friendships that is supposed to endure.
